"I love U" but they are with someone else,are they just trying
to play you,now after all the mess,I don,t love the man and
want to my live my life because i am at the point of going forward(My child father said "I love you and told me he love
our child. what does this mean? because care maybe not
love it,s been like 6 months since separation.
2007-03-21 04:01:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you do not love this man then let him be and tell him you do not love him. Don't stress yourself over this, the tension will reflect when you are around your child. Trust me, I've been there. My ex-husband use to tell me these things all the time and I cared about him so much I let it get the best of me until I realized one day that he didn't love me. I was just his "safe place". I spent all that time being stressed and confused, I missed out on what mattered to me the most, my children. If he was a real man and a truly good guy he wouldn't be betraying his girlfriend. That is something you don't want to be in the middle of.
2007-03-21 04:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does love you and your child together but not in the way that will allow him to have a permanent relationship with you. He is immature and is thinking only of himself. The amount of love and care he has shown you is all he is capable of and it may or may not get better with time. He won't be any different with anyone else.
Ask yourself a few questions - "Is this the type of man I want fathering my child as he will have a HUGE influence on my child's development and thoughts and behaviors." AND "Is this man worth getting hurt over again and again (not just you but your child as well) as he is immature and has not shown any sides of growing up and being a responsible man and will let you down a lot?"
Love can be painful. It just doesn't always turn out the way we want with who we want. I can tell you that will get over it and learn from it and be a stronger person and it will bring you a step closer to the man you do want as you are defining your boundaries, expectations and desires from a man and you will look for those qualities in men when you are ready to date again.
You will be fine.
2007-03-21 11:13:58 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone may always have feelings of love for another, especially if they share a child. There is some degree of honesty with that statement, however, it does not mean that he is in love with you. It means that he will always have love for you, and that he probably misses the times you shared that were good, not thinking about the reasoning behind the seperation. You live your life, and it doesn't hurt to be amicable in the relationship. Just because he has love feelings for you doesn't mean that it is the optimal situation. Think about the reasons for the seperation, if you are willing to find solutions to the problems, and make a go of it again, then do so. However, more times than not seperations that have lasted for any amount of time, are just not meant to be, and you could be setting yourself up again for heartache and problems. Good Luck
2007-03-21 11:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by Austins Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only question you should be asking right now is "Do I love myself"? He cannot play you unless you let him play you. Love is an emotion and it is also a verb. Therefore it is something that you feel and something that is acted out. Now I'm going to ask you a question; do you feel it, and does he show it? Remember, a person can make their mouth say anything. If what he is saying and doing does not add up, then he's lying. Take this advice from someone with experience. Take this advice for what it's worth to you.
2007-03-21 11:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a classic case of not realizing what you have till its gone! If he is in love with you then he would leave this other woman and try to start over with you, and I mean start over not pick up where you left off. If he hurt you then you need to take it slowly IF you want to be w/him, if NOT then tell him that the only communication you two need to have is concerning your child.
2007-03-21 11:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see people have a habit of saying i love you this, i love you that. But they dont really know what love is, i mean have you really just sat back and thought about what is love. Next time he say i love you, ask him WHY? and if he just gives you a list of things, thats not love thats likes. Because everybody has their own definition of love. and if two people definition dont match up then thats when let downs happen, and question of love pop up..
2007-03-21 11:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by masterqbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like manipulation to me, it's good for him to love your child I would hope every man loves their children... But if you have parted ways and 6months later when you are ready to move on he says " I Love you" he is trying to hold you back don't let him bother you just forget what he said and move on...
2007-03-21 11:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by B-E-B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to "proof read" your questions before putting them on here! It's not making to much sense. Your ex has moved on with someone else so what is he saying this for. How can you believe him when he's with another woman? You are probably smarter to move on with your life since he doesn't know what he wants. Move On! Cocoa
2007-03-21 11:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person truly loves you, they would be with you, not someone else. Move forward with your life. He is at the "I don't want her but I don't want her to be with anyone else, either" point. Move on.
2007-03-21 11:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok now he says he loves you and yourr child but does he mean it mabey yes mabey no you have to find out your self but dont fall for him cause he might break your heart agin you will never know but if your heart says let him in let him in
Jazz
2007-03-21 11:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by JAZZYPHAE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋