My live-in girlfriend got two free airline tickets from her dad. He hates me. She planned a trip to San Francisco without including me, or even telling me. She is meeting her cousin there. Should I feel upset? She doesn't even know that I know about the trip.
Details: We have lived together for 6 years; own a house together; live in Texas. . . .
2007-03-21 05:27:15 · 19 answers · asked by JSSJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's really sad...I personally would never do anything like that...If it was me i would tell dad that you were my partner and we come together as a package...To me this would be like saying that it was OK for dad to hate you....
2007-03-21 05:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds and smells wrong to me. Why would her dad give her two tickets instead of one? Is someone else going and using the other ticket? If so who is using the other ticket. If it is a girl friend and things are on the up and up, why didn't she tell you about the tickets and the trip?
Since you and your girl friend have lived together for six years and own a house together, it is about time her dad got over his hatred toward you. Perhaps he has and your girl friend is just using this as an excuse
2007-03-21 12:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is wrong for her not to tell you. She is your life partner and you have the right to know what is going on. You need to confront her about this and tell she is wrong for secretly planning a trip behind your back. She is also making you feel insecure about the relationship and would cause one to wonder what is "really" going on. I would do some investigation and fast. Maybe even making a phone call to her father and explaining that you are upset with his actions. Who knows, maybe daddy didn't even give her tickets at all, and she'll be caught in a trap like a rat. Good luck.
2007-03-21 12:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do two things 1. confront her of the matter and let her know how you fell (offended, hurt or disappointed) and give her a chance to explain her rude behavior or 2. confront her anyways and tell her to have a great time and when she gets back, you plan a trip without her to a great place and see how she feels.
2007-03-21 12:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by liza246 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably did not want to upset her dad and chance not getting anything from him again. Tell her you know and that it hurt your feelings. And the next time she can just tell your dad that she made you pay for the ticket. But maybe she needed some time form you or her dad was going to be there and she didn't want anything arguments to get started. You'll never know if you don't say something.
2007-03-21 12:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by My two cents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly expect my spouse to tell me about the tickets/trip. We could then work out the plan; I don't neccessarly feel I must go with him - but it would be a consideration, and I would expect to have been given this option. If he planned a trip without me never telling me about it, this would be a huge red flag.
2007-03-21 12:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every reason to be upset, for this is screaming sneaky!! Its one thing for her to take her cousin, but for her not to tell you about the trip all together is wrong. Who is she taking with her if she is meeting her cousin there?
I think you need to tell her that you found out and that you are hurt by her hiding something as simple as this. A relationship is based on trust and communication.
2007-03-21 12:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship with your live in is a good, solid and loving relationship I would let her go....telling her to have a good time. The part that would send me is her not telling you about it. I would certainly discuss this with her. When she gets back plan a weekend camping trip with a buddy and go kick it!
2007-03-21 12:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really weird that she would at least not tell you of her plans. If it were me, I wouldn't be so upset that she didn't take me because I know people need time away from their spouses, but I would be upset that she planned it and went about it without even telling me.
2007-03-21 12:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would be a little peeved. Seperate vacations are fine (I have the same living situation as you), my guy & I do it all the time, but for her not to even tell you about it? Sounds to me like she has something to hide. Good luck with this one!
2007-03-21 12:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋