finding it hard to cope, what is a good mum, how do I deal with the tough times ,question after question that I wish my mum was here to talk with me about. are you proud? I wish I had a mum.it makes me sad.My son is a (specail boy) her support would be great.
2007-03-21 01:51:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It must be really hard. I was never close to my mom and it can really leave you feeling alone. But, a really great girl friend can do wonders for the spirit. You should try and make new contact with someone like you, someone with whom you share interests.
My closests friends have always tended to be men. (wasn't real close to dad either!) I made a couple female friends this year and they are both just amazing! Men are wonderful and can be very supportive but, another girl just...they feel like you do. They get the horomones and mood swings first hand. They understand that sometimes the best solution to a problem is to just sit down and cry!...or eat a whole lot of chocolate! Reach out, it well help.
2007-03-21 02:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by sistermarybella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sad thing to know you lost your mom at such a young age but I am sure she is with you and looking over your shoulder. I would maybe ask those questions to a close friend or relative that knows what you are going through and you can feel that you are getting some support. There may be some hope in a support group or a counselor. I also don't think the pain of losing someone goes away it just becomes more manageable.
2007-03-21 02:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by April F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom was always very ill when i was a child.
so we never became close.
I made strong friendships with my peers, friends mother's and even call them MOM.
When my mom was on hospice and dying, and i was caring for her 5 yrs ago, it was not my friends i turned to...i went to visit their mothers. I needed that mother figure and I always had a way of getting my needs met.
Become friends with women who would be your mom's age.
It may sound silly, but their daughters may be far away, try doing a trial adoption of one another.
You will find these women in their 50's in art classes and senior exercise classes, sewing centers, the library.
they are everywhere.
Just open up your heart and ask for a suragate mum to come into your life. the joy you will each bring one another will be worth it.
No one can ever replace your real mum, in anyway, shape or form. But wouldn't it be great to have 2-5 mum aged women to be your adoptive Mom's in training. There is so much love to go around.
Yes, your Mom is very, very proud of you.
And she says, there are days when you were little that she didn't know how she could get thru the day, but she always managed to, and waking up to your smile every am, made it worth while.
I would just invite 3-5 of my friends or coworkers MOM's over for tea, and ask them to tell you what it was like being a mom, and let them gab, and listen.
2 of these women will be your friends, and one will be the Mom type you are in need of.
just do a get together of the 55 Mom's of your friends, neighbor's and do it once a month an hour of tea and cookies. and story telling.
you will learn so much, and they will open up so much.
each month have a theme, first baby photo
First crisis???
first cold
first teething
First day at school.
take photos and make a memory album of your family of new mom's.
you have to think outside of the box, and really just go for it!
you are blessed!
2007-03-21 02:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been without my dad for the last 19 years as well and i was 20 when he passed , it is still hard for me too , he has missed out alot in my life my other 5 sisblings I take it a day at a time some days are better then others. but always know that your mum is still with you no matter what , I am sure she sees everything that has been going on in your life and is very proud of you and your kids , bless you and your family
think about what you have in your life not what you dont have :O}
2007-03-21 02:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is like the worst thing in the word to lose. just remember that she is in a better place and that she is looking down on you smiling. i have not lost my mom but i have lost someone i dearly loved and believe me you never really get over it. just know if she were here today that she would be proud of you and your beautiful babies. remember she would want you to stay strong and live a long happy life! and i am so sorry for the way you feel and i hope this helps some.
god bless you
2007-03-21 02:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there anyone that you can talk to that remembers your mom and can talk to you about her? Your father? Her sisters, her brothers, Etc?
Sometimes I find it best to write letters, write your mom a letter, put it in a bottle send it out to sea, or tie it on a balloon send it up in the sky. Just getting out some of your feelings may really do you good.
I whole heartedly believe in life after, so she is there watching you and your children and I am sure very proud of where you are today. Your mom is there alive in your heart, sometimes you just have to turn inward to find her.
"They whom we love and lose are no longer where they were before. They are now wherever we are."
2007-03-21 02:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by tropicalg77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good friend who's mother can be a listening ear or someone to give you advice? If not, try going to a counselor (female) for help. See if your children are willing to do family counseling together. It would open up communication between all of you. It may be scary at first, but through time, it will help tremendously. Just be open to it.
2007-03-21 02:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Charlie M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 06:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats sad. Im sure you will always miss her and that she will always have a special place in your heart! I havent gone through this, and Dont wish it on anyone. But I would just say to pray, ask God to give you guidence in your life about how to raise your children.
2007-03-21 01:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 41 and my mom passed away 5 years ago. It is the hardest thing i have ever experienced. Just remember that you need to accept that your going to be sad. Cry when you want, scream if you need to and always love her and yourself. OF COARSE SHE IS PROUD OF YOU your her daughter.
2007-03-21 02:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by milo2angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋