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Ok, here's the dilemma:

I have an important 2,000 word essay to hand in on Friday for the final year of my degree. I haven't started it yet. I really want to stay in and do it..... *but* it's my friend's party tonight and I promised I'd go; plus my best friend keeps nagging me about coming out...

I'm currently at home, 4 hours away from Uni, so if I do travel back to uni today for this party I won't have any time to do my work. I can't leave the party early either as it doesn't start until 10pm, so it would be a late one!

So do I:
1. Stay at home, do my work, but let my friends down and possibly annoy my best friend who really wants me to come out
or
2. Go back to Uni, please my friends, but not get any work done and have to try to get it all done on Thursday.
or
3. Some kind of compromise!

I personally don't want to go, but don't want to let my friends down :-(

You decide please!!
Thanks!!
:-) xx Em

2007-03-20 22:07:11 · 14 answers · asked by Sparklepop 6 in Family & Relationships Friends

Also.... there is a night out on Friday for the end of term... I could go to that one and not have to worry about my work!

2007-03-20 22:16:26 · update #1

14 answers

Hi, if you don't want to go to the party then don't go. Your essay is very important for your future and needs time. If you rush it on Thursday it might not be your best work. Friends have to come second sometimes and this is one of them. Had you said you were really looking forward to going to the party then I would have said go because you still have all day thursday. Let your friend be annoyed she will get over it!

2007-03-21 02:52:02 · answer #1 · answered by Pete R 1 · 0 0

If I were you I'd stay at home and get the essay done and handed in on time - you said yourself you wasn't bothered about the party - your essay is far more important.

Explain to your friend that you need to get this done so your really sorry that you won't be able to go to the party tonight but you will be going to the end of term party for definate as you will have all your work finished.

A true friend will understand the importance of getting the essay done.

2007-03-21 05:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0 0

Look at it another way. Your essay is quite important to your grade, and hence final outcome of your degree. Party well kind of isnt that important. You say you dont want to go, but dont want to upset your freind. Your freind may have a little moan about you missing party, but she will get over it and you can undo any damage done, quite easily, however by rushing your essay, you risk underachiving and a lower grade etc.... note so easy to undo? Why not work on the essay now, see how much you get done, then if you feel like it and have time, got to the party, however if you dont, then simple dont go!

2007-03-21 05:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by djp6314 4 · 1 0

Ok, well, what you could do is -

1) go to party for just a little while and come home tonight (boring - but you could start essay earlier tomorrow)
2) do essay and promise to go to the party on Friday night and not go tonight.

I think you know what the right thing to do is though! Your friends should not be wanting you to miss course work deadlines though?

2007-03-21 05:28:05 · answer #4 · answered by rainbowarrior73 4 · 1 0

You have answered the your own question, you do not want to go to the party, so do not go explain to your friends that there will be many more parties but you only get one crack at passing university.

I have seen nearly all my friends fail university because they enjoyed the party scene to much and they all regret it now in the wisdom of age.

You should make time for a social life around your university course not the other way this will also help with your working life when you finish university and have to get a job in the big bad world.

Good luck in what ever you decide!

2007-03-21 05:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Loader2000 4 · 1 0

Head out for a little while sure and see how you feel. If you want to go home then you can and you might still get a bit of work done plus you won't be upsetting anyone.

2007-03-21 05:10:44 · answer #6 · answered by kit 5 · 0 0

you have to do your work! is it worth stuffing up your degree, if they are true friends they will understand and you can celebrate on the friday, maybe get a special present to give on the friday night, you really should get organised though, try and do your work earlier in future this will help you throughout your life with good organisational skills paramount in employment these days, good luck with your essay your friends will be fine

2007-03-21 07:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Get your essay completed.....there are lots of other nights you can go out.....if she is a good friend she will understand how important it is for you to do the essay.....hope this helps

2007-03-21 05:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

The work seems important, more important than a night out, if they are truely friends then they will understand you have work that needs doing, you can go out anytime!

2007-03-21 05:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by Ni 4 · 2 0

Try and do as much today/tonight then go party, and finish off tomorrow.

2007-03-21 08:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Kel 3 · 0 0

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