all the other choices dancing and dangling all around me. Any feedback on how to
1. make a choice/decison
2. not be distracted by other options
Don't tell me to pray or meditate-as I already do!
2007-03-21 04:43:38 · 13 answers · asked by Salsa 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
How do YOU make decisions and remain at peace with them?
2007-03-21 04:44:19 · update #1
First... train yourself to know what it is that you want - delve deep within and determine what you believe in, what you feel strongly about, and what you can and cannot live with. Then way the pros and cons - do the what if scenarios, lastly get as much info on the topice or whatever it is you are faced with so that you can make informed choices. Once you are comfortable that you truly believe in the decision you're about to make, that you can live with that decision despite the pros and cons, that you've informed enough on the decision so that you can make a confident decision, then you make that decision and stick with it.
I have to caution you though, that no matter how informed and confident a decision you make and despite your conviction, that you should NEVER EVER close your mind to alternate options. Live is about learning, adapting and being flexible. Just because the decision is the smartest, doesn't mean that an alternate would not be more efficient and effective. At the same time, trust in yourself and your values. The more objective and informed you are, the better you will be at making and sticking to decisions.
I hope this is stated clearly enough for you to get the point that i'm trying to put across.
good luck.
2007-03-21 05:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. consider the possible results of your action as far into the future as you can. Taking into consideration the effects that it will have on you personally and those dear to you. answering the question "Will it make me a better person without harming the ones we love?"
2. Once you make a decision, live with it. You have made a conscious decision that appears to be the best one for you at the time....Looking back on past decisions is a waste of time because the circumstances are different now than then. So to speak, we make decisions of the best information at hand at the time.
sorry, i cannot be more specific than this because i do not know about you are considering. If i had that info, i might could go into more detail......feel free to contact me by email here on yahoo using the same name.
I wish you the best
2007-03-21 05:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by scotishbob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a simplistic case of being unsure of yourself and lack of confidence! Choose something or make decisions based upon its value under the circumstances using intelligence. Be confident in your choices and decisions, believe in yourself, even if you make some mistakes that's ok!!! Learn from those. Don't second guess yourself and say/ask "What if"?
There's numerous ways to building self confidence and learning to be more focused. Such as enrolling in a self defense course or simply reading certain types of "How to" books. As for praying and meditation.... I'm sure both can be helpful in some aspects but don't waste too much time with those or put too much faith in them. Actually taking an active role in your own self improvement is what's going to get you where you want to be.
2007-03-27 18:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Izen G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm really doubting, or just can't seem to make up my mind, I try to get OUT of my head, find a quiet place (figuratively or literally -- or both!) and then listen to my heart/intuition/instincts -- whatever you want to call that which isn't intellectual.
Sometimes, I just have to take that so-called "leap of faith" and trust that everything will turn out O.K. But I don't jump until I've checked out as many facts as I can possibly find -- and then, if that's not enough, get out of my head. The brain is a wonderful organ but, as you've probably discovered, when you stay totally in your thinking, you can argue anything and all sides.
Plus, don't ever forget: with many choices, nothing is set in stone. You buy that car, it turns out to disappoint. Get the other one. You've started that course of study. It isn't really your thing. Switch majors. Yes, it costs time and some money. But, sometimes, how do you know if you don't try?
And, finally, don't let all the options and distractions paralyze you into inaction.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 05:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by pat z 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's so funny for me is that when it comes to work-related decisions, NO PROBLEM. BAM, decision is made. But major personal decisions, well..that's another story. So, in addition to the praying and meditating, I make a list of each option called "positives/negatives". I then put each positive reason for choosing the option, as well as negative reasons for choosing the option. I do this for ALL options on the table. You can also put a "weight" beside the positives/negatives, i.e. because even though one option has more negatives, the "weight" of the negatives may not be that bad compared to another option with less negatives. It may sound complex, but it really does give you a visual picture of what you should pick. I hope you get the drift of what I'm trying to describe, but if not, please email me and I can send you an example of what I do. Good luck!
2007-03-21 04:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ever hear of Buridan's Donkey? See link below - actually called something else (three letters, rhymes with grass), but Y!Answers censored the word....nice.
Essentially, there's this donkey that is equidistance from food on one side and water on the other. But he's also equally hungry as he is thirsty and can't make a decision on which way to go. So he's paralyzed by his deliberations (paralysis by analysis) that he doesn't move at all and dies from hunger/thirst.
If you have good instincts, then follow them and don't look back. Commit to the path you're on, unless it's very clear that you choose poorly (like that guy on "Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade"). It takes will and discipline to stay on a path, but it usually helps in getting there faster and intact.
2007-03-21 05:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by no_good_names_left_17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be look for the best choice that effects the most ppl possitively. And when it comes to relationships, look for the one that will hurt the other person the least even if it means hurting yourself more, don't take the easy way out.
2007-03-28 08:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with first instinct or gut reaction...like taking a test..first choice is 9 out of 10 always right and don't look back...good luck
2007-03-21 04:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by stingrayaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose a option which keeps you tension-free and at peace .
2007-03-27 21:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by laxmi kumar n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know what you want.
everything in this world is fine. you cannot have everything
and remember all that look good may not match you.
choose things which suits you. Fantasize things with you, before you make them yours.
try apprcieate good things, you cannot have all the good things in the world.
2007-03-21 04:51:00 · answer #10 · answered by rk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋