I have a 14 year old boyfriend and I am 13.
I am alone in my house alot with my boyfriend.
The most I havve ever done with him is make-out on my bed. He keeps on saying that what ever I want to happen will happen and nothing more, but I think I want to have sex. First I want to know why sex is bad. If I tell him I want to do it, he will. There is tons of oppertunities, even some over night oppertunities!
2007-03-21 05:40:20 · 30 answers · asked by amandaco45 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
My parents say that I should not have sex, but I don't see why?
2007-03-21 05:56:46 · update #1
He has had sex and I haven't
2007-03-21 05:59:18 · update #2
Sex isn't bad wrong or unhealthy, at all!!
But as any other thing we have to do it with care and awareness. You're very young and complete sexual intercourse for you could be inopportune or wrong even.
Now it depends from your maturity wish & will only.
Sex oughtn't be only an act with penis moving into vagina simply, but something more involving feelings, awareness, love, virginity, passion, knowledge, etc. Just things difficult to consider for a so young teen as you. By realizing you both have a lots of opportunities and that sex once tasted is alike a drug, I guess you then could be having it continuosly even!
For that I advise you to get MUCH care because you both already are fertile (your boy surely!) and among plenty there's the risk! It needs a drop of sperm near your pu.ssy to put you pregnant even. For me 13 is early, but I realize that it just is a GREAT temptation for the condition you are in, where even one years can be too much for you to wait and useless to reach then for you age. So, what has to happen just will happen .... good luck and enjoy!
2007-03-21 06:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
All right, love.
Sex in and of itself is not bad. However, that does not mean that a thirteen year old girl should be having sex.
How do I know this?
Because I was a thirteen year old girl who had sex. My boyfriend was seventeen. I thought he loved me. I thought I loved him.
Sex is a big, big, big, big, BIG deal. Really. It is. It's scarier to me now than it was when I first started having sex, because I've grown and changed since I was thirteen (this Sunday will actually be the 6th anniversary of me losing my virginity), and I'm almost twenty now. Sex is something that is very intimate between two people. It's a big decision to be made. I've been seeing a guy that I REALLY like for a few weeks, and I want to wait until I'm sure I really LOVE him before I have sex with him, because I've made mistakes in the past, and this time, I don't want there to be mistakes.
Some of those mistakes were because I was so young when I started having sex. I was pregnant by the time I started high school. (I miscarried, so I'm not a mommy.) My mother didn't trust me at all after she found out. My boyfriend almost went to jail for statutory rape. It was a very messy, very miserable situation.
In my opinion, I think you should wait until you're older. Sex just complicates relationships, usually before people are ready to complicate them.
I'm really glad that your boyfriend is giving you the control in this, but you also need to realize that he is only fourteen. They can't keep a grip on sexual frustration forever.
But I want to reiterate that sex, in and of itself, is not something that is "bad" - it's just not something that should happen between children. And you are a child, just as he is a child. I know that's something that you don't want to hear, but I'm not writing this to tell you what you want to hear. That's not the point of me answering. There's this mysterious transformation that happens during adolescence (which lasts into the early 20s, even), which just gradually turns a child into an adult. In ten years, you will look back and not recognize yourself. I don't want you to regret your teen years because of a mistake you made when you were thirteen.
Wait for the guy who loves you. The one who looks at you as though the ground you walk on is sacred. The one who takes your hand when you're walking together. The one who has more to talk about with you than sex. That is the one you should wait for. You don't have to be married, or even be over 18. You just need to be really ready. And no matter what you say, no one is ready at thirteen.
2007-03-22 12:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not bad. To say it is entirely bad or evil is to say it is satanscreation. That's a lot of credit to give the devil. No, sex is good and created by God. It's Great!!! It's Beautiful!!! Buts it's dangerous. Think of it like fire. In the right place it will heat your burritos and keep you warm. But put that same flame in your couch and things are gonna go downhill. FAST. The right place for this beautiful thing is marriage. Sex is the most extreme language of the body and says that you are married and that you totally commit yourself to each other for ever. Outside of marriage though... This is a lie. So until marriage, do like me and remain chaste AND practice abstinence while you still have your virginity. Your a precious person and you and your body dont just belong to anybody, they belong to the man you will share your life with forever. Always in my prayers, catholic kels
PS
Totally watch Jason evert on YouTube. He totally covers this stuff in depth. ;)
2016-03-22 16:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw man I just had to star this! This is the best question ever asked!!
Okay, so in like the 15th century this famous dude (i always forget his name) took every document that told the truth of the past and burned them. Then he took all these stories and made the bible. After that some people found out about some secret documents that had not been burned. They are called the San Greal Documents.
So when the guy created the Bible, he put a bunch of bad stuff in it about sex. why? the guy, personally, hated sex. So after 400 years of adapting to the bible, people also adapted to the "sex is bad" idea.
So really, the only two bad possiblities of sex are STD's and/or pregnancy.
What do you do, then? it's obvious!!! Get a condom, get some birth control pills, and go lose your virginity!!!
2007-03-21 09:12:49 · answer #4 · answered by Russly F 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First off, sex is considered bad only for younger children because of the risks that go along with it like STD's and the chance of getting pregnant. I don't understand these days, when I was 13 there was no way that I was even thinking about having sex? How do you know all about this at your age? And, I suggest that if you are going to do it, use more than one kind of protection, and do other things before to experiment, don't just jump right into sex.
2007-03-21 06:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
1st off you said he has had sex before well if you sleep with him you put yourself at risk for STD's or even worse AIDS, do you want to be only 13 years old and contract some nasty funky disease? Then no one will want to be with you.
2nd off at 13 and having sex are you prepared to raise a baby if he accidently gets you pregnant? You to young to work or drive and you havent even finished your schooling so how would you properly educate your child.
Sex isint bad but when you are as young as you are it is bad because you dont have the maturity yet to deal with the consequences
2007-03-21 07:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by lilshedevil 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sex isn't bad. It just takes a more mature person to handle the emotions that go with it. Believe or not, sex is just as much a mental thing as it is physical. It's hard to explain, just know that you are too young and immature for sex. Give it at least until you are 16.
2007-03-21 05:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by chelsea.lane 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ok, it is completely normal to feel physically ready to have sex. But the thing is at 13 you are no where near emotionally ready to have sex. it is an act that should be saved for someone really special when you are old enough to understand it and the consequences. You could end up pregnant, and that is the LAST thing you need at 13. It seems like you will have to wait forever, i know, but it goes by fast. take care of yourself and be young while you have the chance. Kissing is all you need right now. If you still feel like you are ready, PLEASE use a condom, protect yourself...you wont regret it. Good Luck
2007-03-21 06:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Soon to be Mrs. Welsh 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Don't have sex with him. I lost my virginity when I was 17 and I still regret it. Women liken sex to love, so we fall hard for the first guy we sleep with. The guy I slept with broke up with me 3 weeks later. He just wanted to have sex. I was miserable and heart broken because I gave such a special thing to such an undeserving person. Wait. That's all I have to say. I know that you love him, but wait. Sex is not bad as long as it's with someone who truly loves you, and I'm sorry, at your age you can't possibly know what real love is. I didn't really fall in love until I was 21. If you decide to ignore everything I have just said please go to your local health department and get on birth control and get some condoms. They won't tell your parents. It is completely confidential.
2007-03-21 05:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Sex isn't bad. Sex at 13 is. Do you realize what the repercussion could be? Are you responsible enough to raise a child at your age? Are you willing to quit school to raise your child and work for minimum wage the rest of your life? Sex is supposed to be between a man and a women (man and wife) who love each other and have made a commitment to each other. I'm sorry, but at 13 you don't really know anything about love. If you decide to have sex now, you are letting yourself in for a lifetime of heartaches. I hope you make the right choice.
2007-03-21 05:47:18 · answer #10 · answered by marie 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋