I'm breaking down and dying inside out but no one to talk to.Help needed!?

Question

i moved from my country to have traineeship in Germany,Frankfurt.A girl alone in the city herself. Language barrier,unfriendly germans,obstacles & cultural clashes on daily life,unsatisfying job.Worst, I have long term problems & arguments with my long-distance bf (me being Chinese, him being Irish - cultural difference?) of one year plus,which I'm so disappointed and frustrated over the problems we are having(not primarily distance,but more on personality clashes & non-stop arguments over the year). I'm breaking down,have suiciding thoughts,unmotivated in life and am totally alone.I have no one to talk to.Im not comfortable/used to relate my problems to my family and friends back home. I cant afford a counselor or physicist. I feel like dying inside and I thought I can handle it myself but I cant anymore.Im seeking for help.Anyone care for advice or lending ears?Or who knows of any counselor in frankfurt that can provide volunteering counsellin (english-speaking, my german sucks)?

Answer 1

First thing, do not pay for a counselor. You can get lots of support from anywhere even a coffee shop by starting with light conversation. Second, keep in mind Germany is NOT a cheerful country for outsiders. Seek out other people like yourself by going to the Chinese embassy if you must. Third, don't worry too much about the boyfriend because many relationships are not the last one and he may not be the right one for you anyway especially if he is not helping. If you just need to talk to someone girls can talk so easy by just saying to someone you are having a bad day. You are already off to a good start by communicating online

Answer 2

There are "pockets" of people with similar interests no matter where you go. One good idea already mentioned is the Embassy. Your case is so bad you might check in with the Red Cross. Kidding almost!!

I would think that the company you are working for would have some assistance. Most companies are spending good money for training and protect their investment - you.
***Tell them you feel isolated in Frankfurt and it is affecting your ability to make the most of your training. You don't have to tell them everything just stick with this statement.

Check out the Frankfurt Rotary Club. They made news about twelve years ago by accepting women members; who then had very little representation in management or social clubs in Frankfurt

I would take in the arts and music. Check out the university for student or off campus organizations. You might consider, and maybe your company would pay for, a class in beginning German. From the class you might expand your contacts in the community through the school.

Don't forget church groups which are international in scope.
I had not planned to check out Frankfurt this year for any of my brothers and sisters in the faith, pending a future trip. If nothing works for you contact me. I will try to put you in touch with a family you can trust; one that will be a real friend.

Answer 3

Hello there

Please take my answer seriously. I am a 30 year old woman who moved to Germany 6 years ago and it just so happens that I too am quite close to Frankfurt.
If you would like to, we could email and then if you feel comfortable maybe meet up and build up a good friendship.
I would love to help you and would be prepared via email to send pictures of me to show that i REALLY am a woman and not some kind of perv on here.

If you click on my name and look at my profile you will see an option of "email happy halloween"


take care of you and i hope you get in touch

Answer 4

Honey, you need to dump that boyfriend. The relationship seems to be bringing you down. As for the german's. I found them cold and harsh on the whole but like everything else there are exceptions. It's just their culture, but, if you're really unhappy go home or where you feel comfortable. You have all your life ahead of you, no strings attatched to keep you down, go and live it, do what you want to do, you're a long time dead.........LIVE NOW

Answer 5

It is horrible to feel so low and be in a strange country. You have computer access? So why not get on a chat site and talk or do you have msn.....phone......any form of communication and talk to a friend. Then surely there may be a way out if you look hard enough and are determined enough.....try not to be so low....all things pass. A wayout may be seking a job in a less hostile environment?

Answer 6

The most destructive habit.... worry
The greatest joy ...giving
The most satisfying work.... helping others
The greatest loss ....loss of self respect
The ugliest personality trait...selfishness
The most endangered species..dedicated leaders
Our greatest natural resource..Our youth
The greatest shot in the arm....encouragement
The greatest problem to overcome..fear
The most dangerous pariah....a gossiper
The world's most incredible computer..the brain
The worst thing to be without....hope
The most worthless emotion....self pity
The most beautiful attire ...........a smile - (SMILE:o])
The most prized possession....integrity
The most contagious spirit .......enthusiasm
The deadliest weapon .........the tongue
The 2 most powerful words........"I can"
The greatest asset .............wisdom
The most effective sleeping pill..peace of mind
The most crippling failured disease..excuses
The most POWERFUL force in life..........LOVE

I did not write these, I just thought they may help. I know sometimes it is overwhelming, but you are never alone. Do you have a journal? Do you have a bible? They may help if you have noone to relate to. If you'd like to email me, that's ok. I'm actually a really good listener, or in this case - reader. And I am German !-(don't speak it tho). You are worthy. You are sacred. You are part of a divine family. You are one in a garden of many. Don't worry, be happy. God bless.

Answer 7

I would recommend an english speaking (maybe even Chinese?) church, and I don't mean a cult. If nothing else, you should be able to find someone who will just listen to you. Please do seek help, don't give up and definitely don't end your life! Can you call home more often? With phone cards it shouldn't be that expensive....

PS Here is a possibility: http://www.rvccm.com/

Answer 8

hey hun..please dont feel like your alone..your really not.google to see if there is a counsellin volunteer where you are,or why not go to a bar where tourists hang out and meet some people who are travelling,my bro goes travelling alone mostly europe and always meets people who have become good friends,try talking to your work and explain your not happy..if all else fails feel free to mail me hun,you can talk to me whenever you like,sometimes you feel alot better talking to a complete stranger..i dont judge.

Answer 9

This is one of those times where you need to really look inside of yourself and figure out what needs to change. You have your reality...bad job, relationship, wrong country. Now you have to figure out the steps that will get you from this point to where you want to be. What will killing yourself solve? You need to find the courage within yourself to tough this out and begin making concrete steps to get yourself out of this situation. Nothing you do right now will be easy. But never equate the concepts of "easy" and "best." What you need to do is make the best out of your situation. Whatever steps you need to take, begin taking them.

Answer 10

wow you really are at a low point. don't despair now you have me to talk to and i hope i can help.....please feel free to mail me... XXX