my partners brother is 13 and very unhappy at home he wants to come and live with us in Scotland(he lives in England). He was here on holiday last fortnight and didn't want to go home. He is living with his mum just now in very crampped conditions there are 7 people in a 3 bedroom house. He shares a room with his MUM and his 10yr old brother both boys sleep on the floor with no matress. He is fed up with the way he is treated by his mother, 28yr old sister and the lodger. His mum hits him and shouts at him. He told us the other day that he asked if he could live with his dad and was told no coz I will lose all the money I get. His mum got child tax credits through the other day of £250(which she gets weekly) she bought no shopping and said that the money was for the bills. SHE GETS HER RENT AND COUNCIL TAX PAID. the last time the kids got new clothes was lastyear the clothes they do wear have holes in.
What can be done if anything spoke to social services they are not interested help!
2007-03-21 01:15:47 · 8 answers · asked by DEBORAH A 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
We don't care about the financial side we just want him to be happy we have spoken to his mother but she says we are interfiering and it is nothing to do with us then she started on my partners brother saying to the kid that he isn't coming back to see us and that he has no right to say what he wants and can't move out till he is 16 poor kid is terrified and so confused
2007-03-21 01:30:39 · update #1
If you & your partner are so concerned, as you should be, why not arrange for the boys to come & live with you? I understand his mum doesn't want to give up the easy money, but try contacting the child protection services again with this proposal. They should investigate & reach a favorable conclusion.
2007-03-21 01:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't quit, the family is legally overcrowded, its not legal for kids over a certain age to share a room with a member of the opposite sex. So the lad has a lever to start with, at his age he should have some rights about where he lives and how he's treated, but he's more likely to be listened to if he has some legal argument in hos favour.
Get some advice from the Citizens Advice Bureau or a solicitor that deals in family law in your country. I'm fairly certain that he can get legal aid and his own solicitor as well, he needs a specialist in family law though.
Good luck, and well done for looking out for this lad. Too many people don't want to get involved.
2007-03-21 02:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by sarah c 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
However his mother is raising him the boy needs parental figures around him to act as suitable role models. You say you want him to be happy but are you prepared to act as a surrogate mother to him? Young lads of his age really need a lot of guidance, reassurance, discipline and strong positive role models are you and your "partner" prepared to take on the task of mother and father to this kid? As others have said I think it would be best if you spoke to his legal guardian first, ie: his mother. If the boy is unhappy with his living conditions, can't blame him if he is sleeping on the floor, then why not speak to the local housing authority about getting the family moved to a larger property? You are not going to be getting the full story from the boy and it could be that he sees you and your fella as an easy ride. If you do take on the parenting responsibilities he may end up resenting you both for it!
2007-03-21 01:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Golf Alpha Nine-seven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wheres the father?
Clearly something has to be done for this poor boy. Money issues aside, hes not happy. Cant your partner apply for 'parental responsibility' of him or apply to the courts for custody. Then the authorities have to intervene and the boys welfare will be looked into.Obviously this could stressful for the boy, so try and come to some arrangement with the Mum first. If shes having none of it, then youre going to have to go through the proper channels for the sake of the boys emotional and financial needs, and your piece of mind.
2007-03-21 01:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by hollyb20 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What you haven't said is where the boy's father stands in this. Presumably he would be willing to take him on, or the boy wouldn't have suggested it, and he is in a much stronger position than you to take action. I think the ball is in his court and that he should be intervening. In what way he could intervene depends very much on what has taken place in the past. This is the very age when a lot of youngsters go off the rails when they are not receiving proper care and attention at home and something has to be done.
Perhaps this link could help. http://www.cafcass.gov.uk/English/Adults/Contact/adultsContactFAQs.htm#2
2007-03-21 02:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speak to his mother and ask if he can come and stay- explain what he told you - she will deny it and speak to the social security for financial help. But surely if things are as bad as he says you would take him without any finances.? Remember the laws here in Scotland is different from England.
2007-03-21 01:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jackie M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a family solicitor. You are entering a legal mine field and you need to be extremely careful or there will be the biggest family feud in history and more than likely a legal battle. Get good legal advice before you do anything.
2007-03-21 01:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Sarcasm 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO TO SCOTLAND!!!
2007-03-21 01:23:45 · answer #8 · answered by chef_hwll 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋