through a roundabout method, i discovered internet conversations from my partner and someone else of a very sexual nature which in the end basically ended in an affirmative intent to set up a future time to "hook up". this supposed date is still in the future though. my question is... is what i discovered just questionable "flirting" or is it a clear sign that i'm dealing with a cheater, will be cheater???
2007-03-21 04:24:32 · 8 answers · asked by Harvard W 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Don't second guess yourself. If your partner had this conversatin, they have already started the cheating process. Your partner needs to decide what's important and stop messing around. As far as I'm concerned, as long as someone puts themself "in the game" they will eventually "play". As for you, it is hard to accept these things let alone talk about it if you were not supposed to know. So see how the relationship develops or how your emotional intimacy progresses, or not. In the meantime, take care of you and don't second guess yourself!!!
2007-03-21 05:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by susan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same issue about 7 months after my wife and I got married, and she was going to go through with it, having only not done so because he backed out when I confronted her with it. She called him to come get her and he wanted her to just live with me and be his booty call. We worked it out after the realization hit her, but there have been two more times that she has went through with it. The last time cuased the end of the marriage. Obviously, I was not what she needed, cause she looked for it somewhere else, to begin with.
The bible says "as it is an a man's heart, so is he". Which means that if it is something you have desired in your heart, you have as well as done it. Sounds like the desire is there, because if she wanted to be with you, she would not even broach that subject or allow it to be broached with someone else. Not trying to be cold or hurtful. It's just that, when a person truly WANTS something, that is all they focus on and don't let anything or anyone get in the way.
It's hard to deal with, and only you can make the decision as to what to do. I personally, just wish I had listened when all those people tried to tell me to leave her earlier on... I think I might have hurt less in the end...
Hope this helps...
2007-03-21 11:36:52 · answer #2 · answered by Simple Man Of God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him/her about it and get it in the open. And if that doesnt help tell him/her that youll drive them to the hook ups place and that their not allowed back home.
I flirt online as well as bars but it doesnt mean iam going to hook up and my partner knows this and I do about him. It might be innocent flirting, where u in the room at the time or was after you got to bed and he/she was still up? Your partner mightve been just bored
2007-03-21 12:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by Prometheus Cowboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you confront your partner with what you found? At least then he'll have the opportunity to defend himself...
Besides, never had any fantasies about someone, or never had an erotic dream about a celebrity? Does that mean your are cheating...
2007-03-21 11:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print it out and give it to him and ask why, what did I not do to keep you happy? What did I do to deserve this? When he give his answer make sure he is looking you in the eye if he is not then he is not worth keeping. Good Luck...
2007-03-21 11:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flirting is when I undo my top button, and smile a lot. If I make plans to screw, it's a cheat.
2007-03-21 12:10:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is a cheater in their hearts.
2007-03-21 11:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He's a cheater. I would confront him then break up with his sorry A.S.S.!
2007-03-21 11:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋