he tell me that he love that woman more than me but wont leave me because we of our baby, should i accept him back? he tell me he is going to stop the affair bcoz i told him cut it off or i leave him,...should i trust him again?
2007-03-21 04:58:50 · 18 answers · asked by icy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No way!! Once a cheater always a cheater. It's like a disease.
2007-03-21 05:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by lexiss91 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to put your own self first. He does not have what is right for you in his heart. He is unfaithful, that shows selfishness,and immaturity. He is claiming to be in love with this other person. In reality he does not know what love is. To me love means commitment to the person you are with body, mind, and soul. If you are sharing your body with someone else you do not love your partner. The fact that his was a prolonged affair speaks of his lack of commitment to your relationship. The child is a whole different story, and you will be connected for the rest of your life through that link.But I believe that if you accept this behavior from him you are setting yourself for future heartbreak. You should move on and you will someday find someone who shares the same ideas as you do. I went thorough a lot of heartache in my life. Until my husband and I finally came to an understanding about infidelity it was a rough road. But my husband did not admit to being in love with the woman. If he had it would have been over for me. I will not tolerate any more. I would cut my losses, go to counseling,and get on with my life.
2007-03-21 12:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by ladieincali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you even ask yourself that question? If he cheated on you for that long, then he obviously put the other woman before you. Don't settle for someone like that. If you're married, then he broke the rules in the military about adultery. He could get in serious trouble for this, including a demotion. Do yourself and your baby a favor and break things off. You deserve better.
2007-03-21 12:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you should not trust him..first of all people are going to say leave him..we all know it is easier said than done. why? we never know. you are probably scared to tell people of the affair he has been having because they will think you are dumb for staying with him. but you know what is best for you..life is too short to be unhappy..and now you are a woman scorned..and you will not be able to trust him..do you want to live like that for the rest of your life..because that is whats going to happen..sure we can eaisly say leave him..but you have to be secure enough to know just because you have a kid(s) that does not mean you are not beautiful and that you want be able to find happiness you know as well as anyone else that you should not trust him..however he has told you that he loves this woman more than you...don't you think he is affraid of the result of a divorce..childs support and a lot of money from benefits and he will look bad with his military buddies..so be strong and really think about it is this what you really want??let me know what happens e-mail me if you want kizy80@yahoo.com
2007-03-21 12:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by kizzy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not take him back... why would u want to be with someone who is telling you in your face he loves another woman.. ? come on really... your child should not be punished for that.. if you guys get together then all you will do is prob fight and yell..he will cheat again cause he does not love you....so do all of you a favor and cut him loose.. let him be part of his child life.. for it to be healthy relationship for the baby and him.. and ask him to help out with money for food activities or any other child support you might need... do not make it into your fight think for your child.. and what is best
2007-03-21 12:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by GIGI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO!!! Run run as fast as you can missy. If he cheated once, he will do it again.. think more of yourself than to let a cheater back in your life...
Where is your mother!! You need a strong female in your life to tell you about men. If you think he won't cheat again, you are really naieve. The man couldnt keep it zipped up for a couple of years while he was away,,, he really wont keep it in now...
2007-03-21 12:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by nanacakes06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. For someone to actually say that to you - it's too hurtful. Ask yourself - could you carry on with life, with this man, knowing he loves someone else. Honey there are many men out there, and someone will love just you. Kids are not a reason to stay together. You have to look out for yourself and the child. You can make it fine on your own.
2007-03-21 12:05:27 · answer #7 · answered by SuzyQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was truly sorry about the affair and said the woman meant NOTHING to him, then yes, you could forgive, but he said that he loves her more than you, that is horrible. I would leave.
2007-03-21 12:10:16 · answer #8 · answered by Kari R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way....if he were to go "out of town" tomorrow would you wonder if he was alone or if he was cheating again? Sometimes you need to make a break because what are you teaching your child? Are you giving your little one a good example of a healthy relationship or are you teaching him/her that they have to accept emotional abuse because you did?
2007-03-21 12:05:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "Why would I want to be with someone who is IN LOVE with someone else?"
You deserve better treatment then that. Have some self respect.
A baby is not a reason to stay together, when vows have been broken.
2007-03-21 12:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, an affair maybe. him telling you that he loves another woman more than you but wants to stay married, unacceptable. first he dis-honors you then he spits in your face. leave him and take custody of the child with you.
2007-03-21 12:05:19 · answer #11 · answered by jonathen g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋