I am a good looking women and I am willing to do anything with my husband that he wants. Am I wrong for this?
2007-03-21 03:35:48 · 17 answers · asked by Lisha Bug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Porn is addictive - he needs professional help!
2007-03-21 03:38:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pornography ruins sexual relations between a couple. Your husband gets an adrenaline rush or high when he views porn and has become addicted. He wants this "rush" and is not able to get that with you. Porn depicts sex in unrealistic ways, 3-somes, women to women, 3 guys and a women - and the list goes on - it's all degrading, loveless, and meaningless. Your husband will need to decide if he wants to work on this addiction - he has to first admit it is an addiction and then seek therapy. He needs to find something to replace the porn that will give him that rush. Jogging would actually do it but most people are too lazy to exercise and want everything "right now" and with "little or no effort."
Other solution - get rid of internet, pay for view, DVD/VCR player in the home. Maybe if it isn't easily accessible he'll replace it with something more constructive for your marriage - like getting in shape.
P.S. What you look like has no bearing on whether a man uses porn or not - trust me. You can be drop dead gorgeous and it wouldn't matter. It's not about that. Sure does hurt though, doesn't it? And there are those that will tell you to join him in his viewing and when that's not enough for him, ask yourself if you'd be willing to join him in a 3-some or do some swapping, etc.??? Just say no.
2007-03-21 03:51:18 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let anyone tell you that its because of you that he's watching porn. He will watch porn even if you were a Greek goddess because pornography is also an addiction. While almost all men (me included) at some point watch pornography ........ its the compulsive viewing at the cost of everything else (in this case a beautiful relationship with a beautiful wife) that requires help. Pl talk to him and help him understand that he CAN be helped through counseling.
Hope you get him back for yourself soon. :)
2007-03-21 03:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by sukumenon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am I wrong for this? No doesn't sound like you've done anything wrong. You're husband needs help. Choosing a movie over a real person right in front of him he must be delusional.
2007-03-21 03:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by guy o 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at porn itself, shouldn't be a problem but, when it starts to interfere with your sex life, that's when it becomes an issue.
It seems you have every right to feel upset. Your husband is neglecting you in favour of porn....you need to tell him how you feel and get this sorted out.
Have you considered watching it with him? It works for some couples.
2007-03-21 03:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he doesn't see you as a good looking woman. I've seen some women who think they are attractive. a lot of them are wrong.
Otherwise, maybe he likes porn. What was he like before you married?
Maybe he's bored with having sex with you and porn is his way of getting 'different' without cheating.
2007-03-21 03:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs another fovus on life and the many many hobbies and interests out there besides PORNO.
I would suggest you take a closer look at him as your ideal man for marriage, and wonder if he passes the mark, or is he too self-pleasing?
Is he selfish?
Maybe if you suggest your leaving to find better or more lovable sex with you in mind, he may change his priorities. If he does not, then consider someone who DOES.
The world has many men out there who needs a warm woman who cares,...maybe one is looking for you today!
2007-03-21 03:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by cullentoons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not wrong but if he's looking at porn more than making love to you then he's all wrong.
2007-03-21 03:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't change your husband...I assume you knew he liked looking at porn before you got married.
2007-03-21 03:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he likes to look at it MORE than be with you, he has a problem. If you guys use it to stimulate each other before making love, not a problem. But since he is withholding sex from you because of it, definitely a problem.
2007-03-21 03:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋