I am a gay but my family dont know that because i scare my family dont accept it ? so is there any ideas to become a straight again ?
2007-03-21 03:59:40 · 18 answers · asked by Kelvin12345 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, your natural sexual orientation (LGBT or straight) is inborn and does not change.
You don't have a lot of control over whether or not your family is accepting of your true nature. There are only a few things that I can saw to help you:
1) This can change over time. When you decide to tell them (and YOU get to decide when you are ready to do this), stress that you are still the same person that they have always known and loved - they just know something more about you now.
2) Actions speak louder than words. The WORST thing you could do would be to shun or exclude them in return, if you get a negative reaction.
Good luck! I hope you become more comfortable with your true nature.
p.s. Please don't listen to any of the "ex-gay" malarkey. Such groups often steal your money and really mess up your mind, and have no results to show for it except for ruined, unhappy lives. Their "success" rate is less than 5% - and I have never met a single person who truly, really "converted" and was happy.
2007-03-21 04:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
You're going to get two types of answers to your question. Some will say "yes." Some will say "no." . . . But I would ask "what are you comfortable with?"
I understand your fear. Do you have a reason that you think your family won't accept you? Does your family believe that it is wrong to be gay?
This is something I struggled with myself. The funny thing is that for me (and this isn't true for everyone), I found out that my family loved me just as much, whether I was gay or straight. I also found out that it wasn't possible for me to change from gay to straight (because I was gay from the time I was born). . . .
I can't guarantee it will be the same for you, but I think you might have hope. Don't let fear control you.
2007-03-21 12:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by snowlan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are what you always were, and always will be. If you are gay, you always were, you just didn't realize it. From your other questions and answers, you're apparently still trying to figure out what you are. I have the feeling you're pretty young yet and just starting to socialize and just becoming aware of your sex drive and discovering what turns you on and what doesn't. People aren't necessarily all gay or all straight. You can like both guys and gals, but the older you get and the more experience you have, the more you'll probably lean more toward one than the other. Until you can say for sure that you like guys more than gals, physically and emotionally, I wouldn't worry about having to tell your family. Some people (like me) never do tell their families. It isn't a requirement that you tell anyone, or if you do confide in someone that you have to tell everyone. The important thing is that you recognize who and what you are and be comfortable with that. If you aren't true to who you really are, you're going to make yourself miserable.
2007-03-21 11:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your truly gay you should know its not possible to become straight, and what do you mean again? Gays are born not made. If you like men then thats what you like. If you are gay a woman cant turn you on. If you are gay you will stay a gay. Most families dont approve of their son/daughter or family member being a gay, but its who they are, and you cant try to change who you are because your family disapproves of it.
2007-03-21 12:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by FutureMrsBeck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there is no magic cure to make somebody straight. You are born the person that you are and you should accept the fact that you are gay.
You didn't say how old you are, but I assume that you are under 18 years old and still live at home. Your family is probably fairly religious and believes that homosexuality is a sin.
If I have guessed right, then if you rely on your family for a place to stay and food, then I wouldn't tell them until you are able to provide this type of support for yourself. You personal well being and safety must take priority over your desire to be yourself. I know that being yourself is always what I have said to do, but I have come to realize that you have to live someplace and have to adapt to the surroundings in order to survive. So in all reality, if you are unable to provide your own place to live and food on your table, then you have to play by the rules of the person that can.
I would pretent that you are straight until you can provide for yourself, then if you desire to tell your family that you are gay at least you won't be living out on the street.
Don't be fooled by people telling you that you can go to this website and they will make you straight or if you take this type of vitamin or mineral or dress this way or act this way then you will become straight. They are just fooling everybody and probably taking money and getting rich doing it.
Be yourself, but don't bring home a boyfriend, watch gay porn where you will be caught, or bring home anything related to GLBT activities.
2007-03-21 11:57:37 · answer #5 · answered by Joel 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. Is a gay cannot come to be again straight
2007-03-21 11:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by Some Random Guy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were never straight.
There is no reason for your family to know at the moment, so put it to the side. What you need to do is start being able to accept who you are. Get support from people whom you know will accept you for being gay.
If you try to ignore your sexuality and force yourself to be straight you will have a life filled with lies and misery. You deserve better than that.
2007-03-21 11:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by castle h 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If you're gay, you're gay, there's nothing you can do about it. Although if you want to hurt yourself by deluding yourself, go ahead, join one of those 'we can cure you' programmes Christians so love to promote, it won't work, but feel free to screw yourself up if you wish.
The best thing you can do is to accept your sexuality, if you don't live with your family and aren't financially dependent on them, does it matter what they think?
2007-03-21 12:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by TFR 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you are gay then you are gay and there shouldnt let anything try to change you. even if u could become "straight" then you were never gay to begin with.
2007-03-21 11:45:02 · answer #9 · answered by Libby 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
umm its not a straight, its called NORMAL..
but first off you could start look at girls and all their features. its kind of like a buying a car. look for the better features if you know what im saying. rent porn, umm search for it on google do something dude, cause seriously homos need to get the *** out or be straight once more. its a decision to become gay, its not a genctic informality as some like to put it.
2007-03-21 11:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋