My wife is 40 years old and has taken very good care of herself and is very hot. She likes to tease with younger guys and has told me about the UPS man flirting with her....It has kinda become a standing tease with us around the house.....it is a turn on to me that other guys want her......yesterday she called me to tell me about the UPS man flirting with her and teased me that maybe we should become swingers.....and just giggled.....What do you all think?? Should I be concerned??
2007-03-21 04:50:43 · 28 answers · asked by Mike N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh I was also going to ask......she did ask me the other day to kiss her like I think the UPS man would want to kiss her....does that mean anything to?
2007-03-21 05:01:18 · update #1
NO, my husband and I have the same joke about one of our neighbors. She`s just teasing you, and probably doesn`t mean anything by it. It`s great that we can do that. It`s not a test.
2007-03-21 05:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that she's stating this to you,means something, why else would she say it in the first place. Perhaps, she wants a reaction or some kind of affection that's been lacking from you lately.
Something is up and perhaps you should be giving the attention she seeks from the younger guys and the UPS man. Your best to ask her what's up and if you are not doing enough to show her how much she really means to you. Sounds like a mid life crisis and if you just laugh about it and do nothing, you may be laughing alone, one day.
2007-03-21 12:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that she kept herself up, but she needs to have more respect for the relationship, you two are married after all! You too have your limits, and you need to let her know that, just question her and see if that's what she really wants to do, and if not, then let her know that you're uncomfortable with comments like that. She already knows she looks good, but no need to let everyone else know how good she really is. She sounds pretty shallow, really, and she might actually have low self esteem to be wanting so much attention from guys. So talk to her instead of letting this get more out of control, you asked the question so you're already worried, now find the answer from your wife.
2007-03-21 11:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably just taking the "standing tease" to the next level. I wouldn't be concerned. If she wanted to cheat with the UPS guy, she would've done it by now and she wouldn't have brought him up at all. Don't be a worry wart. Flirting isn't the same as Philandering.
2007-03-21 11:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by sneaky squirrel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! I also am a 40ish woman who has taken excellent care of my body and face. I look hotter than a lot of 25 year olds but have a lot more in the educational and life experience department. I am also married. When men flirt with me or hit on me or cat call I am flattered but that's as far as it needs to go. I wouldn't rub it in my husbands face, he sees enough of it when we are out together, he is proud to be with me and I am proud to be with him. Your wife is seeking attention that is unhealthy and is going to give you reason to doubt her and trust will be broken. If you want to engage in that lifestyle then she has opened the door, if you are wise and realize it will destroy your marriage I would tell her she needs time without you until she can make up her mind, your a one woman show, be strong she'll either come around or things are going to get worse!
2007-03-21 12:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude not enough info..how did you respond to the question about swinging? You said it turns you on other guys want her, does the thought of her getting it from another guy turn you on? you have to answer these questions first before you get concerned or not. she obviously likes the attention. and its possible she will or has hooked up with mr UPS. you either need to shut this down now or let it go and see where it goes. If you want to talk about this more please email me. i know more about this issue then you think
2007-03-21 12:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by needingitnow342000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop playing this game with your wife. It's wonderful that she's kept herself up, but she also needs to start acting like a mature married woman, instead of a teenager who's starved for attention. You are encouraging this behavior and you need to stop it.
If she's calling you with this foolishness, it's already gotten out of hand. Sit down with your wife and stop this crap, before she does something you'll both regret.
2007-03-21 12:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she is really sending strong signals to the UPS man. Recently, he has made sure he has a strong visible erection when he is in the presence of your wife. She has gave him oral sex, but she hasn't had intercourse with him....yet. He has a tight schedule and so far hasn't had enough time to have actual intercourse....so he just makes sure he is good and hard and your wife finishes him off with her mouth and hands in just a couple/three minutes.
2007-03-21 12:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah dude, She's just kidding though I have learned that continuous flirting between a male bachelor and wife whose alone all day will inevitably lead to promiscuity. Guaranteed.
2007-03-21 12:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by fe2bsho 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be concerned. Be thankful you have a beautiful wife that every man wants. She comes home to you, right? That means she chooses you over all other men and obviously she could have her pick. Shame on you
2007-03-21 11:56:37 · answer #10 · answered by cutie322434 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋