I am 24, live in Toronto. I am about to buy my dream car (G35 coupe) in a few weeks, I have a great job, actually about to get a promotion. I have a great education, in fact I am working on my second degree now. I do attend church a few times a year, I perhaps should more. I volunteer, have a sponsored child, I donate lots of money...all the things that I believe should make me happy. The only thing is perhaps I am not with a girl right now, but I don't find myself looking for a girl...so I don't think that's it....
But sometimes I'll sit maybe light a joint, and think...."am I doing enough? why am I not happy?"
Any ideas? Should I just smoke more joints, cause that usually makes the thoughts go away after a while.
2007-03-21 03:53:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
First of all the joints DEFINITELY aren't going to make you feel better. They will make you feel worse.
Who knows it could be a girl. Have you had any abusive relationships in the past? Have you had just plain bad ones that are keeping you away from women?
Try to involve yourself in more activities. Help the community, join a sport maybe, writing workshops, what actually I find works the best is to write in a journal. Whenever you feel like smoking a joint first try writing in a journal see if it makes you feel better.
You are obviously not feeling satisfied. Do you like your job? Is there something you would rather do? Part of healing depression is asking questions to yourself. find out if there is anything you don't like or that's bothering you.
Good luck :)
2007-03-21 04:13:24 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wonder how much of what you are doing is because of others.
I mean, you say you have a 'great' job but is it really a great job because you think so, or is it a great job because that is what someone else made you believe.
The same is true about all the other activities you have listed. You list them as though there were some invisible societal 'list' you have to follow, and following that list, ipso facto, will make you happy; like dropping a suit off at the cleaners and, presto, 24 hours later it is clean.
You can't be happy if you aren't really doing the things that make 'you' happy. Yes, volunteering is good, but volunteering for the sake of volunteering, because of some implied social or religious pressure, defeats the purpose of engaging in the activity. If you are doing it to get some sort of brownie point, instead of because you care about the person you are helping and see your actions as being a benefit to them, undercuts the entire purpose. It's better to give one sandwich out of respect than feed a thousand with indifference.
Obviously, something is not adding up in your life, and thus you are using the joint as a means of making it go away. That's kinda like taking an aspirin to treat a brain tumor. Sure, the pain goes away, but the thing causing the pain isn't being touched.
People turn to 'chemical' happiness when they can't find a 'non-chemical' happiness, and that includes such things as food, drugs, sleep, adreniline rushes, etc. You really need to think/feel about what kind of life would give you the same kind of feeling as taking that joint would. When you understand that, you will see what measure of 'success' you are looking for.
2007-03-21 04:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Khnopff71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 08:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by allateef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your funny, you smoke pot and wonder why you’re depressed, you need to stop and re-evaluate the drug use and join a gym and work that depression out of yourself or some other exercise. If you need drugs to change your behavior then you have a problem and may need to go to drug rehab, drugs around the world have destroyed thousands of life’s and is about to do the same to you. You can't use drugs to change how you think the drugs do the thinking for you, if you don't believe me then stop the drug usage for a year and see how much change you have in your life, there will be a lot and then you will know the truth...
2007-03-21 04:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its things that have happened to u or u r scared of ur future.and b u need to go to church more anad pray regularly and if u dont believe in christ u should b cuz he can do all.it could also be the joints. pppllleezzzz dont smoke b cuz u r put urself and people around u at risk for respiratory problems and other things.and if u see a girl dont stare her down and dont b a jerk like dont make mean remarks or ne things that may offend her.theres some1 4 u just b patient.
2007-03-21 04:18:25 · answer #5 · answered by jayelle jewel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont smoke more joints it wont help ultimitly it will make you DEPENDENT. The thing about depression is its a real problem, and its a chemical thing. plently of people have it and have no factors in thier life that would cause them to have it. its common to feel sort of guilty for having nothing wrong in your life yet feeling like your not happy, but it can be changed. ask your doctor if he can proscribe you a medication.. it wont make you happy 24/7 but it may make you more sufficed with your life. good luck
2007-03-21 04:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pictsy♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your problem is more deep then the things you do every day.. do you feel fine with yourself? is there other things do you like to do?maybe you go to fast and you didn't enjoy the moment have past..think possitive,think you want to be happyand what can you do for yourself ?
but if this dont work maybe is a damage in your brain and dont smoke too much that can brings troubles a your mind....
low sefl auto-esteem could cause depresion.
distrassing events or biological predisposition could cause depression..
2007-03-21 04:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by Gioco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the joints making you feel down they are a depressant you know try getting out more join a gym get energetic maybe boost your moods a little good luck chuck :)
2007-03-21 03:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by clare w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just hormones, pot helped me, but I'd never recommend that. I smoked it for about 4 years and it leveled my hormones out. Its been 15 years and Im still fine. I hated antidepressants, they make you feel like a robot and were too strong for me....just my experience.
2007-03-21 04:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by Mark P. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not satisfied in order to be happy... we all get sad sometime... maybe you should go seek some counseling. that is a great help to figure out why your really deppressed. it could be to being tired ... maybe its just something simple and common
2007-03-21 03:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by gina g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋