My dad just passed on Jan.1st And I feel like I owe him something. I have his ashes. He wanted to be spread out in a lake of his choice. Should I have a small party in his honor? Close friends or open? I am the only child, so everything fell into my hands all at once. I am still kind of overwhelmed at everything. I need some advice. thanks!!!!!
2007-03-21 02:35:30 · 6 answers · asked by ? 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
A gift from the heart is the best one of all.
However you structure the event will be the best way. Consider having a short ceremony where you acknowledge your dad's life (struggles, accomplishments, interesting or sentimental observations). Invite all whom your pop would want to be there, and if you want to let them know they can share some comments, that's great. If they wish to remain silent, good too. However you design the ceremony will be acceptable; this is a gift to the survivors as well as a parting farewell to dad. While memorials in my family always involve food and alcohol, you can tailor your get together to fit the need at hand.
I'm sorry for your loss, bless you and your efforts.
2007-03-21 02:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Boomer. You honor your dad by thinking of him and remembering the good times you've shared. He will always be in your heart and vice versa. He should be proud to have a son that loves him so much.
As far as when you spread the ashes, do you want many people there? Would it be better to have some people to support you as you spread the ashes or would you prefer to be alone at that time? This is something only you can answer.
If you don't make it open to other people, then I say absolutely have a party in his honor. Display plenty of photographs and make the party about celebrating his life.
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-21 02:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by chica_liss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you think your dad would of wanted, would he of wanted a private informal gathering to remember him & say goodbye? Or would he want anyone who wanted to come & pay respects? You would know this, not us. But, I recommend when you plan what you will, you sit down, think about your dad, and write from your heart. Write the good times, the funny & hilarious times, and at the end ~ something like "I'll see ya later dad", God bless you through this difficult time. I have lost a parent also, so I can somewhat relate, I wrote a poem to say goodbye & thank her for everything she did- and how she let us learn things on our own. Do what you think is right. If you need help with writing, email me, and I can help you write a poem, takes me a few minutes to write a poem if you give me some details about him. But I'm sure you will do just fine. Good luck and stuff.
2007-03-21 02:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a small memorial gathering of whomever you feel is appropriate, share your memories and then have a quiet ceremony where you spread his ashes. Give it some forethought, plan it out and do it all with the utmost sincerity.
2007-03-21 02:44:40 · answer #4 · answered by Zee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Act as if he is looking over your shoulder at all times; he is. My father always told me that he had many of acquaintances, and if he were blessed, he could count his true friends on one hand. I've always wanted to be one of them.
2007-03-21 02:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tod B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what he requested, invite family and a few of his close friends.
2007-03-21 02:38:17 · answer #6 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋