The order says that neither parent can have overnight guests of the opposite sex to whom he or she is not related, engaged or married when in possession of the kids. If he would just live decently, we wouldn't have needed a court order, right?
I date, and I don't have men over when the kids are there ( or not, actually). What makes that so hard?
2007-03-21 02:21:05 · 11 answers · asked by tiaburkeangry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
abc. LOL!!
2007-03-21 02:25:56 · update #1
Aren't you the same people who would kill anyone who gave your kid a chip or a candy bar and who want the government to ban transfats?
2007-03-21 02:28:18 · update #2
dream on tara. it is a signed and filed order. thanks for playing.
2007-03-21 02:36:21 · update #3
dream on tara. it is a signed and filed order. thanks for playing.
2007-03-21 02:36:24 · update #4
some people need to be told to be decent around their kids. he stated in open court that he thought that it was ok. apparently the judge didn't agree.
2007-03-21 02:37:29 · update #5
Why is it so hard for some people to be good role models for their children? Is it so hard to at least be one when you have the kids a couple nights a couple nights a week? I can't answer your question as to what makes it so hard, I just can't figure it out myself.....
2007-03-21 03:14:29 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually know a few people that had stipulation. If there are people in and out all the time and doing things around the kids then I think that should be part of the order. However in many cases the ex just wants to control the other person and that's not right. Without knowing more about your situation though I wouldn't want to comment on what your motivation actually is. Just make sure that every time you go to court that your motivation is making sure your kids are safe not that you are trying to dictate to your ex what he can or can't do based on what you do.
2007-03-21 10:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting that clause in a divorce agreement is pretty much standard procedure when kids are involved. I agree it probably shouldn't be required to make people behave decently - but , unfortunately, there are those out there who don't use good sense when it comes to the effect their actions have on their children. I know I had it in my agreement and was glad I did when my ex decided to go through his second childhood with a steady parade of women in and out of his life. Call me old fashioned but I did not want my teenage daughter to be exposed to that lifestyle and to grow up thinking casual sex was the norm. I too did my share of dating after the divorce but there were no "sleepovers" involved.
2007-03-21 10:17:57 · answer #3 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does a judge feel he has the right to put that in a custody order? That's really none of his business. I've never heard of such a thing. Next, he'll be telling you who you can date. the government REALLY needs to stay out of our lives! This is not what our founding fathers wanted when they brought us here to the new world. We just left a place where the king told us who to marry, who to date, what sex to date...we'd be better off if we were just left alone in the matter. (I believe a couple of the same sex can marry if they want, what business is it of mine?)
2007-03-21 09:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda normal for divorces that could go south. You say if He'd just live decently, if this is the case then if it would be on him BUT it sounds like there is allot YOUR not saying about this that leave your question with open ended answers.
2007-03-21 09:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an uncommon situation. As long as it is truely being done in the best interest of the children, and not just some vindictive ex- trying to make things more difficult than they have to be.
2007-03-21 09:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The judge probably didn't put it in your order - it is standard legalize. You can choose to leave it in or take it out when the order is presented to you to review. These things are usually pretty hard to enforce.
2007-03-21 09:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that judge was on a power trip.i guess if people want to continue to control their ex's life they can have anything they want put in the decree i just wanted it done and over,that doesn't mean i was bringing people in over night or their father was but i just gave both of us enough credit for being adults and didn't think we needed to be told to be decent around our kids.
2007-03-21 09:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by patbgone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the kids are there, I can understand. I am assuming you have full custody, and he gets visitation. Sounds like you are using that as an excuse to prevent him from moving on with his life.
2007-03-21 11:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he will have a lot of engagements in his future.....
2007-03-21 09:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋