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My best friend is an aquarius since three years.We are there for each other mostly during our lows in life.We respect and care for each other a lot.Though CEO of a comapany at very young age he mock fights wid me just like childhood friend.Lately we developed soft corner which i told him clearly.We have never touched each other and wen we are together i ve seen him to be the most decent and well behaved.But lately after my confession he is texting me "What about a hug?or what if i cross limits?". I ve told him "no" and still we are best pals but can you guys tell me what does he mean by intimate text at times?I always feel that men behave with us the way we are.Till now I ve always maintained my dignity by keeping "NO" but it hurts me to say him no.What do i do.

2007-03-21 03:36:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

I thank "Hog Rock " and "mmem" and I wish I could surrender everything to what I feel is love but NO....as I believe a every hot love has a cold end.Let me stand firm till I can.I thank all of you especially for looking at it platonic.

2007-03-22 05:42:53 · update #1

14 answers

If you are 25 years old then this is the 21St. century be a 21St century girl.

3 years is a long time, be straight forward and ask him.

But do the home work.

Take a pen and 3 pieces of paper, on each piece of paper write down all you know about him. Then write down what you do not know about him. Then yet write down what you do not want to know about him.

Find things out. Hire an investigator if you must. Take your time, but do this first.

Example:

Is he married.......
Where does he live......
Where does he work... you said he is a CEO.....?
Does he live with his family (mother, father, brothers, sisters...).

Now take as many pieces of paper as you like and a pen and write down all about you, be honest, what your present needs are, what your future expectations are, ............

Go and update the other three pieces of paper.

You will have your answers, then you decide. Such decision are best made by you, you already have good answers but they are all guessing you need to make an informed decision.

No pain no gain, if you are not 25 years old (you are an engineer?), then build a carrier on your own, enjoy the friendship, play a little, work hard to achieve the goals, enjoy the youth, it comes only once it is gone it is gone forever.

2007-03-21 04:50:02 · answer #1 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0 0

Dear lady, take this from an older male who has done about everything with the young and old, HA. Please don't make things complicated dear, take your friend to bed and show him what a woman you really are. You would be surprised what can be settled there, and afterwards the both of you will have a better understanding of each other. It will ease tensions and give you more insight to your friendship. Darling , understand that he is just as frustrated as you are, and he don't know how to help himself. You do know how, just put it into action, you have to realize that your body is a very important part of communication. G Oh, don't take your self so seriously with the "no" attitude, you are not gold plated dear. Sorry don't mean to be unkind, just don't know a quicker way to say it. G

2007-03-21 11:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0 0

Sounds like your relationship may be going to the next step.

Do not be afraid of it. After all best friends and really knowing each other makes for a good if not often a great relationship and maybe just maybe down the road marriage.

Discuss the matter openly as friends would do and then take it from there. Ask yourself and him "What do I want?"

2007-03-21 10:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nana 4 · 0 0

u have got a good pal maintain it the same way it will be good for both of u .....keep moving with the pace without crossing the limit ...do not have soft corners when it comes to touch ...it will spoil everything

2007-03-21 11:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0 0

act according to what you feel. why are you saying no to him & then feel bad abt it later on?

and, have you even considered the fact that maybe he really is just being sweet or that he is just teasing you and you are just putting malice in everything he says now bec of what you've talked abt.

platonic relationships rarely happen, and sometimes people would even claim they never really do... but i believe the best relationships come from the best friendships. you may be on to something good... beware!

2007-03-21 10:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by schatz101 3 · 1 0

If it hurts saying no ... say yes.
If it hurst saying yes ...tell him how you feel.
If you cant tell him how you feel... you cant claim to be close friend.

Peopl often tend to stay quiet because they dont want to lose a person. But by doing this they are losing the person they are themselves. Dont freak out the you in yourself - take a stand.

2007-03-21 15:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by con_cer_earned 2 · 1 0

Trust your instincts, but also be on guard! Your friendship is good for both of you, do you really want a permanent formal relationship, you both need to think, talk, decide in a mature, adult, responsible way!

2007-03-21 11:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0 0

If it hurts to you then why do you say him ''no''. In my opinion you should frankly talk to him in a humble and polite manner. If you both are interested in each other and are fully devoted to each other then proceed ahead and marry, theres no problem.

Good Luck

2007-03-21 11:24:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It sounds to me that both of you want to be more than just friends. You need to sit down with him and ask him what he wants from you. You can't be 50% friend and 50% lover. You either give it your all or don't give it anything.

2007-03-21 10:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Tonya L 1 · 0 0

Is he looking for a friend to marry or one to use? Play your cards right - you only have one life on this earth!

2007-03-21 10:40:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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