Have you ever found yourself saying that you hate someone? What do you really mean? What would your definition of hate be?
2007-03-21 03:08:21 · 19 answers · asked by PrettyKitty 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
When you are telling yourself that you hate someone it usually means they have conflicted with some moral, opinion, or behavior of your own. The behavior part could be their behavior being unacceptable by your standards or how they behaved badly to you. It also means that you do not have a clear understanding of the dilemma. It is hard to have an objective point of view when we are the ones involved in the conflict.
However, It takes too much energy to hate, so I do not recommend it. When you truly love you cannot find it in your heart to hate.
2007-03-21 04:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by dry2th 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me hate is something not to be said lightly. I hate my old manager at my previous job, and that hatred will never weaken because the guy was such a horrible person. he had no idea of what people skills were and his tact in dealing with you when he had a grievance left a lot to be desired, he decided to berate me in front of my colleagues instead of taking me out of the way and having a word in private. This happened several times and i advised him that i didnt appreciate is approach. Until one day id had enough and threatened him and advised him under no circumstances that he was to talk to me like an idiot ever again or i would not be responsible for the outcome, unfortunalty this did not do me any favours and i was fired soon after but i have seen him out and about and still want to hurt him badly and will do so given the opertunity
2007-03-21 03:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't hate anyone but my father...
I do tend to over use the word in heated moments...
I think it is a base character flaw that many of us angry little buggers suffer from.
It stems back to childhood... "I hate you" always seemed to get the biggest reaction. So I think for me anyway it implies and reflects just how badly someone hurt me in the moment.
So yes... The only Genuinely pure, unadulterated hatred I possess... Is for my father. Everyone else is just annoying mostly, not worthy of true hatred because that is quite the expenditure really.
The rest is just an angry shock word used as the expression of an angry little girl trying to show someone how badly they first hurt me.
Love and Hate are the polar opposites of a number line. One is the same as the other only from negative to positive...
If that is any compensation to anyone I have ever said it to? You have to first love someone to be able to hate them.
I think what Deadpool above is explaining, is jealousy? As you most certainly do have to have a very deep involvement with someone in order to be able to hate them...
Give the points to the guy below me... Very well said!
2007-03-21 03:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yup I truly hated someone 2 the point that I would hurt them. What hate truly means is to try to control what you can't by force and to dislike someone for there actions. But hate can be like a double edged sword where it hurts you inside and turns you into very ugly thing you don't ever want to be. The best thing is to forgive those who trespass on you.
2007-03-21 03:23:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
to truly hate is when you want to have no connection to this person. or oppose what they want, say or do... You belittle their thinking and actions... You make them feel that they can never do anything good.... you think that why is that person so full of himself.... You know the way you see yourself sometimes when you are angry at yourself... you hate yourself sometimes, but this turns out to be vented on someone else...
Hated someone before, but now I only wish that person to see that there are more important things in this world that money can't buy...
2007-03-21 03:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by DEADPOOL 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
to really hate, someone they must have done something terrible to either you or someone you love dearly. You would also probably have to know them really well for them to have such an effect on you. And when you think about them it would have to hurt you to the core of your being. It is not a nice load to carry and best to let the hate go and forget them.
2007-03-21 07:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by wally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we are really angry at some one and wish harm to that person, we say that we hate that person, we wish he drops dead etc. We also say we hate a person with whom we had a long negative relationship, which has poisoned our mind.
Hatred comes as a strong and steady negative emotion unlike anger which is transient. All negative emotions come from our duality, our sense of difference with the other, and our feeling of righteousness etc. Once we realise at the heart level that we all are parts of One, we will probably realise that the negative emotions are the products of our lower nature.
2007-03-21 03:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Swamy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I "hate" to say this but it means you have a problem. Hate hurts you and does nothing to the person or object hated. Hate is a very stressful emotion and you need to let go ... to give up the hatred.
Do what you can to make things right and let people know where you stand, but let go of the hate. It damages you. Make sense? I hope so. Smile and enjoy, it drives your enemy crazy.
j
2007-03-21 03:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry H 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I have said it, meaning that I can't stand that person from a mental and physical stand point. But with me in time I find that hate just turns into dislike. Sort of out of site out of mind. I never forgive a person who has "done me wrong" even if as time goes by I have forgotten why I "hate" or dislike them etc. But then that is just me.
2007-03-21 03:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by Dale 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone has said it! We only hate people who affect us. It's not the opposite of love, because the opposite of love is indifference. Hate can be temporary. You can hate someone you love, because they've hurt you for example. The impulse is to strike out...any way we can...and hating is one way of expressing our rage, disappointment or whatever. "I hate you, I could kill you!!" - we've all felt and said that I think! Don't confuse it with evil, which is the cold, calculating of doing harm to someone.
2007-03-21 08:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋