I'm a senior in high school, and my boyfriend is a junior. We both wanna go to a 4 year college. We know we wanna get married. But which is easier, getting married while still in college? or waiting until we are both done w/ college?
2007-03-21 00:55:01 · 10 answers · asked by four_eyed_bandgeek 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wait.
I know this might seem hard to understand today, but there is a tremendous difference between being 18 and being a 21 year old college graduate. And then being a 24 year old in the workplace. And a 28 year old....
I didn't believe it when I was 18 and a person told me, but the next ten years of your life will see you move through about 4 different stages of life, from high school student, to college student, to recent grad, to 'late 20s'. There is a tremendous difference between each of these stages, and quite frankly, in five-ten years you are going to look at the world much differently than you do today.
Being married in college is difficult. You won't have the same social circle as the majority of your classmates, you'll have additional financial burdens that wouldn't bother you as much if you were single, and you could very well have a child which would make things even more difficult.
If you are going to marry and spend the next 50 years together, being unmarried and together for the next 5 is not that big of a deal.
Wait.
2007-03-21 01:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by apleyden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting until after you are both outta college. You will not be the same person at age 17 or 18 that you will be at 23 or 24. You should wait until you've both had time to grow, get an education and do it right.
2007-03-21 01:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you'll be able to find the money for to visit both tuition you will have to cross to the only you wish to wait. I've recognise school youngsters to are living around the nation from every different for the duration of tuition and so they ended up fortunately married. A 3 hour force is not an excessive amount of for a man or woman who supposedly loves you. Maybe as soon as in a even as you'll be able to force or probably meet part approach in among. I undoubtedly do not realize why each units of mother and father however specially yours are speeding a wedding. There are youngsters who conclude tuition being married however it does upload an additional trouble to lifestyles. I do not like pronouncing this however it undoubtedly feels like you're surrounded through a institution of controlling humans and I cannot see it getting bigger if you happen to cave into their wants until you wish to. Only you'll be able to make a decision if you happen to wish to are living a lifestyles beneath the ones situations. Remember that marriage is feel to be for lifestyles and if there may also be no supply or take I cannot see it lasting.
2016-09-05 10:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will be the true test of your love not marraige so wait and when you are both finacially settled and have house and good jobs then get married and start a family. By all means get engaged now but be realistic about your ring!
2007-03-21 00:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by gingermano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting
2007-03-21 00:58:10 · answer #5 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait till ur done with college...you can be engaged in college but i wouldnt suggest getting married.....marriage requires money and stability of a job which most college students dont haev....it will be much easier if you guys wait.....try going to the same college though.
2007-03-21 00:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you are 106 to get married, you will both be much happier.
2007-03-21 01:08:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. better marry after ur college, it will be easy for u to start a new life.
2007-03-21 01:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Complete ur education first. Find a good Job & then think of marriage.
Marriage is a burden of responsibility. So first find the ways to tackle this burden.
2007-03-21 01:03:16 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting......
In college you will be exposed to different people. You or the b/f may find someone more to your liking.
2007-03-21 01:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋