How do I become an extrovert?

Question

I am a complete introvert....please tell me how i can become an extrovert....

Answer 1

I'll add my voice to the 2 others who say to practice. Practicing with adults is sometimes a good bet, because amny adults are flattered that a youg person would be interested in them. And adults have more mature values, and aren't as impressed by a cool come-on, or conversely, as denigrating toward someone who's a bit socially clumsy.
___But even with kids your own age, you don't have a lot to lose, and there's no way to get the practice without taking risks. Talk to store clerks, receptionists, and others you run into in your life. After a while, it won't be all about YOU, but you'll learn that most people are reasonably friendly, and are glad for some human contact. And the ones who aren't will stand out as grumps. With practice, you'll be someone able to talk to most people, and your attention will be focussed on the differences between others, not on your own difference.
___Don't go running up to people on the street, but when you find yourself sharing some sort of situation with someone, and he or she is displaying an attitude toward the situation like your own, a comment is often well received. It often doesn't go any further than that, but if you pay attention to the feelings the other person shows, then you'll be better able to judge if the conversation can go further.
___One of the biggest impediments to becoming more extroverted is being wrapped up in your own feelings (nervousness, etc.), but extroverts know that the other person often has similar feelings, or other feelings of vulnerability and a general desire for human contact. You may feel that others don't care to talk to you, but your self-absorbtion can blind you to situations where you're expected to be friendly to others, and your holding back hurts their feelings.
___I'm not trying to give you a hard time, but to make the point that paying more attention to others' feelings than to one's own is often a way to make them feel more at ease and worthy, and that is the key to being a successful extrovert.

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being an introvert so you might be diasappointed trying to change who you are and never become truly happy after all. Being different doesn't mean there is something wrong with you.The best you may want to consider though is striking a balance between intro and extroversion so that you don't go to both extremes. How? Hang out more with people who are what you are not. Best wishes.

Answer 3

The trick is to find a balance between the two -

Take my advice and don't become a COMPLETE extrovert either... nobody likes an attention-w****.

Just start small and be brave... take the first steps with your friends that you are comfortable with... call them instead of waiting for them to call you.

Be honest because a lie will surely make you retreat inside yourself... but if people have an accurate idea of who you are, it will be much more comfortable for you to talk to them.

Answer 4

your born either an introvert or extrovert unless you have had a bad experience but first of all you need to get confidence and just be yourself speak your mind. Just think we have one life to live so go WACKO and CRAZY. Do worry what people think who cares!

Answer 5

I honestly think it's by practicing. For example, when you're in line at a coffee shop, comment to the person in front or behind you... anything, like "Wow, it's busy, huh?" or something like that. Or at a party if you find yourself near someone you want to talk to just strike it up: "Hey, I'm (the host's) college roommate. How do you know him?"

I know it sounds cheesy, but I think I am quite shy and otherwise come off with a "don't even look in my direction" expression on my face, but when I TRY, I just smile and make some vague comment to anyone... like, "Hey, do you ever go on Yahoo! Answers? :-)
It helps my confidence...

Good luck!

Answer 6

I think you have already made the first step by seeing it as something you would like to change. I think the first thing you need to do is examine areas which you would like to improve. If you would like to be able to openly talk more with others then set a goal for yourself that you will initiate one conversation per day with someone close to you about something meaningful to you. Just make small attainable goals. An amusing story which I will share with you is about Albert Ellis a famous psychologist. He also was very shy as a young man. At 19 years old he forced himself to talk with 100 women in the Bronx botanical gardens over a period of one month to ask for dates. He desensitized himself to his fear of rejection this way. My only point is make small steps. Nothing says it needs to be this extreme. :-D Good luck in your endeavor. Keep it small and keep it real!

Answer 7

It comes from within. You need to concentrate on you first. Love yourself for who you are and all the great qualities you can bring along with you. If you have confidence in yourself, you can say what you feel and it will show on the outside. Learn to except that you are you and nobody can do that better.

Answer 8

Practice. It's really hard, but force yourself to be more outgoing. You'll find some good articles on stevepavlina.com too.