hi, im 8 months pregnant and im 15, i recently started hanging with a friend, last night i had a small drink but not to much as i knwo it could hurt my unborn baby boy, but i realised how much fun i had! they all got drunk and i was on orange juice and shandy! im starting to think, have i made the biggest mistake of my life? will i not want my baby now? is there anyway to get around this?
can anyone help?
2007-03-21 04:38:53 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is going to be hard, but I don't think it is uncommon to miss things during your pregnancy. In my 8th month it was my comfy jeans and room to eat and breath that I missed. Give it another month and you will be ready for that baby to be out. And then you still have 4 more weeks to go after that! You have plenty of time ahead of you to live your life although it may be a bit harder to enjoy with a baby at 15. Be responsible now, if this seems like it may be too hard, check into adoption.
2007-03-21 04:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is hard because you life is just starting. There are several things that you might miss out on but the biggest is raising your son. Nothing can replace the joy a child brings into your life.
I had a friend that was your age when she had her first son. She did have to give up a lot but if you ask her today she will tell you that it was all worth it and she could not picture her life without her son.
No one can really tell you what is best because only you will know that. You must do what is best for your son and yourself. If you do decide that you do not want to keep your son there are so many people in the world that can not have children and would love to give him a good home.
Good luck with your decision and I hope that you have family support to help you with the new life you are about to bring into this world.
2007-03-21 11:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by mytessa77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parenting is hard and the younger you are the harder it gets. I have three girls and I'm only 25. You need to think about this baby right now. When you give birth you'll know if this is for you. If you want to give the baby up then there are thousands of couples who would LOVE to give that baby a home. If you have parents that want to help then maybe you can get a night every now and then to relax. If you keep that baby then be a mom if you think it'll be better off with a couple who cn't have babies then give him up. You have to decide what's best. Be a good mommy and take care of him or be a good mommy and give him to a couple who can care for him and then you can enoy being a teenager and some couples even opt for an open adoption where you get pictures and get to send birthday cards and such. You also need to go to family planning and get on something that prevents pregnancy so you can finish school and get a good solid base for yourself.
2007-03-21 11:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Brandi H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look you'll be fine girl stop trippin,now you know not to do the same thing again,at least right now.You're 15 stop the drinking you don't need to be drinking anyways.You're young enough now were you can still enjoy yourself.Just remember the baby is #1 right now it's no longer about you.You focuss on school and being a mom.It's not a mistake and you keep you're baby you'll be glad you did in the long run.It's a btful thing to watch your children grow,when they start growing teeth and walking and start saying they're 1st words.And you will really take pride in knowing you created this little miracle.You can still hang but not as much as you use to.Things will fall into place.(SMILE).Keep you're head up.
2007-03-21 11:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, do not drink again. You made this decision and now you need to stick w/ it. You aren't doing anything but hurting your baby when you drink. You could cause it to have numerous disabilities. If you do not believe me then check on what Fetal alcohol syndrome causes. For instance the baby could have a learning disability for the rest of its life b/c you decided to "have fun" with your friends. This is a commitment that you made and there is no turning back now. If you try, and I am not saying it will not be hard, especially at your age, you will get so much back from your baby. It will be amazing, watching them develop and learn new things. And just wait until it says Mama! You will be different than your friends, you will never be carefree again but do not make your baby suffer from your mistakes.
2007-03-21 11:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by JEN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will be missing out on a lot. That's why babies shouldn't be having babies.
If you don't want to miss out on anything, then you should talk to an adoption agency about finding a family for your son. many agencies will do 'open adoptions' now, which means you may get to visit your son or receive pictures throughout his life. He will always know he was adopted, and you will get the joys of seeing him grow up with the loving family you chose.
But if you choose to keep your baby, then you must realize that your life has to change. You must stop partying (I'm not real clear on what parents let their 15 year old pregnant daughter go out to party anyway) and start being a parent. Your child deserves that.
Good luck, dear. I'll be thinking of you, and your son.
2007-03-21 11:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Christal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when you crave your freedom, but have to sacrafice for your child. I'm sure your baby is ok from the small drink - don't stress on that.
You've only got one month to go (me too! I'm due April 24!!!), but it's not too late to consider different options. A friend of mine in high school who had a baby was planning on continuing school and raising her baby at home. But then when she went out with friends, and her Mom called and said the baby needed her she realized how not-ready she was for the responsibility. She found an awesome family who had been longing for a baby for years, but were infertile. If you were to give your baby up for adoption you would be helping someone else so very much and they would thank God for you. You can always have another baby when you are more ready - you are young and this isn't your last chance.
2007-03-21 11:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by Angie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well there really is no way around this..you are 8 months pregnant and in a month you will have a beautiful baby...The only option is to give the baby up for adoption if you think it will be too hard for you to raise. I dont know what kind of support system you have at home, or where the babys dad is, but this would be the only option at this point other than keeping the baby and raising him. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 11:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa ♥'s Tim 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
oh boy - big mistake getting pregnant at a young age, but will be a big blessing to have that child in your life. it's a bitter sweet reality that you have to GROW UP and face. first of all, you wont be pregnant forever so that definitely wont be your last drink. second, obviously you havent been drunk recently enough to remember the morning hangovers, confusion, and how awful you felt before you finally passed out after the puking and dizziness. having a buzz is great but also TEMPORARY with a hard crash if your not careful. so basically, whats more important to you right now...getting drunk, or giving life to your unborn child. yes your life will change and you will have to miss out on things but the only way to get around it is by dealing with it. yes you can still party, have fun, drink and even get drunk, stay out all night, date, and have a life outside of motherhood but remember its not just about you anymore. in other words, sure you can do whatever you want that's legal, wont put you in a hospital, in jail, or have child protective services knocking on your door AS LONG AS:
the baby is healthy (no colds, diaper rash, colick, etc.), fed the proper nutrition and full, has clean clothes with a clean diaper on a clean body, safe and warm with a roof over his head, has a comfortable, quiet place to sleep and play, and is cared for and attended to by someone of age that at least knows how to dial 911 as well as prevent any unneccessary reasons to have to. this may or may not sound easy but the only problem is you will need to maintain this 24 HOURS A DAY AND SEVEN DAYS A WEEK. and if you cant provide it while your out livng the life you dont want to miss out on, then someone else will AT A PRICE called overpriced day care and babysitter/nanny money. and as long as you can handle that along with all your other bills in diapers, baby food, clothes, medical expenses, rent, electricity, insurance, car expenses, etc. then sure you'll be just fine and wont miss a thing. however, if you cant afford it then forget about getting a life and focus on getting an education so you can get a job because when that baby comes, having fun will be the LEAST of your concerns. one day at a time...good luck!
2007-03-21 12:08:47 · answer #9 · answered by madi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know YOU are that little boys world?
When you see that baby in your arms for the first time ... you are going to realize he is the best thing that has ever happened to you.
He will love you more than anyone on this earth ever can, or will. YOU are his mommy. His everything!
Just because you have a baby .. you will still get to hang out with your friends! You can get a baby sitter and have cocktails once in a while! You don't have to give up your life! It will be a lot different when he is in your arms and not your tummy :)
congrats to you! good luck! God bless!
2007-03-21 11:50:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋