I was married for 18 yrs, I was total devoted and in love with my husband at the time, he loved me but was not in love with me he was not a good husband for atleast 14 of those yrs, and he was a cheat (cheating was not why I div. him) After I div. him and moved on with my life he changed and beged me to come back after a little over a year I moved back in to give him a chance. I love him but I am not in love with him, I am infactuated with my best (male) friend. Not sure if I should stay and give my ex another chance or move on?????I have been back 6 mo at first it was great now it is so so and I am afraid it will go back to how it was when we were married even tho he promise it will not.
2007-03-21 00:57:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have one teenager(i could not have more after him) he really dose not want us together....he dose not want mom with anyone. some days he wants us together but mostly not. He to sees his dad has changed but is worried that he will not stay changed, and loves his dad.
2007-03-22 17:44:55 · update #1
my son also thinks my best friend is a great guy.
2007-03-22 17:45:27 · update #2
I think you should move on because you said you love him but is not in love with him and he felt the same way. And he cheated and he will probably do it again. And you should take a chance with your best friend because he might just feel the same way about you. And if that doesn't work out there is still plenty of men out there for you to choose. Don't get stuck in that messed up relationship again.
2007-03-21 01:12:28 · answer #1 · answered by Takwan C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any children? If you do, you owe it to them to give your relationship with your husband one last go. Talk to him, tell him that it doesn't feel much different than before. Maybe you should go to counseling. If it all fails then at least you can leave it knowing that you gave all you could and gave it an honest shot.
If you don't have any children, I would see where it goes.
If you are just DONE and you want a chance to find all consuming love with someone else, then maybe it's best if you move on. I can tell by your post that you aren't very devoted to making this work. But don't start dating again with your best friend. You might ruin your friendship.
2007-03-21 01:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have kids your should give your ex a chance, but if you dont , u should stop giving him hope by moving in again then hating to be there. Choose no one can take everything, u loose something in order to get something.
2007-03-21 01:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! It will in time go back to the way it was. Been there
and done that. Good luck!
2007-03-21 01:01:59 · answer #4 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with both for now until your sure who has your best interest.
2007-03-21 01:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if u hv moved back to him and if u hv kids please devote ur time with ur family and ur hubby.
Dont waste time in finding love whole life
regards and love
manu
2007-03-21 01:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave, you only go this way one time, do what makes you happy not him
2007-03-21 01:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋