We've been together 7 years and I carry the relationship. I do everything and I literally mean everything for him. Yesterday we ended it because he thinks that I don't love him the same way he loves me yet he didn't shed one tear didn't apologize never looked twice at me once I got home why??? He's acting as if nothing life changing is going on. He even said our relationship was a waste of time for him for us to just break up, that crushed my heart. I love this guy more than anything but he hurts my feelings so bad and just acts like he could care less about my feelings and what I'm going through. Should I try to hold on and work on it he is the father of my child and it has been 7 years or should I just forget about it and try to get on with my life??? Please help!!!
2007-03-21 02:20:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel your pain. Without knowing you and him, it's hard for anyone to size up what's happening. I would say there are two options: 1. He is either up to no good with someone else or 2. He has let things build and build until he is just numb to the entire relationship. I know it's hard but you must not react to his behavior or lack of sadness. And you cannot control what he wants to do. Let him go and try hard to move on. Get into therapy if you can afford it. Just try to focus on you and the child. He may come back and if he does, let it be a fresh start for both of you.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 02:27:33 · answer #1 · answered by donewiththismess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun sounds 2 me like for him, this has been a long time coming!!! NO ONE that loves another person would be able 2 just up and drop them on the spot and not bat an eye. . . UNLESS they had already been thinking very hard on it and prepared themselves for it and developed "numbness" toward the relationship!!!! I'm so sorry yoou had 2 experience that and by all means tey 2 work on it, just don't lose sight of what's best for you (or your child). Don't put in an EXTREME amount of extra effort when the other person is just kinda half-steppin it!!! Because there's always someone else more willin to do the job, and sometimes they do it better. . . .
2007-03-21 02:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by black_butterfly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you, it seems you put 7 years into something that was one sided. You have to move on and it will hurt. Only after you see how hurtful this will be will you realize how happy you can be. I am so thankful I walked away from a miserable for me relationship to find my soul mate and everything I have ever wanted in a person. She was so near me but never saw her. The same will happen to you if you let go and when you least expect it, mr right will be there.
2007-03-21 09:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by tman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are so hard. You seem to have a little co-dependency. Concentrate on having your own identity and remember that when one door closes another opens. It will get better i promise. Good luck.
2007-03-21 02:26:12 · answer #4 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on it all you want, but if he doesn't want to be with you, he doesn't want to be with you.
I suspect by the fact that he is unemotional, it's something that he has been thinking about for a while. he sounds like he just wants out.
I feel sorry for the kids. They are the innocent ones.
2007-03-21 02:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an arsehole! Move on, you can do better. You need a man in your life who will appreciate you and do things in return for you.
2007-03-21 02:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It soundslike he wasn't in it for you to start with. And just wanted out it's always easier to blame the othier person than yourself.
2007-03-21 02:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by charitydowling 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life.You two clearly were not meant to be together.You cannot force someone to have feeling's for you and he obviously has none anymore let him go and move on..
2007-03-21 02:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When one door closes another one opens
Its time to exit and move on to greener pastures.
2007-03-21 02:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋