Ok so i have two friends that both like the same guy the problem is K is engagded to Jon Doe and they have been together for 2 years, well Jon cheated on K with T and she is more of my friend than K, Jon is only staying wiht K " because it is the right thing to do" but really wants to be with T.
What should my fiance and I say due to Jon is my fiance cuz, and him and K live with us...and no one in the family likes K but everyone wants Jon to be with T...please any serious advice for my fiance and I...thanks
2007-03-21 01:44:39 · 12 answers · asked by Mamma in the making 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would say that Jon needs to seriously think about what he wants... Does he see himself with K or can he see himself with T and whoever he choses he needs to to sit down and have a talk with tha person w/o the other one there. Explain to them that this was unexpected and how they truly feel.... Don't go and marry someone that you know you are not appy with and you plan on cheating on....it is only going to prolong the inevitable. When you say it is the right thing to do to stay with K??? Is it really??? If Jon doesn't love her spare her the agony of it all so she can go find someone who is in love with her....As much as it might suck for awhile it is better to come out with the truth now than later!!!
2007-03-21 01:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by css22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually you have two cheaters. Your friend Jon and T. Can something positive come out of this? No. A fundamental truth has been destroyed, and it is called trust. K is the unknowing victim of this trust violation. Oh and it will come out, and it will not be pretty. In fact it will be quite a drama. I would encourage Jon to be honest with K before this gets way out of hand..although it has already happened. This cannot have a happy ending. And what happens if Jon vacillates back and forth between K and T? And also has it occurred to T that Jon may tire of her someday and do this with someone else? The basis of T's and Jon's relationship has started very poorly...it has started with a basic trust being violated.
2007-03-21 02:01:49 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Well this isn't very complicated. If Jon really wants to be with T, and nobody likes K, tell Jon to confront K about his feelings. It'll all work out.
2007-03-21 01:48:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Jon is unhappy with K, eventually they WILL split up...better to do it now, rather than after an expensive wedding. Being honest is the best think Jon can do for himself and for K.
2007-03-21 01:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by DANDREWS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jon should come clean with K and tell her he wants to be with T...no point in staying with someone because it's the "right" thing to do....cheating on her definately isn't.
2007-03-21 02:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell Jon's fiance that he cheated on her. She deserves to know, and you'll never forgive yourself if you let them get married. Jon may get mad, but it will be temporary. He will forgive you and your fiance eventually. And if he doesn't, he isn't a real friend anyway. It'd be horrible of you to let her commit her life to him without her knowing the whole picture. She deserves a chance to make that decision for herself.
2007-03-21 01:49:58 · answer #6 · answered by jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my serious advise it to let Jon find his own way. when others try to "help" in situations like this there are always bad feelings. and sometimes those bad feelings arent apparent right away, but later down the road jon may regret being w/ T and look at like its all your fault for pushing him toward her and away from K. I say step back and be impartial.
2007-03-21 01:48:50 · answer #7 · answered by just me #1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will continue to cheat or play around. I think you should tell him to break up with K its the best thing to do. K is only going to get more hurt the longer you wait. Sorry but its true they will break up eventually. Tell him to tell her now or else you're going to tell K what Jon did. Please follow this advice if she really is your friend
2007-03-21 01:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by Butter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being honest is not just a virtue--its the right thing to do. In the society where we are living today.everybody literally cheats... and with that kind of problem theres nothing you can do about it but to be honest to everybody around you--- to your fiances cousin and to whomever is or are involved...
2007-03-21 01:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Sheryl Reyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-27 19:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋