Ive only been married for a month and I dont think my marrage will last. Me and my wife fight everd day and every night, I love her with my entire being but she pushes me away and for what seems to be no real reason. She was unemployed for a while and I supported her but she still fought with me about not being home enough. She was such a beautiful woman and now she is just down right mean and selfish. How do I get out before its too late?
2007-03-21 02:25:57 · 16 answers · asked by madfly2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Too late to get out, seek counseling, how long did you date before marriage ? should have been 1 year. How old are you and her ?
2007-03-21 02:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have there been any dramatic changes in her life since you got married? Did you move to a new place or was she forced to quit her job for some reason? Is there any reason at all why she may have this anger built towards you?
I think that if you love her that much you may want to consider marriage counseling. With the divorce rate being so high I hate hearing that people who actually love each other are thinking about taking the divorce route.
Don't take the easy way out. Find out what is wrong & try to fix it before you get a divorce.
2007-03-21 09:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this before,a friend of mine went through the same situation,most of the answer was hidden in the wife's depression and insecurity with the situation.She used to make up fights and start arguments over nothing or over trivial issues.Sometimes it's not the person by the circumstances that makes it hard to bear each other.Maybe you should consider addressing this in her,her reaction to that certain period of time.After this is cleared you can then address her targeting her intentions and new personality.But first make sure to check out all the surrounding factors.Divorce is always the last option,sometimes the easiet of them all.
2007-03-21 09:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nash7979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. See what's going on with her??
Does she work?
Does she just stays at home, till you get back from work??
Let her join some activities. Every couple fight, especially in the first year of marriage, since they didn't live together before they wed, and they're just finding out about each other.
Talk to her, Ask her what's the matter. Listen to her, don't just hear her. Help her. Help your marriage.
And of course, if there's no result, better divorce or annulment before a baby comes along....
Good Luck
2007-03-21 09:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by ♫ Chloe ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation.
It seems like a love turned horribly sour.
Well I guess the best choice would be to have a heart-to-heart talk with her asking what problem she really has with you.
Tell her you feel that she's acting irrationally but also ask if you've done anything wrong.
If that fails to solve your problem, you two could ask for an amicable split.
Maybe some time to cool off.
After all, absence makes to heart grow fonder...
2007-03-21 09:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell her that if she does not change her ways, that you are out the door. As soon as she knows that you are serious about this she should changer the beat of her drum. If she is not ready to change her ways, you leave and you find someone new. Nobody deserves to be treated like that man, I have been there and most people have been there. But most people dont stay there long. My advice.. leave and find someone you are truly happy with
2007-03-21 09:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jesse N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there is not need to say " didn't you know this about her before you got married" so i won't. Ok lets look at this......Isn't one of the verses for marriage "for better or for worse"? listen don't just run when the gettin get tough. Talk to her, go to a marriage couselor, relax,.
2007-03-21 09:32:31 · answer #7 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow....there's alot of factors you have to consider were you living with her before you married her? If no then the first year of living with someone is well "hell" you have to adjust. maybe talk to her because she is going through something right now too, its very easy to walk out on ur problems but harder to talk through them and resolve them. Good luck and how come you find it easier to ask strangers there opinion, but harder to talk to your own wife?
2007-03-21 09:32:34 · answer #8 · answered by purrtyygurrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First try and find out why she is acting that way. Maybe it is something that can be fixed. Tell her that things have to change if yall are going to work. Find out if there is anything you do that bothers her and you tell her what bothers you about her. Work from there.. I hope things work out and good luck to ya
2007-03-21 09:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if things don't change, you will seriously consider divorce.
Sounds like there may be more going on with her. Ask her about depression.
2007-03-21 09:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋