Im incredibly frightend of having a baby. Im only 16 and the boy i had it with punched me and walked out when i told him i was pregnant. Im scered I wont be able to cope and that my ex-Boyfriend might come back and hurt me or my baby. I dont want my baby to be in danger but the only 2 alternitives i can think of are adoption which i dont want or giving her to her farther! Should I keep her or what! IM SCEARED. Please help me
2007-03-21 02:40:52 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You're 16 and a stripper? You're really horny, etc.? I think that's what got you in this situation to begin with. I don't usually say this, but I think your child (if you're even pregnant) would be better off being raised by complete strangers than you or the father.
http://answers.yahoo.com/my/profile;_ylt=AihkOnMM14nYsR7I7qwh4nd97hR.?show=nDhazbddaa
And then she goes and changes it. At first it said, I'm sexy, horny. I'm a stripper with a pink see-through thong, etc. etc.
And then I get thumbs-down for pointing out the truth? She's the liar. READ HER PROFILE!
Thank you, Bobby!
2007-03-21 02:45:15 · answer #1 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Your afraid that the father could harm you or the baby but your thinking about giving her to him??? Why would you do that if you had any doubts? No, never put the baby in harms way. Women have babies everyday and many are just like you, young and afraid. Who has been supporting you while you have been pregnant? Your mother and father where are they?
I too am due in two weeks with my second child and am afraid but, it's normal to have those feelings. This is your baby and when it comes down to it i would do anything for my children even if that means growing up and taking responsibility. I'm not trying to come off harsh but i just don't want you to give up because of your age. When i was 16 i was basically raising my brothers kid. I think right now your scared of the labor but you'll see once that little girl is in the world and you hold her for the first time, it's amazing how you can fall in love and do anything to protect her!
If you feel that you just can't do it on your own than you can consider adoption but never but her in any harm.
Screw the father you should had pressed charges on him when he hit you! Get a restraining order if he tries to come near you and if you have support at home than keep your baby!! Don't do anything that you may regret.
2007-03-21 02:52:51 · answer #2 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should do what you think is best for you and your baby!, I think if you want to keep that baby then you should, im sure you have family that could help you out for now, like watch your baby while your at school! things like that, and if your worried about your ex coming back and hurting either of you then i would most deff. tell someone and dont consider giving the baby to the father if hes harmful(not a good idea)...or you can also give the baby up for an adoption if you feel that your not ready to become a mother quite yet!...theres many people out there that cant have babies and would love yours as their own! either way! Its hard to deside what to do when your that young, just always rememeber if you do give your baby up for adoption, make sure thats what you really want to do..It will be very hard if you regret it later...and if you keep the baby..im sure youll get all the help you need for now, talk to your family is a must, you should start there! goodluck hun and i hope everything works out for you!
2007-03-21 02:55:55 · answer #3 · answered by babygirlz3n2 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please, stop and think. You are 16! Think about this child. will you be able to provide for it emotionallt and financially. Married parents have a hard time with this. The mere fact that you are considering adoption is a good sign that you are actually thinking about the wefare of this tiny helpless child.Giving this baby up for adoption is brave and noble because you know that there is a family in desparate want for a child who can provide the safety, security and love the a child need to become a good adult. If you give it up, I have the most respect for you. Your daughter will inderstand that you made the ultimate personal sacrifice so that she could be cared for the way she was meant to be. Every child deserves a FAMILY. Honey, you are just too young to be a parent. Give it up for adoption and finish school. Use birthcontrol and don't make the same mistake again. Live your life and grow up, get married and then have a family.
2007-03-21 03:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa G 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's normal to be scared when you are about to have a baby. If you really want to have the baby and raise it yourself, get an order of protection and tell your parents your fears. You should not have to worry about your safety or the baby's. If you feel you cannot raise this baby for other reasons, it's not too late to make an adoption plan if that is what you truly feel is best for the baby. You will need the father's consent for that though. Good luck. Please talk to your parents, a cleryman or the police if you feel he is violent and may harm you or the baby.
2007-03-24 07:05:44 · answer #5 · answered by Joanne D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to be scared about!! I was a teen mom and i cant tell you it isnt going to be hard because it is.. you will have bad times and good but i would have to say now that i would not give them up for the world. I had my first when i was 17 and you have your parent right they will be more than willing to help you out when ever they can.. Every thing will be Ok!! I finished high school and now im in collage I am now 26 But I am back in school .. Youll get the hang of it and dont you dare give that baby to the father he doesn't what it!! I was also in an abusive relationship and I'll tell you right now if he hit you now he'll hit you agine.. So whatever you do don't get back with him nomater what he says to you because it always happens agine!!! best of luck
2007-03-21 03:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by jess_n_e 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, calm down. Dont give the baby to someone who punched you.
If you feel you cant look after your baby then speak to someone now about adoption possiblities - they will give you the help and support you need to do this.
Do you have a family that would support you? If so then maybe your mum will not mind helping you bring the baby up? If you dont then there are people who can help with parental skills, support and help to set you up in a new home.
Please dont be scared. It is hard work having a child, but if you can learn to be calm and caring you will get on fine.
Good luck and take care
2007-03-21 02:47:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a decision only you can make. If you are truly scared than you can do something about being contacted by who you are scared of. Restraining order ect.. If you feel like the father can take better care of your baby than that should be your answer. But if you are scared he'd hurt tha baby I would talk to an adult. You don't sound too sure of yourself if you only hav e2 weeks to go and don't know if you should keep teh baby or not. Are you prepared? Ready? have any support around you???
2007-03-21 02:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This must be a very frightening time for you, but in a few weeks time when you hold you baby in your arms, you will know that you will be a great mum and that you and your baby will be just fine.
Everyone who is about to have a baby gets scared. I am 29 and married, but I worry about how I will cope!
Don't rush into any decisions about giving your baby up for adoption. You will have to live with that decision every day for the rest of your life. If you keep your baby, in a few years time you will wonder how you ever managed without him or her and be so glad that you went through with it.
Be strong. You will be just fine.
2007-03-21 03:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY: number one, If the two of you are no longer together then I would have to advise you to talk to your mom about bieng frightened because you think he is going to hurt you or this precious little baby.....then the two of you (you and your mom) need to go up to the police station and get a restraining order....He has no right to put his hands on you and you DO NOT HAVE TO BE SCARED FOR YOUR UNBORN CHILD!!! number two....you have an innocent life inside of you and the minute that you have this baby and hear it's very first cry and look at it's precious little face you won't be letting that baby go nowhere but home with you.......if you need any more advice.....babygirlnorwalk@yahoo.com
2007-03-21 02:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by Sam Fisher 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he hit you dont you think he'll hit your baby. Get help from the authorites to keep him away from you and your baby. If they cant help you bc you didnt report the incedent than look hope the abuse hotline for your area and get them to help you. If you want to keep you baby then you have to do whatever you need to to make that happen. If you just arent ready and adoption is an option for you then you need to contact catholic charities right away bc it'll only be ten times harder to put the baby up for adoption after you've cared for it for awhile. either way good luck to you and be strong dont let a lousy boy push you around.
2007-03-21 02:56:16 · answer #11 · answered by starrmerlan 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋