I was seeing this guy since 2003. I knew he had a child & a BM (babymama). Sept of 2006 I get a phone call from his BM.She told me that he married her on March 1st ( I was w/him March 5th) She told me they had been together for 10yrs & living together for 4. I see this guy atleast 3-4 times a week.
I never knew he lived w/her or was involved b/c he always came to me & I didn't care b/c I don't like driving. I have been to his parents house alot of times b/c they travel often but I never met them. His phone never rang & he spent the nite often. We enjoyed eachother's company, he told me he loved me all the time.
After i found out that he was married I left him alone, I believe in Karma. 2 mos later he came back & I let him, he said they were over but.....his wife caught us at the movies & after seeing her I realize why he wanted me...she looks like him, lol. But that's not the point. Now he won't answer my calls & I'm just left behind w/a broken heart. I can't get him outta my head
2007-03-21 05:33:49 · 15 answers · asked by Lovely Cappy Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
once a cheater always a cheater why would you take him back he is a liar you should saw it in the begining
2007-03-21 05:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by airplanes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but all you have shown him is you have no moral fiber, self respect and absolutely no care or concerns with your actions. If you knew speaking to het that he has been with her for more then 10yrs and the they are now married
you are just asking to be called a homewrecking whore by most of the woman out there. Now do not get me wrong it does take two to tango but most women have the brains and respect for the wife or other GF to not allow this to start in the first place. I believe this guy has finally wised up to that he has been a a ss for the last few years and is trying very hard to just love his wife and kids that means he doesn't want you anymore. This is good now you can go out and find a guy that isn't already taken by another.
Question have you considered some therapy or counselling
most peole who act this way and chase after married men have a seriuos commitment issue. They feel it easier to be involved with some that is already attached because there are no strings.
One other thing start putting yourself in the wife's shoes
would you want to be on the receiving end of finding out somone is sleeping with your husband I bet if you consider this first you will never do this again?
I hope this little affair is your last and you start looking for a guy who wants you for you and not some guy who just wants sex and has a wife!
I not sure you deserve this but God Bless and Good Luck!
2007-03-21 05:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never mess with a married man, period. It doesn't matter how nice he is or how great in bed he is. A married man is a married man. There is such a thing as karma....What if you got married some day and you found out some lady was messing around with your husband? It wouldn't feel so great then. He's obviously not a gentleman for cheating on his wife and lying to the both of you. I would end things and move on for good because it seems like he's not going to leave his wife any time soon anyway.
2007-03-21 05:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you said he hasn't called you back yet - that's good!
Honey, I know you're hurting right now, but getting involved with a married man is a bad idea. A friend of mine did this and he's gone back to his wife now SEVERAL times and she was left broken hearted EVERY time. Just think - it's better to get past this now. Do you really want to do this 5-6 more times before you learn? You deserve better - if she wants him let her have him.
2007-03-21 05:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you are smart enough to avoid this jerk.
Time will heal your heart. Your true love will find you...but in the meantime, work on yourself....work out, seek spiritual guidance and stay busy.....when the person you are meant to be with comes along, you will be emotionally healthy.
Good luck to you...no one deserves to be with a cheating liar.
2007-03-21 05:44:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts, doesn't it? I know it sounds cliche, but time really does heal everything. Just give it time, resist the urge to call him, and if he tries to contact you, don't answer his calls. It took me a long time to get over my ex-husband, but alas - 5 years later and lots of tears, I'm finally to a good point. It'll come, just be patient and enjoy life.
2007-03-21 05:42:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that he is married and you know he took advantage of you and lied to you. Focus on that when you start to miss him and think of him. Don't try to call him anymore. Nothing good can come of it. You need to let go and move on. It will take some time, but it will get better.
Good Luck!
2007-03-21 05:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
1st of all I feel your pain.
Second forgive your self for your stupidity. Stop beating yourself up you weren't married he was and I'm sure if you had known that before you got involved you wouldn't have.
Third move on. Time heals all wounds.
2007-03-21 06:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find your inner strength and know that this was a learning experience and you will choose carefully the next time. Go out and do something good for yourself or somebody else.
2007-03-21 05:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's funny how obvious things are to the outsiders.
I understand that your hurt, but believe me, you're better off without this idiot in your life.
Hang in there, time heals all wounds and you WILL find someone much better for you.
2007-03-21 05:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The worst part of this is... you are right. Kharma is going to come back and BITE YOU HARD for being with him when you knew you should have let him go. Im sorry... but what you did was wrong. THE VERY SECOND you found out he was unavailable... you should have left him alone, not only out of respect for the other woman, but respect for yourself.
2007-03-21 05:38:06 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋