2007-03-21 00:40:45 · 17 answers · asked by May 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does your husband want to do? This decision involves him too.
So what I'm asking you is to not make another wrong choice by having an affair or engaging in some other selfish, unilateral decision.
Sit down with your husband and tell him you feel this way. Share what you expected marriage to be, what you wanted from him, ask him to listen and say nothing at this point.
Then, give him the floor. Ask him to share his perspective on what HE expected. There is a good chance that he too is discouraged, believes he chose poorly, etc.
Then the question is, what do the two of you want to do? Do you want to work on your behaviors that fail to meet your spouse's expectations, or do you want to just end it all.
Frankly, I believe that doing the work to try to solve the marriage issues in most cases, makes both people better and stronger people, and divorce and/or affairs just makes quitters out of both.
However, I understand that if there is a wide gap in values that it may truly have been a poor, unworkable choice.
Whatever you do, please do it with the full agreement of your husband. It's really not fair to make this sort of decision alone. It impacts him as well.
2007-03-21 00:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way after three years of marriage. But then one day I just thought about everything positive about my mate and how much I appreciate the positive aspects and it out weigh the negative ones. It was like we just met all over again except with children this time. Our relationship actually changed into an even better one after I started seening it in a whole new light. Or this could all last for a week or so I am not sure but I hope it lasts forever.
2007-03-24 20:18:07 · answer #2 · answered by QTforlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it wrong choice? It would help if you gave more details.
There must be some reason why you chose to marry this man and marriage is such an sacred thing. Cherish it unless the guy turns out to be a monster after marriage, cheating on you and turning violent.
2007-03-21 00:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by Grace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without more details, ie: Why he is the wrong man etc.
Try to find strength and do what you need to in order to be happy, if he is the wrong choice you only have one life, suck it up and do what you need to.
If there are children involved you have to take extra responsibility for your decision to marry and breed with this man, after all, he'll always be in your life if that be the case.
Good luck.
2007-03-21 00:56:40 · answer #4 · answered by caseytopia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to do what is best for you because you don't need to spend the rest of your life being unhappy. Nobody can look after #1 like #1.
2007-03-21 01:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by dirkthesmirk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Dear this very common with all of us. But sometime u have to stay put coz u never know what to choose the devil or the deep sea. Anyways known ghosts r better than unknown ghosts
2007-03-21 00:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Ginns 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-02 08:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by gureczny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oops! u r wrong dear! we dont choose our destiny plays d game.Divorce is easy but try ur best to adjust and make things all right,compromise if u have to do it sometimes .We girls have lots of dreams about our dream man and when we get married it breaks one after another. always remember.........Like what u get or u will b forced to like what u get. B happy 4 wat u got. Or if it is really so bad then decisions r ur at the end.
2007-03-21 00:56:37 · answer #8 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should of should of they be for you got marry so just stay with your man that the right think to do
2007-03-21 00:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by EVA J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try marriage counseling if that don't work get a divorce.
2007-03-21 00:45:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋