Iam a very family orientated guy love my wife dearly and my children.
3 years ago I met another women and fell in love with her she suggested we get married.
Oh yes she is aware that I am a happily married man with children.
However my wife has no knowledge of our relationship. sould I do it secretly.
Iam afraid that she would not approve and will ask for divorce and I will loose all my chldren.
What your opinion be honest and straight forward its crucial !!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-21 00:45:27 · 17 answers · asked by Iggy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1. i think u r on the road to lose ur happines
2007-03-21 01:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by prabhakar_ace 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The last time I checked, polygamy was illegal. So. You're basically asking if it's ok to break the law.
Legal issues aside... You're asking if you should get married with this women secretly, BUT you've already been seeing her for 3 years, right? Which suggests that you've been cheating on your wife for the past 3 years... How is this "happily married"?
I think that you need to get your priorities straight and decide which woman you really want to spend your life with. On one side, you've got your life, wife, and kids. On the other, a soul mate? (I can't think that you would even *consider* leaving your family for anything less) Though I don't think too much of the other woman for suggesting you also marry her when she already knows you have a family, if you don't make a decision, you're ruining her life by keeping her tethered to a man who can't return her affections fully. So keep that in mind too.
2007-03-21 00:56:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is wrong. Your wife should leave you and you should loose all your children. How stupid and selfish can you get?..and what kind of a bimbo is that other woman to want to get married to already married man with 3 kids?...she sure doesnt seem to be having any brains!...And what do you mean your wife ' would not approve'?..what kind of a wife would approve of what you are doing..you seem very immature to me..GROW UP...how a man like you can keep a wife long enough to have children amazes me...seriously.
2007-03-21 00:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by sapphire_wisdom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were a happily married man you wouldnt even be thinking about dating this other women, apparently something is wrong in your marriage and cheating is not the answer cause if you wife does find out you could still lose your children, plus isn't it illegal to marry two women at the same time?
2007-03-21 00:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first off, you've been cheating on your wife for 3 years- how in love with her could you possibly be? And yes,you are cheating even if you haven't had sex with this other woman. Second, where do you live that it's legal to have 2 wives?!
No, you should not marry both women. Figure out what you want & what's right for you & your family.
2007-03-21 00:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mel Random 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cannot approve you not telling your wife about your second relationship. However, I will try not to you advise but let you know about my experiences in similar situations:
Once a man was in a relationship with another woman while we were a couple. When I found out after we had split up I was inconsolably hurt and disappointed.
However, I have just started a relationship with a man who I know has another girlfriend. But this time the "V-relationship" it is based on consensus, equal rights and openness - in one word "polyamorous". That is fine with me.
2007-03-21 01:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Bisch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest? Huh.......... You need to be honest with your self and realize what you have. You need to exam your relationship with your wife and ask your self why I sought out another relationship or am I in it for the children. You say its a secret relationship but I am sure your wife suspects something. She will some how find out. Divorce is a hard subject for children to understand. Are you ready for limited visitation with your children and child support payments? Step back and be honest with yourself as to why your in this current situation. You said you are in a happy marriage but are you?
2007-03-21 02:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had three girlfriends at one time and juggling them was way to much to handle. Are you really in love or is it lust that's what you have to ask. If your mistress knows your married and still wants to marry you she has some serious issues to be resolved, unless she is a Mormon then it's understandable. If you do go for it ask yourself if you can really afford to care for two families, cuz your mistress's next move is to have a baby and then yourF@#$%^ for the next 18yrs.or so. She setting u up. ask your self what it is that she really is after. I hope it works out.
2007-03-21 01:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by ski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well mate if you did, you would be commiting bigamy, that might see you a stretch behind bars.
Plus the cost of Divorce, Child Support, who lives where.
Unless your Richard Branson, it will cost you an arm and a leg buddy.
Stick with the lady you are married to.
2007-03-21 00:55:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mouseman1962 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heh? I had an affair not long ago, and end it when she asked me to marry her!
Get real! If you are happily married and love your children, let her go and get back to the family! They are number one and NO WAY that you should be divorced just because of an affair!
2007-03-21 00:55:23 · answer #10 · answered by Goombul! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding yourself. How could you say that you are happily married if you are fooling around with other women? Your wife should leave you because she deserves better. You are an unfit parent.
Get a life !!
2007-03-21 20:09:16 · answer #11 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋