how long must a man perform for a woman to attain orgasm or satisfaction?

Question

I will be marrying soon and i have heard that women nowadays
stray away if they do not get satisfaction in sex, I understand 70% of men are unable to control their ejacgulation and ejactuate fast. Any advise please.

Answer 1

Learn how to use the tongue. With that being said, it varies from woman to woman. A good indicator that she was satisfied is if she urinates afterwards. The contractions that happen during an orgasm put pressure on her bladder and make her have to go.

Answer 2

I think you need to buy a book at Borders on How to Give Sexual Pleasure to Your Partner. If you feel that you want to give your wife the satisfaction she deserves then you must do some reading. Also, you should make sure you do foreplay before actual penetration and foreplay will actually control your ejaculation. Foreplay is so important for a woman because that is what really excites her and then she is ready for the final act and then she will orgasm. There is also a G Spot that will make a woman orgasm, but you must read about this as it is hard to explain to you. All the terms I have used will be explained in the book you purchase. So, that is what I would do. Don't worry, but be prepared. You will learn together. Good Luck

Answer 3

If all you do is stick it in her and go, she probably won't orgasm, unless she is one of the lucky 10% or so who have easy orgasms.

You're gonna have to learn other tricks. More than likely, although you will probably have trouble getting her to admit it, she has made herself orgasm before, so she already knows how. Teaching YOU how is another matter.

I am guessing you come from a very conservative culture where people don't talk about these kinds of things. If you don't want to talk to anyone else, that's fine, but one of the most important things that makes a marriage work is that you talk to each other openly. She can't be scared to tell you things, and you can't go nuts when she does. She is probably terrified to admit to you that she has ever played with herself for fear you will think she is dirty or evil or twisted. Don't argue with her when she denies that she ever has. You have to earn her trust. It will not come easy.

As for your wedding night, if you are both losing your virginity, I would try to just simply make her enjoy it as much as possible. If you only try to make her orgasm when you are both so nervous, it's probably not going to work. I suggest you just have fun as much as you can and work up to trusting each other and learning each other's bodies. Communicating what feels good to each other is #1. She has to be able to tell you what she likes and what she doesn't. And you have to listen. It's a topographic nightmare down there, buddy - you can get lost without a good map.

By the way, this is not the most common reason women stray away. But there are lots of men who just don't care if their wife is satisfied during sex. Don't be one of them, but it's going to take time.

Answer 4

Some men start and finish to quick so start with lots of foreplay, but over time you learn how to control ejaculation. Also some men can have a orgasm and stay hard. Then there are some men there partner makes them come fast so the next time last a long time. Just find out what works for the 2 of you

Answer 5

Try oral on her first as this works the best on me to get me going lol... My husband always does this first now that way i am satisfied and then if he cannot hold as long and ejaculates kinda fast it is ok with the both of us:) Men can learn to control it some though if they know how to stop just before they finish. Buy a sex book and it can teach you how to do this. Yes alot of times i have to go pee afterwards lol and i wait until he is finished before having to use the bathroom though. I like to make sure he is satisfied after he has worked so hard to satisfy me.

Answer 6

While duration is often pleasurable it isn't a matter of how long b4 u are satisfied but of what techniques your mate is using. Men have the ability to "spill" more than once. The first is usually the quickest but he can be aroused to continue on. There are alot of "help sites" or books in this regard. Some people choose to watch porn.

Answer 7

you know no one can tell you that ,its the formula do that and your wife will be satisfied. psychologists suggest that you have to ask your partner what kind of sex would make her satisfy. ask her to be honest, she must not feel shy. an other thing is there is kind of spry that will effect on your ejaculation, and you will ejactuate later than before. An other thing is you can play with our partner and use your hand , tongue. women enjoy when you licking their vagina, you can do this thing and finally do the main job :D as i told you different woman have different needs, best idea is ask your wife how you can make her satisfy

Answer 8

Its foreplay, not intercourse that brings most women to their peak. Please read any of the dozens of legitimate non-pornographic books that deal with marital sex.
The discovery of what each of you can do for and with each other to reach maximum happiness is one of the best things about marriage, enjoy your time together and talk about what you each enjoy.
It may take some time in a marriage for a woman to climax, its not a question of how many minutes, but rather how long till she can relax and trust and that might take days or months.

Answer 9

Boy you are in for a rude awaking. They stray away from sex as soon a you get married. It has nothing to satisfaction. It has to do with them getting lazy.(or their excuses, I worked, I have the kids, I have to cook etc) Once you put that ring on their finger, all that kinky stuff they did while you were dating goes out the window. Don't do it.

Answer 10

every woman is different, but if you aren't the kind of guy who can do it all day long, then you will not stay happy with the hot ones, there are cooler (sexually) girls out there. i know we are all attracted to the hot ones, but it's true if you can't keep that kind happy they might stray, you want one who will stay.
you have to play in your league, there is someone for you. if a friendship seems to be getting close to marriage, talk it over with her. if she's too shy to talk about sex, maybe she's the cool type, but i think talk it a good idea.