I'm curious- How many of you have had an abortion? What was it like-I mean emotionally? And how are you now? Do you think about it? Or does it ever come back up? Would you do it over again?
2007-03-21 01:28:33 · 9 answers · asked by LG 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm am not considering abortion- I have 2 beautiful girls. My first came at 17, and I was faced with the decision. I said no, my parents wanted me to have the abortion. I am just looking at the facts and the aftermath of it all. I'm so glad I did NOT. But it is a woman's decision , however we are all born with that motherly instinct i don't see how you can bear to have life sucked out of you. I had a miscarriage and had to have a D&C it it was the worst thing I've ever been through. I couldn't imagine wanting that on purpose! Shouldn't sex just be for marriage anyways since it ALWAYS results in catastrophes such as this? I want comments please!!!
2007-03-21 02:47:13 · update #1
I have never had an abortion. In fact, I am not even female. But I would like to give you some things to think about as you face this question and get responses from others.
Yes, you think about it, and yes, it does come back up. It becomes a part of your life. Is there anything significant in your life that you have completely forgotten about? NO! Because our brains log all this information away. Storing it for future use. It doesn't just go away. The more significant the event, the more prevalent it is in your thoughts.
What if you didn't have the choice to abort or not? I don't mean because of State Law or anything, I mean what if you were not alive to make the decision? What if YOU never existed? What if your mother decided that she didn't want to deal with you in any way and so had you killed before you had your first breath?
If you are contemplating abortion because you don't have the means or capacity to take care of a child, please don't abort it. Let the baby live. Give it up for adoption instead. There are organizations out there that can help in the process and insure that your child gets a home where it can be taken care of. Please don't be so selfish as to think you are the only party involved in the decision.
My younger sister has a friend from High School who is scared for life... from birth. Her mother attempted an abortion on her when in the third trimester but when the doctor brought her out of the womb with the hook he found her still breathing. Because she was still breathing once outside the womb the doctor had no choice but to try to keep her alive because of the law. And so she is alive today... with a large, ugly scar under her chin from cheekbone to cheekbone. And probably a worse scar in her heart. Her own mother attempted to taker her life! How would it be to live with that?
Please! Think about it VERY CAREFULLY! I wish you the best of luck, no matter which way you decide is best.
2007-03-21 01:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by dallinashby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there - done that and never ever had any regrets. I was 24 years old, my birth control had failed & the guy had already moved out of the province by the time I figured out I was pregnant. He was not supportive when I called him & told him.
I only think about it when the topic is being discussed and for some odd reason in February (which is when I would have given birth). However, February in Canada is a depressing month anyway so it just goes hand in hand I guess. Don't get me wrong - I don't think of it in a depressing way - it just comes to mind then.
I would do it again without a second thought & have told my son & daughter that should they find themselves in the same situation I would prefer they chose abortion & would support them 100%.
I do not believe in abortion as an alternative to birth control. In this day and age there shouldn't be any unwanted pregnancies period. The pill is readily available as is the morning after pill for times when condoms break or spontaniety comes before common sense. And, with STD's especially AIDS running rampant throughout the country - having unprotected sex is signing a death warrant. I realize "%&^" happens so am not judging anyone when it happens.
2007-03-21 08:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've actually had two abortions. Naturally, in the week or so after, I was emotionally distraught. My body was trying to adapt to this sudden change, and it caused my hormones to go crazy!! But it's been almost two years now and I'm fine with it. I don't think about it often, although it has come up in conversation, but emotionally it has absolutely no effect on me now. As for doing it over again, thats hard to say. Not only have I since been practicing safer sex, I have also matured quite a bit. I suppose I'd have to find myself in that situation in order to know for sure what decision I would make.
2007-03-21 08:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by lipgloss_black85@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had an abortion when i was 16. i've never regretted it. i would have ruined lots of lives if i'd had a baby then. i look at my beautiful son now, and am so happy i made the choice i made. it does come up occasionally, with the ex who wanted me to have it, and he thanks me for making the right choice. i would never suggest abortion as a form of birth control, but it is absolutely an option if all else fails, and i am terrified for other women if that right ever gets taken away.
2007-03-21 09:54:36 · answer #4 · answered by a girl like any other 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not personally.
My mother gave a baby up for adoption prior to meeting my father. She always treated me pretty crappy and it wasn't until I was much older that she told me about the adoption. She resented me and hated herself for what she did.
There are no easy answers when it comes to making a decision about an unwanted pregnancy. That is why it should remain the WOMAN's personal choice, as NO ONE else has to live with her decision, other than her.
2007-03-21 08:33:05 · answer #5 · answered by Gem 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i had one abortion and it has been haunting me for 14 years. i got my tubes tied 11 years ago and now want at least one more child. abortion is something we as women should seriously think about before we do it. i think about what that child would have been like had i given birth and how do i answer to that come judgement day.
2007-03-24 23:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very personal decision. I've never had one but have been prepared to do so all my life, if my b/c ever failed me. I'm glad it's an option we have and hope we are able to keep it.
2007-03-21 08:31:32 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
never would have an abortion cause it is murder would give it for adoption if I could not keep. the other thing keep it myself.
2007-03-21 10:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
never done it
never will
it's murder
2007-03-21 08:32:01 · answer #9 · answered by katiegrace 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋