Do you find that the vast majority of people you speak to don't actually listen to what you're saying? They pick up bits of what you've said, but don't appear to have taken much of it in. I have noticed this recently because I'm lucky enough to have a boyfriend who does listen and talking to him makes an interesting comparison to talking to a lot of other people. Do you fine people out there think this is true? And if so, why is it so?
2007-03-21 04:05:05 · 20 answers · asked by Princess Paradox 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh and do you feel a proper mug for listening to them?
2007-03-21 04:29:44 · update #1
I often feel that way about other people. But I know, for myself, that I'm often worried about the person liking me which causes me to not listen as well as I should. It's not that I don't care what they're saying, it's that I'm too preoccupied with the way the person is reacting towards me, or I feel attracted to a person, or I'm thinking about something the person said. Rarely do I just not listen for purely selfish reasons. The people you're talking to might feel the same way. I doubt a lot of people are that rude to just not listen (but then again, I don't know the people you're talking to...)
2007-03-21 13:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i guess blame it on society and putting other things in priority... and then people get pist on why the kids turn out the way they do .. and because nothing gets done.. bla bla... right? well people don't have time or don't care about what others are saying.. they are just thinking of their own problems.. if we had parents who will actually sit there and talk to their kids.. but most importantly listen.. I think things today will be differently... I know for the most part it is really hard to juggle many things at once.. but we should always find the time to listen.. =)
* i like listening to my parents, friends,bf..but i will say at times i find myself thinking on something else.. snap and start paying attention again ;)
2007-03-21 04:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by GIGI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find this also - when I am talking to people they pick little words out and turn it totally onto themselves - I then am the one bogged down with their emotional (whatever) state, as I dont take it away from them and end up listening to them. I get home all hyped up as if I have been drinking gallons of coffee. I laugh when they say I am such a good listener - if only. Why they do it.....I can assume they really dont have anybody listening to them at home - even if they have family there.
2007-03-21 04:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have noticed that also, and that people don't read some of the questions properly on here before they answer either. Some people when they've got the 'information' about you that they think they need then they just don't bother anymore if they think you are no good to them. Think yourself lucky your boyfriend listens.
2007-03-21 04:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by georgeygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the curriculum, go to a chat room you will find all these people saying something no one listening or responding or this in the large majority of communicationits like tv is one way and it transfers very few people know how to just be still
2007-03-21 04:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by jigadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately people are living such a rushed life with busy schedules.I have been blessed with good friends that take the time to listen.So in return we must all do the same.Be happy you have a boyfriend that listens.Remember in order to be heard you must listen also.
2007-03-21 04:21:38 · answer #6 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If only people would use their ears and mouth in the ratio to which they were handed out (i.e. two ears, one mouth - mouth should be used half as much). So many people, including certain friends of mine, will try to finish my sentences or speak over what I am saying.... then the following week when I say "oh, I'm off to see so and so...." they will say "oh, you didn't tell me that"...... BUT I DID!! THEY JUST WEREN'T LISTENING!!!!!
Ahem!! So, my answer is 'yes' - people don't listen as much as they should!!
2007-03-21 04:11:30 · answer #7 · answered by PrettyKitty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all relative. I find there are people who listen to you out there. But if you are in a social setting, people are too concentrated on meeting people to hone in on you and talk to you or listen to you all night.
But if you tend to talk alot and not listen to others, you might think they do not listen. In human nature, people like to talk about themselves. I know I like to talk, but lately I have stepped back and started asking questions and talking less about myself. I do listen when the circumstance warrants my full attention. If someone is rambling on something that is not earthshattering and their comments are inane, I must admit I do not give 110% of my attention.
2007-03-21 04:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by Smithie95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pay attention to heavy metallic daily yet not in basic terms that. It has replaced plenty over the years, so a number of what I call metallic, a lot of others does not agree. I merely pay attention to what i like and don't probable care what sub-form that's. i don't even understand the kind to tell the certainty. I hate labels!
2016-11-27 19:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are in a big hurry all the time. It's unfortunate but it's true. We've got so much to accomplish in one day that we don't take the time out for what is important. I find myself in this same scenario. We get caught up in the rat race.
2007-03-21 04:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by sassinya 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋