I know I have to choose my child over my partner but by doing that I will be hurting my other daughter from our relationship. How do I decide which child to hurt???!!!
2007-03-20 23:26:42 · 9 answers · asked by tingel6226 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
There should be no reason to choose. You are family and the bast thing to do is try to resolve the situation... How longa have you been with you partner, you mention that he raised her... Iam wondering what there relationship was like before...
My guess is that adolesnce is kicking her but... She is plagued by horomones and changes galore... Teens usually get ornary and tempermental and have a hard time getting along with parents... Sometimes one or both... Sit down and talk to her find out what is going, and why she is struggling with your partner..
You might be able to work things out as a family...
2007-03-21 07:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by luv2syd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. They need counseling. and guidelines. You say 'partner' are you married? Is the other child his? You should be married. Adolescence is a hard time for kids. So many changes in their bodies and minds, but giving up on the relationship is not the answer. Yes, you ,or they, have a lot of hard work ahead, but letting it divide a family is not the answer. Check into the parenting course > Parenting With Love and Logic. It set guide lines, removes the anger and power struggles. Set rules and consequences. You teach and guide not punish. The authors name is Fey, I believe. The course is on VCR tapes, audio tapes and books, at the local library. Some towns even have 7 week classes for parents through the continuing education programs offered by the school system. Look into it, you wont be sorry.
2007-03-21 06:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by territizzyb 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the above answer of not choosing you 'partner'. ALWAYS choose your own flesh and blood. What if your relationship with this guy doesn't work? Then you ahve and angry daughter to deal with, and chances are she won't be very forgiving. Good luck.
2007-03-21 08:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by NamNam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling with them don't choose between daughters that isn't right you guys have to work this out even if it doesn't work out with your partner.
2007-03-21 13:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some what of the same problem .My husband and my 12 year old son can not get along no matter how i try to get them to see eye to eye they just will not .He is my sons stepfather i should add .It is a constant battle at our house ! good luck and my prayers are with you !
2007-03-21 10:32:13 · answer #5 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEver EVER choose your partner over you children. My mothers husband beat the hell out of me and my mom kicked my sister out (for good) because he went to jail. I will NEVER forgive her for this. I looked at her that night and asked. "So you're choosing him over us" And she smiled at me and blankly said, "Yes". It's AWFUL it took me 4 years before I could ever speak to her again. Don't do this to your daughter, please!
2007-03-21 06:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by r_e_bronson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't choose anyone, go to family conseling. teenagers are hard to deal with. its like they are back to throwing temper tantrums. instead of choosing sides, try to figure out the root of the problem and than go from there.
2007-03-21 06:32:56 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go to concelling because you should never be able to pick over a child.
2007-03-21 08:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL HAD SAME PROBLEM WITH MY DAUGHTER. YOU DONT NEED TO CHOOSE SHE IS REBELLING GOOD LUCK
2007-03-21 08:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋