How can I get my 12 yr old to do better in school?

Question

She can get good grades when she applies herself, but she just choses not to apply herself ,fails to turn her work in. I've tried everything I know to motivate her even taking her cell phone & computer time away nothing seems to work any suggestions?

Answer 1

Take all the time away so she has nothing else but school work to do.Ground her until u see improvement.No going out n school night n no phone call etc...during the wk.The only day she can go out is Fri n Sat.That is only if she has handed in her work all wk.Make her earn her things.There is nothing wrong with starting with nothing n making her work to get her things n life outside of home back.Have book for u n teacher.Have the teacher write at the end of each day.What homework is to b done each day n do a scale from 1 to 10 n have the teacher scale her.As long as it's a 7 n over it's been a good day.Anything less means a day on the wkend is taken.Hope these things help.I've heard many times when people r at there ends wit that taking everything except bed n dresser is good and making them earn it back has worked 95% of the time.U need to b a bit tougher n remember things might get worse b4 better sometimes.Good luck n hope this helps bye 4 now.

Answer 2

Well, the biggest part is for you to be tough so she knows you mean business. Put her on a schedule of when homework has to be done, computer time only when there is homework to be done on it. She should not have a cell phone! Have her use a homework book which you check each day when she comes home from school so you see what is due when and when exams are, then you must check homework when it is done. It's a LOT of work for YOU, but it will help her get back on the right track. You don't motivate her by taking things away, but by adding privileges. So start with NO privileges, and she has to earn them back. If she slides, things get reversed. She really has to develop better habits NOW.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Instead of discouraging negative behaviour encourage positive behaviour. When she does something you like regarding her work praise that just as much as you would punish negative stuff.

Also, make sure her diet is good, not too many sugars, this will screw up her concentration, so will too much TV.

Another thing, if she shows an aptitude towards something, and wishes to learn more about it, encourage it at all costs, because education is education, no matter what the topic. For example if she likes fashion, help teach her about fashion history through going to museums that feature historic fashions to history of how current labels came to be. This works for anything. Get her interested in learning.

Lastly, don't forget to talk to her, find out how school is, ask her how it's going, encourage her to talk to you. Something might be happening at school that's making her not do well, like if she's getting picked on, or if she feels she can't keep up, or that she may feel her reading is not up to par, or it could be she's not doing great in math. Then work with her to overcome the obstacles.

Oh and keep in mind that you may have to help her with scheduling her day, so like after school give her computer and TV time, but after dinner get her to do schoolwork(and maybe spend some time with her in case she has questions, if you don't know the answer offer to look it up).

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

i think u need to take time out and spend time with her by helping her with her home work just don't try to pressure her...or mayb she dont really understands an need a little help she its uo to u....taking away her cell an computer time will do nothing to her but make her more distant from u

Answer 6

consistancy is a must with kids I finally had to put my daughter on restriction and let her have nothing whenever a friend called I would add a day you will be surprised how fast you will get her attention if you are stronger than her.

Answer 7

I TOLD MY ELEVEN YEAR OLD THAT I DIDN'T CARE ANYMORE.

HE STARTED DOING BETTER WHEN I SAID HE WOULDN'T TAKE OVER MY BUSINESS ONE DAY.

IT WAS HARD TO DO, BUT IT WORKED ON THIS CHILD.