My daughters only 14 & in 9th grade. I don't know if it's just my state or if Career counselers go to all freshman classes, but they want her to pick a major that she should have in college. She has no clue what she wants to due but is feeling alot of pressure from her guidence counseler. Unfortunately she gets stressed very easily & doesn't have it in her to tell the counselers where to go. My advice to her was to tell them that her familys wealthy & will never have to work so she doesn't need college. Do you have any other suggestions that might help the counseler stop pressuring her?
2007-03-21 02:37:17 · 14 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tabia- My family is not wealthy. I just told her to say that so they'd get off her back
2007-03-21 02:52:18 · update #1
Just tell the counselor that she is interested in General Education and that she will decide when the time is right or Tell her that she is interested in being a school counselor and wants to be able to harrass freshmen every chance she can get about college..when they are only focusing on graduating high school at the moment.
2007-03-21 03:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Career is not a matter of chance but a matter of choice and this situation revolves around the question of age in career, I personally do not think that there is a specific age for deciding upon the career, History is full of examples as to how people switched into careers based on interest, It all depends upon one think interest and passion, I your daughters are interested in science or economics, there is no best way than to have it their way, it will be like Choose a Job you like and you wudnt have to work a day for the rest of your life...Passion and interest are the deciding factors..and Counselers can sometimes be wrong as the human mind is not rational, there might be irrational behaviors too...but analyse the counselers choice and life is all about stress, tell me a situation where there wasnt stress and also that at the age of 14th there is some peer pressure, and be a cut above the rest, but let her analyse the problems and you too motivate her and make some judgement and monitor her performance over a broad platform, encourage her to do things the right way and also treat her in a very good manner with respect because its now the foundation is built, psychologists concur that if the child is demotivated there will be negative imbalances, so take things in a positive way, understand your daughter and help her in her success,
2007-03-21 09:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by Aditude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's their job to pressure her. The system is demanding that earlier and earlier, children plan out their whole lives. They claim it reduces the number of high school/college dropouts if they have a plan for where they are going in life. I'm just waiting for when children will have to declare a major before they enter kindergarten.
I personally find nothing wrong with keeping your options open, and a little indecisiveness in that stage of life is normal and acceptable as one peruses their options. What I find more disheartening is how many people end up wasting two or three years of college in a major they thought they wanted when they were in high school- only to find that it's nothing like what they expected.
This situation is a rock and a hard place, because the counselor likely isn't going to let up no matter what you say to her. Just explain to your daughter that she doesn't have to have an answer set in stone, but she has to give the counselor a little something to work with, even if it's not really what she wants to do.
2007-03-21 09:56:49 · answer #3 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just say she doesn't know what career she wants at this moment in time and if any body pressurises her to think of something you should get involved as it can be a form of harrassment. Tell her to tell the counseller that she doesn't have to choose a career and it is her choice not to. The other thing she could do is make something up or have a good think about it, people always change their minds and from my experience the career counsellers are useless anyway
2007-03-21 09:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by wildteddybear07 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stupid, insensitive people don't deserve the time of day. And some people with degrees should never be allowed near children. She can just refuse to talk to her counselor, you know (and should).
People haven't been stuck in one career since the Dark Ages. I've changed whole careers 5 times so far. I went to college wanting to be an engineer, went into teaching instead, then into manufacturing, then personnel, and then into finance, with a smattering of information technology along the way, wherever opportunity led me.
Ask any buggy whip manufacturer how his "career" is going these days. Or if your parents ever regret not investing in young Bill Gates' start-up venture, MS-DOS.
2007-03-21 11:48:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she have to meet with this counselor regularly? They shouldn't be pressuring her too much at this age. Even if she told the counselor she wants to be a nurse, for example, she doesn't have to do that when she gets into college. I mean, she has plenty of time to decide what she definitely wants to do. Tell her to just make up a major to tell the counselor so they'll get off her back.
2007-03-21 10:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in my second year of college and I still dont know for sure what i want to do. 14 is far to early to expect a kid to know what they want to start when they turn 18 or 19. No one REALLY needs to know until their second year of school, or even later if they dont mind being in college an extra year. The education system in america begins pressuring children at such a young age to make desicions that they arent all ready to make. I would encourage your daughter to express to her counselor that she is not ready to make such a hard decision but she will choose a couple of things that interest her and look into them. I learned that you cant always let your academic couselor push you into things, it got me into trouble and now i am paying for it...and by paying i mean actually money...she pushed me to pursue a degree i didnt want...so tell your daughter to explore as much as she needs to...Good Luck
2007-03-21 11:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by Soon to be Mrs. Welsh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be something she likes to do. Even if she changes her mind later on, she will already have an idea of what is inquired "on the field".
I think money has nothing to do with a career, it is more for your personal development. Everyone should be able to do a job they like and where they feel useful.
2007-03-21 09:49:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mo G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People really start thinking young but as you get older you start to find things that you are most interesting in. I think kids should start thinkin when they're at least 14yrs. old. I dont agree that since your family's wealthy she dont have to go to college. I think you should be teaching her how to be independent and she also can be very wealthy and some day have kids of her own and be able to support them. If she gets stress just tell her to take her time, she has a while to think about it. Just make sure she finishes High School.
2007-03-21 09:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by tabia l 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ask the counselers to give her a career test.
2007-03-21 15:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Thanh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋