my girlfriend is making me unsure if we will get along when we get married. We are planning to get married this summer but her attitude kinda makes me want to bac off. She expects me to say i'm sorry when i make her upset but she does not do the same thing to me. When we are in the house she does want to have conversation but we go out then she wants to be all over me. She will start a conversation with me and when i join she will be like i don't feel like talking, only wants to have conversation when she wants to but not when i have something to say to her. i come home from work and she will already be sleeping by 10:00pm and the only word she will say is how was work and that is it till she wakes me up in the morning to say bye i'm off to school or work. i told her several times that and pointed it out to her and she still not changing. i do not have friends who are females and all i wanted is to make her my best friend. What should i do?. i love her so much and is killing me.
2007-03-21 00:52:28 · 9 answers · asked by killuminati 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have any doubts now, postpone the wedding. Better now than later. Maybe you could get her to go to couples counseling now. Through couples counseling you may be able to find a better, more effective way to communicate. Or you may find out that the two of you don't really want the same things after all. It would be better to go through the counseling now, than when you are trying not to get divorced.
2007-03-21 01:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How scary! It sounds like she is very one sided. I would totally call off the wedding, at least until you can trust that your needs are equally valued. Maybe just change the wedding date,you know just postpone it for a while. Think about the meaning of what marriage vows include. After giving careful thought into what they are, and what they mean to you. Ask yourself if on your day of Holy matrimony those vows"Are" then, and "Will" later be true. Because if you doubt it now what do you think will be different after your married.If she is your best friend keep it that way a little longer.You may learn important things about each other that bring you closer and may make marriage all the more complete. Anyways, Whats the hurry. Good Luck.
2007-03-21 01:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you have said I suggest that you put the wedding off for awhile.It clearly does not sound like she respects you at all and you do not want to go into a marriage that way.You have a lot of issues that need to be resolved with her before you enter into something as serious as marriage.If she truely loves you then she will understand why you need to wait if she does not understand then the two of you clearly are not meant to be together.Marriage is all about trust & respect without both you have nothing.Good Luck & Best Wishes..
2007-03-21 01:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in doubt put it off for a while and work on the problems now before you get married and all the new problems arise plus the ones you already have. If you truly love each other and you are already living together you will still have time to do it in the future.
2007-03-21 00:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage needs to wait. Continue to try working the problems you mentioned out, if it's not meant to be, then move on. Easier said than done, but will save you the heartache of divorce.
2007-03-21 01:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by rwhz199 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to step back from the relationship. If you are having ANY doubts before the marriage, SLOW DOWN now. Once you are married, you are together for better or worse!
2007-03-21 00:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HI, WHAT I THINK YOU NEED TO DO IS SET DOWN WITH HER AND TELL HER THAT YOU REALLY NEED TO TALK TO HER ABOUT SOME THING. IF SHE CAN NOT DO THAT FOR FOR YOU THAT YOU ARE GOING TO PUT THE WEDDING ON HOLD FOR A WHILE. TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL AND TELL HER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER. BUT IF SHE DO NOT CHANGE THAT THE WEDDING IS OFF. TELL HER YOU CAN NOT GO INTO A MARRIAGE LIKE THIS. YOU NEED TO DO ALOT OF TALKING.
2007-03-21 01:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a real nice guy, i personally think that you are not appreciated! you need to put your foot down & talk to her ( like put her to sit & be stirn with her) that you need some more communication here!!! or probably she's not consious of it.
she's should count herself lucky to actually have a man who wants his girl to be his best friend!
2007-03-21 02:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Yasmine_flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not happy, or have a question about it then stop things right now before its to late
dont do it i say
2007-03-21 00:56:01 · answer #9 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋