I know this is a diffacult situation for many women. Please ladies dont make judgements concering women in this situation. Easy for you to say leave him divorce him. so keep those comments to yourself.
2007-03-21 03:08:42 · 15 answers · asked by tonyflorida2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your man can still pleasure you orally...or with toys.
2007-03-21 03:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did not say why he is unable to have sex. Have you seen his doctor to discuss the issue? There are many medications on the market to help cope with Erectile Dysfunction. If it is some other problem, then the two of you will have to work on other methods of satisfying your sexual urges. Christopher Reeve was a paraplygic and his wife said they had a good sex life. I assume that he orally satisfied his wife. There are many "toys" sexual aids on the market that you might consider also. This issue is not for prudes. There may be some books on the market that would be of assistance also. You did not mention if you miss the sexual aspect of the marriage or if you both just think it has to be there for a marriage to work. Talking together is something you need to do so you each know what the other wants, needs, expects.
2007-03-21 03:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by curious74432 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For whatever the reason, you should stand by him. So many of my friends have gone through a situation like that. Their husbands are ill in some way (i.e. diabetics) and they want to start cheating or divorcing their husbands. If you absolutely have to be pleasured in a sexual way, their are other things he might be able to do, if he's willing. If not, ask him if it would bother him if you bought a "toy." If he says it will then don't. If that is the only problem with your marriage consider yourself blessed. Not being able to perform is no reason for divorce. I'm sure he's feeling less of a man because most men define themselves by their "manhood." He needs to know that you still love him regardless. Stand by him, and your marriage will be stronger because of it.
2007-03-21 03:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by spicy_salsa69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that by "can no longer have sex" you are insinuating that there is a physical issue.
If that is the case there is where the "For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health" clause kicks in.
I know it's hard but those of who are married took those vows, and they mean something.
I press this point so hard because I believe that you are going to get a lot of "you have to do what's best for YOU" answers and I HATE that! I am sick of the me, me, ME culture!
Contrary to popular belief, marriage is not 50/50, at best it is 60/40 on a good day. If it is your turn to carry the load then carry it with pride. If you husband can no longer have sex then his self esteem is shattered, and there is only one person in this world that he can turn to for help, and that's you. Show him love, understanding and compassion and once he comes to terms with his situation, he will figure out ways to return the favor.
In the mean time I recommend warm soapy baths.
2007-03-21 03:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by David P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-21 03:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit with him and ask what's going on. Is it his health or his in so much stress that's making him turn off. Most men can not or Willl not have a sex drive if their health is not that good,like high blood pressure. just see what you can do,and talk to him about it, his probably afraid to say something to you or ashamed that it wil make him a wimp...
2007-03-21 03:19:23 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explore other avenues together. Share experiences with others, as toys, go dogging, go to mixed sauna clubs introduce others....it does not have to an emotional thing, sex can be and should be no different from getting a massage.......
2007-03-21 03:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Leaving him is not the answer.
IF you need sexual release, ask him to do other things that fall more in the category of foreplay and/or go out and purchase a good personal toy.
Im assuming that medications won't work for your hubby or are health prohibitive.
2007-03-21 03:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by jhvnmt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I look at it like this. I can give myself an orgasm. What I can't give myself is the love, companionship, caring, and laughter that he gives me. Sex isn't everything.
2007-03-21 03:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lotus 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Help her find a suitable man to assume your sexual obligations to your wife. If you cannot fullfill your obligation as a husband to perform intercourse, then you must find your wife a suitable replacement for this marital obligation.
Perhaps, she will allow you to sit in the bedroom and observe, who knows?
2007-03-21 03:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
why can't he have sex?
is a certain part not functioning? is he paralyzed?
need details
but if is just ED he has other body parts that can bring pleasure
hands toungue.... sex is not JUST tween the legs
2007-03-21 03:16:47 · answer #11 · answered by ann s 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋