Stop trying so hard. Friendships are formed, not solicited. It took me until I was 34 yrs old before I made my first friend, and I couldn't have chosen a better person to befriend, if I tried. It just sort of happened. It will happen for you too when the right person cross your path.
2007-03-21 04:25:16
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answered by sleepingbeauty123 3
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Well, first of all, remember that you are NOT the only person who feels that way. Even if you don't feel confident, hold your head high, look straight at people, and you will appear to be confident. People dig confidence. When you go to your classes, strike up a conversation to the people next to you. Ask them what their names are, what did they think about the test, did they have trouble with that one problem on their homework? Then after you've talked to them a bit and feel more comfortable, ask if they want to meet for a study group before an exam. You could meet at a local coffee place or cafe. If you get turned down, try someone else. Not everyone is into the study group thing, but you should try.
I spent years as a very insecure person, but I put on an outward front that I was confident, outgoing, and friendly. I have always had a ton of friends. Ultimately, though, you're going to have to learn to be confident in yourself. You don't need anyone else's approval, but your own.
2007-03-21 04:24:49
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answered by Elise F 2
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You sound like the kind of person who will have a few really good friends instead of a lot of acquaintances. This makes for really good friendships. Start small talk, you gotta make yourself do it, it gets easier with practice. that's the only way to get out of the shyness. talk with different people and you will eventually find some one you can connect with. Good luck.
oh- one more thing I used to do when I was shy, go somewhere out of town, like a dance club (if you like that sorta thing) take a friend or cousin or anyone and practice there, its ok if you feel stupid b/c you dont know these people and you never has to see them again.
2007-03-21 04:26:29
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answered by Emily 5
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please, do not listen to Jessica you won't make friends that way. you'll experience some companionship, and perhaps feel loved, for about 20 minutes a pop but at the end of the day those aren't your friends, at all, in any remote sense of the word unless you trip some guy up and he falls in love with you, rather, grows to love you out of some lust he had originally.
now if you want to flirt with people and smile at them and put yourself forward that's one thing; and most people will actually talk to you first doing that, particularly guys. but you don't have to break out into a lengthy conversation with people, just say hi, flatter them, ask them about themselves, compliment them get them to talking about themselves, and you can sit back and listen. eventually people will get a sense that you are a friend, and maybe you are and maybe you're not only you know that, but when you're shy that's usually how it goes. you're never really, not shy, ever; i mean even now, like 20 years after the fact if i don't have much to say to you or don't see where there's anything in common i just won't speak at all. some people can, and will at length, despite all appearances and I've tried it and i just can't keep that up; i guess to each his own. hang in there it gets easier over time.
2007-03-21 04:26:04
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answered by collard greens with hash browns 4
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Being nervous is natural and not everyone is a born extravert.
First do activities you enjoy and join clubs--whether sports, culture activity etc because you will meet like minded people. Or talking to others in your dorm/housing area and doing small talk.
I find being friendly and smiling alot helps. If you are shy and quiet, you might be perceived as distant and snobby.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 04:22:38
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answered by Smithie95 2
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Don't you hate stupid smart-*** responses?
Anyway...
It's cliché, but to make a friend you have to be a friend - helpful, understanding, and real.
The reality of human social behavior is people are insecure for different reasons at varying degrees.
They key is to know how to allow someone to be comfortable around you.
Generally, people also prefer being around other people who are upbeat, which usually reflects their comfort level.
2007-03-21 04:32:28
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answered by superfastmoto 2
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well, just be yourself, and there is nothing to be shy about.
i was shy once but then i told myself that i just need to be confident and that i didnt want to be a loner so i just stood up and made lots of friends.
2007-03-21 04:24:55
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answered by CAMOSTYLE 1
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Trust is such a big issue these days. It is difficult to make good friendships. Be true to yourself and your friends. ALWAYS be yourself.....
2007-03-21 04:22:28
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answered by TS 3
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start dressing like a hooker, hang out with people who have a lot of tattoos and piercings, maybe get a job at a local strip club or bar...anyplace that looks seedy...
that should solve your problem...
oh yeah, be extra friendly to strange guys and girls who like to dress like prostitutes!
2007-03-21 04:23:57
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answered by Chris P 2
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Try being really easy. You'll make A LOT of friends then.
2007-03-21 04:20:38
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answered by Anonymous
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