She's like a sister to me and I’m worried about her. She has 2 jobs, 4 kids and a husband who won’t help; he just criticizes her and the kids and sometimes verbally threatens them also, and he spends over their budget. She is past being exhausted and so depressed that she cries every time we talk. I have offered help in every form I can think of and she always says no, it’s enough for me just to listen. Any suggestions?
2007-03-21 05:03:37 · 3 answers · asked by mom of 2 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's very difficult to be in that position I'm sure. In your position and hers. What you are doing already is so wonderful for her. Being there for her, her shoulder to cry on is one of the best things you can do. I'm sure she cherishes you as her best friend and is lucky to have you.
Maybe you can help her get away for a while, go to the park with the kids or out to a movie. Or maybe a girls night out, just the two of you. That might help her get her mind of things at home for a bit.
Sadly though, as far as her husband verbally threatening the children that is something that has to be stopped. Although that is virtually out of your hands, I would encourage her to seek professional assistance. As I'm sure you know, its not healthy for those children to be raised in that enviroment. And I'm sure your friend does not deserve such criticism either. Perhaps a therapist or doctor could help her out a little, maybe see a family counsilor. First and foremost she needs to take care of herself and those kids. Good luck sweetie, I hope things work out well for your friend and her family.
2007-03-21 05:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Curious Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She really needs to accept some outside help. If you can, try to think of some activities you can do with her children that would give her some free time. She also needs to get away from her abusive husband. Tell her to see her doctor if possible. It might really help for her to go and talk to someone and get it off her chest. Maybe she should quit one of her jobs. Even though it would be hard financially, it might be something she needs to do. Her husband isn't going to change. She needs to get him out of the picture. Tell her to put money a side each week that her husband doesn't know about. Maybe she can even give it to you to hold. That way if she ever wants to leave him or an emergency arises, she has something to fall back on.
2007-03-21 12:15:25 · answer #2 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie no suggestions just going to let you know this is something she will have to put her foot down on. She is going to have to realize whats going on and how it affects her kids. Then she will realize and get rid of the loser in her life. No matter what you offer her she will have to be the one to open her eyes and realize. If she doesnt realize soon she is going to end up hurting herself like putting herself in the hospital but you take care of yourself because you will need to be there for her when this happens.
2007-03-21 12:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by LAP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋