I really do love my husband and I don't want to do anything to make him feel like I don't love him. So I need an answer to my question.I don't know what else to do.
2007-03-21 01:45:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
give him a night to remember
2007-03-21 01:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi Need, The only thing i can tell you is tell him you love him very much and have a happy life with him,and think the world of him. If he doesn't trust you,you have nothing. My ex husband was like yours but he was also abuser and a cheater. I just got my final divorce papers in 2-8-07 and i could not be more happier. If your husband still has problems about you leaving him set up an appointment for him to have some kind of council-ling. If he doesn't get council-ling he will never believe you. Sweetie this is no way to live I NO.. A Friend.
Clowmy
2007-03-22 04:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unforutunately this is an issue he has to work through. Possibly going to marriage counseling will help the two of you sit down with a disinterested 3rd party and talk through his insecurities. I don't think there is anything you on your own can say or do to change his feelings. He needs to use his own reasoning skills and work it out himself. If nothing else maybe therapy for him alone might work. If money is a consideration, you should contact your local Mental Health Dept.
2007-03-21 10:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by curious74432 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a love letter. Guys love to hear what you love about them. Don't do it when you're fighting...do it just because. Be specific, and be personal about it.
Get him a nice card, maybe even a little gift, and write him a letter separate from the card so that he can save the letter apart from the card.
For example:
The things I love about you:
I love the way you cover me with a blanket when I'm sleeping.
I love it when you fix me a sandwich because you're fixing one for yourself.
I love the way you always give me the lifestyles section of the paper first, even though I know you want it.
I love it that you go to chick flicks with me once in awhile, even though I know you'd rather see a thriller.
I love it that you will get into bed with the kids and stay there until they are asleep after they've had a nightmare.
Good luck!
2007-03-21 08:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You must be sending off vibes or something in the past is causing him to believe you want someone esle. If your task is to make him believe you don't want anyone esle, you want be able to do it.
It's a man's job to make sure his woman does not want anyone else. If he is not doing his job, how can a woman reciprocate the feelings of want only him?
He might be just saying this because he is cheating and he is justyfing his behavior.
2007-03-21 09:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first: this is not a issue about what you have to tell him. This is a matter about what you have to do. Love is no a word, it is a action. Show the love that you have for him, show him that you care about what he like, what he want to reach, help him to fullfill his goals, support him.
The love that everybody has looking for is a inconditional love, this mean a love that love because who you are not for what you do or what you have.
If you really love somebody, you have to give yourself, this is the real love.
Love is Kind and patient
never jealous,boastful, proud or rude, love isn't selfish, love is always supportive, love never fails.....
2007-03-21 09:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Genesis2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do small things for him ........like meet him at the door when he comes home with a kiss, help him off his cufflinks or tie..................kiss him and let him feel that after a long long day of work you are there for him......also never fail to do something for him when he asks you no matter how small it is, hold him and surround him with affection.....................and finally,.......................seduce him every now and then and give him some crazy loving every so often - Give him yourself so much that he wont want to leave without getting your sexing and loving................and you will see he will be quite happy with you and he will work on reciprocating and loving you more.
2007-03-21 08:55:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try relationship counseling? If he's constantly accusing you of wanting another man, it's entirely possible that it's because he is cheating on you, and that he is trying to relieve some of his guilt by placing the blame on you and making you feel bad for something you're not even doing. Alas, I am not pysychic, and know little of your situation, so I stick with my original reccomendation... seek professional help!
2007-03-21 08:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by lipgloss_black85@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He soounds pretty insecure with you. Sometimes the little things make a big difference. Complements on his looks and praises for things he does around the house. Make time to be with HIM. If you must set him up to succeed with you sexually. This seems like a whole lotta catering for a man who should seek some therapy if he cant get past this.
2007-03-21 08:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe HE wants out........it makes sense that if someone cares about a person but is nolonger attracted to or inlove with them, and dosent want to hurt them, they would try to have the person they are comited to in another relationship before dumping them back into the pond.
if you really want him back comited to you, bring another woman into bed with the two of you, he may not be atracted to you alone, but once he sees you kissing another woman in the same bout of pashion that you preforme a sex act on him. the only way he would not have renued pashion and love for you is if he is descovering that he is gay.
2007-03-21 09:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds He is insecure! And if you are telling him everyday you love him, and showing him everyday that you love him, then he has the problem, Not you!
There is nothing else you can do but to do what you are doing now, but tell him that you really wish He would believe you!
2007-03-21 08:48:29 · answer #11 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋