My bf is 51 and I'm 29, some members of my family r given me a hard time cos he's too old!! We're very much in love and this is the first time i have loved a man or felt this happy since coming out of a real bad relationship 7yrs ago. what should I do? I dont want to loose my family or him.
2007-03-21 02:24:20 · 21 answers · asked by cheekychik11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's your business and you're an adult.
make your own choices and live for you and your happiness.
Stay away from those who do not support your choices and decisions that make you feel good about yourself and your friendships and relationships. Again , it's you're life and your business and I cannot stress that enough; especially if you're not being abused.
Family will always be family. some things just take time to get used to. As soon as they see you are happy and all,they may come around. but i dont think you'll "lose" them..unless..they are more important than you..and him..?
Good luck!
Age is just a number and if you're happy then smile and be proud you found a man, not a user, loser, abuser, cheat, etc
2007-03-21 02:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by Gary G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I think that as long as you really love eachother (which you obviously do) then things like age really don't matter. You are old enough to make your owns decisions on who you see and your family will come respect that in time. Some people will have trouble for a start but once they see how happy you are I'm sure they'll come round.
2007-03-21 06:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by snowball_2328 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age really doesn't matter. If you are happy then enjoy and the longer you are together, the more your family will realise you are happy together and they will probably lay off you. People's ages are only relevant in the their body, not in their hearts and heads. And it CAN and DOES work as long as you are realistic. My Auntie was married to a man 25 years older than her and they had a very happy 11 year marriage until he died. But that's what you have to accept. My husband is 11 years younger than me but in his head, he is older! We have been together for 13 years and are very happy. My Uncle is married to a lady who is 26 years younger than him, they have three great sons and have been happily married for over 20 years. Enjoy and just be realistic. But love conquers all, you know. Don't take any notice of the sceptics!
2007-03-21 02:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by JENNIFER 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there, i know what it is like to be in a relationship were there is an age gap im 23 and my fiance is 36, my family were shocked at first because when we met is was only 20 and he was 33, this was a very big deal, but my family soon saw how happy i was compared to how i had been with my ex, and when they got to know him they fell in love with him too. he is now part of the family.
you have to understand that the fact that your boyfriend is probably as old as your parents is a big deal to them, he has so much history behind him it is hard to come to terms with that. you need to be patient with them, let them know how much you love this guy and they will soon learn
2007-03-21 03:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman. No one can tell you who to fall in love with. It would be a lot different if you were 13 and he was 35. You are both mature adults and I'm sure you can make the decision yourself. I don't think you will loose your family, just sit down and talk with them about it. Tell them that simply you fell in love, and that you don't care about the age, it's whats in your heart. Good Luck!
2007-03-21 02:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley_Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you truly love eachother and you are happy then you should stay with your man. Inform your family that you are a grown woman and can make your own decisions, be them mistakes or not. In the end, your family may not be happy with the choice you've made, but they should respect your ability to make it.
2007-03-21 02:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by Speak 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love each other go for it i have a sister who has married a man a lot older than her and they get on so well take no notice of other people my sisters been married now for 20 years so it does work go where your heart tells you .your old enough now to decide what you want out of life and if he makes you happy then prove your family wrong and give it your best i wish you both well x x
2007-03-21 06:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife of 11 years is 14 years younger then me and we have two beautiful daughters and age difference has never been an issue for us. I always joke and say a man is as young as the woman he feels.
2007-03-21 02:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by ANON 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't end it with him just because of our family.
If you really love him, enjoy your time together and give your family time to get use to it. It may take a while but once they see how happy you are together, everything should be OK.
Maybe you should talk to your family and explain exactly how you feel.
2007-03-21 02:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a grown woman and can make your own decisions. Tell your family if they love you they'll just have to except it. If you are happy, that's all that matters.
2007-03-21 02:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dyme Diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋