Teen girls & dating..?

Question

If you had a 14 almost 15 year old daughter (sophomore) would you let her date a 17 almost 18 year old senior?

She says they are just friends but he is willing to drive 1 hour each way to come watch a school recital that takes 5 minutes.

Shouldn't a senior boy be more mature than wanting to date or be close friend's with a freshman? What would they have in common?

Answer 1

I'll just give you a few examples....
I was 17, my husband was 20 when we started dating. We've been together a little over four years now.

My mom was 15, dad was 18 when they started dating. They got divorced a couple years ago, but they were married for 16 years.

Your daughter could have many things in common with this boy. You have to remember that males mature slower than females.

Answer 2

No, it's perfectly okay. Girls that are freshmen are as mature as a senior boy, since girls mature about 3 times faster than boys. And believe it or not, they would most likely have alot in common. Especially if he is willing to drive an hour to see her. He must like her alot, let them give a shot at dating. The worst that could happen is they'll break up. It would be different if she was a senior & he was a freshman. She would be alot more mature than him.Everyone has to date at some point. It will all work out. Trust me.

Answer 3

My advice to you as a teenage girl making 17 in less then two weeks is let her go. If you try to stop her it's only going to get worse. I'm going through the same thing as we speak but my boyfriend has graduated high school and is living on his own. If he cares enough about her to drive an hour to admire her for only 5 minutes he actually does care. When you force your daughter or tell her not to do something if she really wants to that bad she will find a way. Let her experience life and don't try to stop her from seeing him because, soon she will start skipping school to hang out with him and also sneaking out the house. I can tell you this because I'm doing all these things right now just to spend time with my bf. If you love your child let her make her own mistakes.....give her breathing room....think about it this way...at least she is not 15 dating a 22 year old...because thats how I was and what do you know we are still together.

Answer 4

My daughters are not allowed to date until they are 16 so I would say no to your question. The 17 year old is just on the brink of being an adult then he will be committing a crime by dating a child, let your daughter be a child and keep her innocence for as long as she can, no need to rush

Answer 5

Sophomores and seniors dating is fairly common. Personally, I had friends that dated seniors when they were freshmen. Now, as to whether I would let her actually go out with him is another question. He seems to be fond of her; whether it's friendship or more, who knows? If you try to keep them apart, though, regardless of what it is that will probably just drive them closer together. Maybe agree that he could come to your house and hang out with her some, so that's it supervised and then you can observe what's really going on, but not let them actually go off together. Good luck!

Answer 6

My 14 and 15 year old daughters aren't dating ANYONE until they are old enough to drive and experienced enough to handle any situation that might come up as a result of spending to much "alone" time with a young hormonal male.

Answer 7

I've seen weirder. A senior dating a high school freshman. But girls want older guys and older guys need younger girls. My dad is 43, my mom is 40. Is that weird? If they really think they can make it work out to their benefit, then let them go for it.

Answer 8

well My Daughter will be 15 in May and she will not go on a Date with a Boy alone.I am sure your Daughter have things in common there is not a big age difference there.He sounds like a carring young man who cares alot about your Daughter.Think Long and hard before you let her go out alone.

Answer 9

They're not just friends, they like each other- and there is a lot of difference in high school between the grades. You kind of have to wonder why he's not sticking to girls his grade/age. I see why you're taking precaution though, but you need to enforce rules on her now before you have to deal with a grandkid or the numerous times her heart ends up broken.

Answer 10

I have alot of mixed feelings about teens and dating... I don't believe that all teens are prepared for the emotional stress associated with dating and can interfere with things like school performance, effect their self image ect...

Knowing how most teens are, we can almost assume they are going to date and sneak around whether we like it or not...

I would really talk to your daughter about this particular relationship... Openly discuss your concerns with her... I'm not sure I would encourage it knowing that he is a senior... What happens if her goes away to school???

Communication is the key... Talk to your daughter about everything including sex... All we can do us give our children information and help them make smarth choices...