I am taking a re entry class for my local college since i dropped out. Come to find out my husbands exwife is in the same class as i. We had our first class the other day and i didn't know she was in the class until i saw her. She doesn't know what i look like, but she knows my name. We have the exact same first,middle, and last name. I know it sounds crazy but its true. We have to work together in groups and i don't know what to say to her if she ask me questions. I don't know if she will be nice or i don't know what to say to her. Any suggestions?
2007-03-21 04:42:35 · 8 answers · asked by mr_and_mrs.x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would treat her just like anybody else. Even after she discovers who you are, SHE should be adult enough not to make a scene. You can`t avoid each other forever. Go with it! Good Luck
2007-03-21 04:52:36 · answer #1 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, although it may be a little awkward, the fact remains that she is the ex and u r the current. It doesnt have to be a terrible experience, and the two of you are there to get an education, not be friends.
I would remain mature and just handle it a day at a time. If she says something about it, then tell her yes, u r his new wife blah blah blah. She should have enough respect for you, not to start trouble, but if she does, u can certainly have her removed from the class if she is the aggressor.
I have heard of it a couple times. Just remain cool and in control and focus on your education.
Take the appropriate steps should a situation arise but be the bigger person and handle it as such.
Good luck to u.
2007-03-21 11:50:31 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she knows your name and you are in the same class then she knows what you look like.
As far as trying to predict her behavior, don't waste your time. All you can do is decide ahead of time that you are willing and able to get along with her for this class and don't have anything against her.
If their divorce wasn't about you I doubt you have anything to worry about. If you were the other woman, well, this may be a good time to apologize to her for being with a married man and for destroying her marriage. No matter what was going on in their marriage a third party should never get involved or interfere by dating one of the partners while they are still married. There is no justification for it although we do justify our actions, don't we?
Like I said, if the divorce wasn't about you I seriously doubt you have anything to worry about.
2007-03-21 11:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is another day that the class is in session switch to it. Other wise you are stuck unless you drop out and take it the next semester.
2007-03-21 11:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it professional. You don't have to be friends but you do have to work together in a learning capacity. If she has a pre-conceived notion of you, either you will prove her right or wrong. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 11:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by missie_d_73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be polite to her and if she asks questions "how is he doing, how are you" just be short and sweet. Remember to just be adult about this, I'm sure she's as wierded out about this as you :) Now if she's a total bit**, tell her to grow up!
2007-03-21 11:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by CharlotteDenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it that you are afraid of? Introduce yourself to her and get it over with. Nothing you can do is going to make it comfotable for either of you, but you shouldnt worry about it too much.
2007-03-21 12:43:58 · answer #7 · answered by ahole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just focus on why you're there. If you are forced to work with her, be mature about it. If she is mean, smile. Remember you have the man now.
2007-03-21 11:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋