we have been together for 15 years split for 2 i dont no why but we got back in october.i am so im told a very kind person.he has always been mean to me but i like a badeni feel so hurt again.should i be ready to move on?will someone help me? i no only i can give the answer.but some help to realy decide would be good thanks jo
2007-03-21 06:18:26 · 33 answers · asked by smokeyjo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you cannot trust him, then kick him to the curb. He's obviously already hiding this woman from you. Do you want to live with constantly feeling you have to check up on him to see what he's doing? Been there, done that, and it totally sucks. And the thing is, you check, and you find something new, and you let that go, then the next thing happens and you let that go, and YOU end up miserable. I'd text him that I'm sick of HIM texting what's her face...and I'd end it with....
I h8 you, Loser....you can remove your stuff from my home again 2day!
2007-03-21 06:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You got 5years more than me. Honey after 15yrs and he has not changed chances are he never will. Their is one man that can change him and until he is ready for it. You will feel like a penny with a whole in it. We all can sit here and tell you that you are crazy for letting him do this,or we all can tell you to leave him; because you deserve better. But we all know that you are going to do what you think is right for you, and until you really get sick and tired of being sick and tired you will stay.
So what I am telling you is to stay and get tired to the point that you can't stand to be in the same room with him. Get tired to the point that you know that you can live without him.
What I am telling you is not easy at all you will cry for at least a year or two off and on. They will be things that make you think of him,but you will bounce back I promise. I just found a new love after 3 years, and I never thought I could love another. Mr.Right is out there so don't settle for Mr. Right NOW!!
Find peace within yourself and all that you do!!!
2007-03-21 06:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong on so many levels and he should not be doing this. After fifteen years together, he should have some respect for your feelings. You need to give him an ultimatum, her or you. Was he seeing her when you split up? If not then it is weird that he is texting her now. You need to let him know you will not stand for this or he will continue doing this. He is keeping one foot in the past and you two cannot move on if he is in touch with her. Put your foot down, he stops or he can leave. You deserve much better treatment than that after this length of time. Be strong honey and good luck. x
2007-03-21 06:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got some great advice for this situation. Please go to my profile, check out the answers to my question, "I'm leaving my husband, why is it so hard?" He's hiding this from you, obviously, and that's sooooo wrong. My ex did NOT want to give up being in contact with his ex, after I gave up mine years before that out of respect for his wishes. In the end? I found credit card bills to fancy restaurants (not with me) and phone calls to her, and there were nights he didn't come home and hid his underwear in the morning when he did finally come home. Trust me, you will be VERY suspicious and find yourself looking into everything. NO WAY TO LIVE! I'm free and happy now. You deserve more than that. I would talk to him and ask him what's going on? If he tells you, I don't know what you're talking about, or that she texts him and he just replies.......LEAVE HIM! You need honesty and trust. If he admits it, then ask him to stop because it bothers you. You or her....just keep your eyes open for the future. If he hid it from you once, he'll hide it again. Good Luck.!!
2007-03-21 07:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by hellomyfriend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you've been sneaking a look at his phone and seeing the texts so it's difficult to confront him without him being annoyed that you've been spying. I'd ask in a casual way if he's heard how his ex is doing - if he says that he doesn't know, then you know he's lying and there may be something he's hiding. He may, however, say that she texts him from time to time in which case he's being open to you.
I think life is too short to commit yourself to someone who cheats and lies - remember, there's 60 million people in the UK, half of them are men, so that's 30 million. Take out pensioners and babies, say half again - 15 million. Now take out alcoholics, married men, nutcases and you're probably still leftl with about ten million ELIGIBLE men. And out of that, surely there's some decent honest kind men out there, probably a couple of million or so. See the odds? So if your current boyfriend turns out to be a rotter, then he's just one bad apple in the pile, there's a few million out there who aren't. So why stick with him?
2007-03-21 06:30:18 · answer #5 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU deserve soooo much better than that! He is totally disrespecting you by texting and having this hang on relationship with his ex! Men do NOT talk to women if they r NOT interested in a relationship! Tell him exactly how u feel and if he loves u he will know this hurts you and he will stop doing this! If he continues to do it- give him the boot! You deserve someone who will love u and respect your feelings! I know its tough to let go of a relationship- I would HATE being alone! Just not good at being alone at all! BUT Id rather be alone than be with a man who treated me with such dis respect! Good luck to u
2007-03-21 06:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to have a man that continues to be mean, insensitive and text his ex whenever he feels, then I would say to move on. What is too bad is that you already knew he was not very nice to you and you made an effort to move on, and now you find yourself back in the same boat with him. Hope this time you learned what a jerk he is.
2007-03-21 06:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you like bad boys but I don't think you are enjoying this one. You can probably see that getting back together again was a mistake. Don't leave it any longer. Get out and make a life for yourself away from this guy..you did it before so go for it.. there are lots of good, decent guys out there who can and do commit to one person for the whole of their lives. Make it happen for you. Good luck.
2007-03-21 11:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by irisheyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry i didn't get it either? If he is mean leave him and if hes txting his ex and cheating even more reason to leave or chuck him out if that's what you are saying?? Find a nice man there are plenty out there i had given up hope but i have a great 1 now i hope you can sort this out and be happy.
2007-03-21 08:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone asked a similar question only they were about to get married. My answer is basically the same. Confront and then its up to him to prove you can trust him again.
So sorry about this. Its so sad to think someone's been trustworthy when they haven't.
Best of luck, however you decide.
2007-03-21 06:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋