Who are swingers?

Question

What do swingers exactly do? If they have sex with different people, do they love their partners? What are the chances that they are infected with STDs. Why turn into a swinger atall?

Answer 1

swingers are people with a distorted view on what a real relationship is all about

Answer 2

What an interesting question! True swingers are married couples that enjoy having sex with people other than just their life mate. Usually not alone, but with their partner in the same room with other people, or in a group. They have to have a strong relationship to begin with or else their relationship probobly won't survive swinging! They love their partners just as much as the next married couple! Swingers usually enjoy going to swing clubs (like a bar, only crazier lol ) , or private parties to meet new people , or see old friends. They join internet sites, and post profiles-kind of like a dating service-only it is for swingers to meet other like minded people.

Safe sex is hugely promoted among swingers. Most swingers will not consider having sex without a condom. Of course, the more sex partners a person has, the more chance of getting an std. Just because a person is a swinger though, doesnt mean they have sex all the time.

Married couples turn to swinging usually to spice up their own sex life.

Answer 3

True swingers are typically married (5-10 years at least) stable couples who have a rock-solid relationship of trust, communication, respect and sex, and occasionally "play" with other couples (or sometimes singles). They love their partners more than you would expect.
Total strangers ask my husband and I how we do it - we seem so much in love. We love each other as much now as we did 16 years ago. Actually, more. We use swinging to have just about the greatest thrills we could ever imagine. We don't NEED it, though. We give each other our fantasies.
We have only "played" about 20 times in 3 years. The other 1,000 times we've had sex since then have been only with each other.

All swingers I know use condoms consistently. There are closed groups that form where everyone is tested, and if it's all clean, no protection (beyond pregancy) is necessary. Most swingers have already had their kids - vasectomies and tubal ligations are really common. These groups "suspend" any members that play outside their group until they get tested again. We aren't of this kind.

STD infection rate among swingers is lower than the general population. The general population tends, believe it or not, to engage in riskier behavior - affairs, prostitutes, spur-of-the-moment-drunken-sex. Swinging sex is generally planned and discussed beforehand and the protection is there more effectively than otherwise.

By the way, the divorce rate for swingers is only about 10%, as opposed to 50% for the general population.

However, it will ruin marriages where one person doesn't want to, or jealousy, resentment, lack of trust and sex between the couple is lacking. Since MOST marriages have some or all of these problems, MOST marriages shouldn't bring in swinging. It will make the bad things in marriage worse.

Hope this helped.

Answer 4

To be in the Swing Lifestyle, you have to have a very strong, solid loving relationship with your spouse or partner. Anyone entering into swinging with problems in their marriage or relationship, will only have those problems magnified. Swinging isn't cheating, it is an honest out in the open activity. Cheating would be lying.

My wife and I got into swinging for a couple of reasons: A. to allow her to more fully explore her bisexuality, and B. we find it a great sexual turn on to watch each other give and receive pleasure with others.

Safe sex is one of the "carved in rock" rules in swinging. Swingers use condoms, and have a lower instance of STD's then the general population.

The other "carved in rock" rule is no means no.

It's not one big free-for-all either. Swingers are usually pretty picky about who they play with. Everyone has their own preferences. At swinger parties, there's no big pile of people having sex with anyone or everyone. It's really like a normal "vanilla" kind of party with benefits. If you meet someone you'd like to play with, and everyone is agreeable, then there are rooms to go to for awhile.

Drunks and druggies are not welcome at swing parties.

Sometimes, in a group room, a "puppy-pile" will take shape, but always with everyone's consent.

Singles are usually not considered to be swingers, as they bring nothing to the table, as far as a partner goes.

Swinging just adds a lot more flavor to an already exciting sex life.

Answer 5

Swingers come in pairs they are usually sexual partner, who yes love each other, but to choose to have sex with others peoples partner, to keep the spark in their relationship. They usually wife swap etc. As far as STD most only swing with other swinger couples and only ones they know really well such as close friends, so their is usually a bit knowledge about the others so the STD rate is about the same as anyone else who is currently having sex in this day in age. As far becoming a swinger most couples choose to because they feel a lack of enjoyment in their sexual life, in other words they are bored with their partner(not that they don't love them).

Answer 6

Swingers are couples that connect with other swingers and share thier partners. Their chances of getting infected are teh same as anyone else, meybe even less since it's kept within the same community.

Answer 7

"What do swingers exactly do?"

Swingers are married our otherwise committed couples that engage in sex with other couples or singles.

Although in reality swinging is probably 70% social and 30% sex. Many get into it at first for the sex, but stay for the social interaction with other adults. The parties. Going on "dates" with other couples. It's adult time with like-minded adults. We've found over the years many of our best friends have been found in the swinger lifestyle, and this is outside of sex. These are just people that we can be ourselves around and they accept us for it. We have many non-swinger friends also, though, because swinging is just a fraction of our life... it's not our whole life. It's not who we are, it's something we do occasionally for fun.

"If they have sex with different people, do they love their partners?"

Of course. More than you'd ever know, and on a level many will never realize themselves. This is a common misconception about swingers, but understandable since many people associate sex with love, or more accurately think that since you want to have sex with someone that you must be in love with them too.

Swingers separate love and sex (as do many non-swingers, also). Swingers know that they are two different things. Sex is sex. Love is all the reasons you are together as a couple besides sex. You can have good sex with almost anyone, but you can only have what you have outside of sex with your spouse. That's why you married them. And because you are in love with someone the sex is on a totally different level then it is with someone you don't. Sex with your spouse is soul sex. It recharges the soul as much as it does the body. Sex with someone you don't love is just physical pleasure.

By taking sex out of the equation of why we are a couple, we have very clearly defined all the other aspects of our relationship that are the real reason we are married and will always be married. We are each other's best friend. We know things about each other noone else does. We know each other's deepest, darkest secrets that would scare away anyone else, and we still love each other. We are soul mates in the truest sense of the word. We're not just horny for each other, we truly crave being with each other.

"What are the chances that they are infected with STDs?"

Lower then with singles (and some cheating married people) in the general population. Why? Because sex amongst swingers is pre-planned. You know you are going to have it and therefore come prepared to practice safe sex. You can't say the same for a drunk guy and gal that meet at a night club and go home together. Safe sex is practiced far more regularly in the swinger lifestyle than outside of it.

"Why turn into a swinger at all?"

Trying to explain this is hard. We became swingers because we are very secure in ourselves, in each other, and in our relationship. We were very in love before we started swinging and had incredible sex together. And it has just gotten better since. :-) Because of this we were able to openly discuss our fantasies and discovered we had many of the same. Swinging is our way of living out those fantasies together, and some just take more then two people to do. :-)

Answer 8

Swinging, is "non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple."[1] The phenomenon (or at least its wider discussion and practice) may be seen as part of the sexual revolution of recent decades, which occurred after the upsurge in sexual activity made possible by the prevalence of safer sex practices during the same period. Swinging has been called wife swapping in the past, but this term is archaic, as it is androcentric and does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may.

Basically you and your partner shag another couple!

Answer 9

Swinger are couples, which are sometimes married to have sex with couples. They do love each other, once they go out of the place then its all back to normal. Its just they have more of an exotic mind of sex.

Answer 10

I belive swingers swap partners for sex. For example two married couples would exchange spouses for an evening. I don't think that it necessarily means that they do this with whomever and whenever, but there are risks, naturally when you aren't monogamous.

Answer 11

Swingers are couples (married or not) who both agree it's a good idea to have sex with other couples. Usually it's together. I'm sure there's a pretty high chance of contracting STD's since sex isn't just with your own partner. I guess they both want more than what's in front of them, but agree that they won't let it spoil their own relationship. Crazy stuff if you ask me...