combatting lonliness?

Question

I sometimes feel so lonely. i'm not interested in being with a boy for the sake of combating lonliness. i have family and friends but they live within an hr away so hard to travel around work. i've began to come home and feel sad and lonely for coming home to a quiet place. i am happy and love my job etc but of an evening its too quiet. i don't wish to go out partying etc but what else can i do to combat lonliness other than sit online talking to strangers or moping around by myself

P.S I've been single before and it doesnt bother me so its not about having a partner as i am an independent person and like my own company in a sense but i also feel lonely by myself (doesnt make sense i know!) i also study by distance so i'm supposed to be doing that around work but find it hard to study and study better with more noise or companionship ive found.

Answer 1

wELL-THERES MANY WAYS -IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHICH WAYS PLEASES YOU-
mY SELF- i KEEP BUSY-
i always watch too much t.v.- so strange enough, when I do not watch t.v. I have the soup to get up and go out side and enjoy freedom, which no one knowns how long that will be, or I got a dog and a cat,
I injoy music, and try to remember the words to songs, when I can not sing. but it passes the time by just fine,
I always feel lonely as my family grown and gone and only a girl and her son at home, thats never here.
but at least I say to my self . thank God we have a home and our freedom, as igf we did not have that, then we be on the streets, and have no time to feel lonely as we alwasy be sleeping with one eye open
what i am saying basily; is try hard to to think how lonly you are- that can work on your mind and become dangerously a problem to you, and things for you will be come harder to deal with.
you speak of work, i see the working class walks around the block or els where,
if theses do not help; then move closer to your family and friends and enjoy them for as long as you can -because once there gone they are gone:
I hope you known that eating different foods,can make you lonily as well: usually ones with high sugar in them'
good luck;

Answer 2

Unfortunately, you have to take chances in life even though, at times, you will be hurt one time or another. That's a part of experiencing things that makes us grow as adults. Don't isolate yourself from a social life because being alone is one of the worst feelings anyone can go through. Everyone is going to experience the pain of rejection or from a spat, but there are so many others who may share the same values as you do and would love to meet someone like you. Don't give up on the best times of your life. The only way to fight being lonely is by NOT being alone. Give it a shot.

Answer 3

How about starting a new hobby and taking a night class to learn it? Or joining a book review group, or whatever it is that you like to do, or would like to do.

Loneliness can be a real problem for single people, and it's very normal. Volunteering for a favorite charity can also be a possibility.

In short, find something to do a few nights a week that involves you with people in a constructive way.

Answer 4

I undergo in concepts this song... it became in woman, Interrputed... i became watching that action picture the different day, and reread the memoir too. yet um... how do I combat the loneliness? nicely, the procedures i've got tried so some distance have been futile. possibly messiahsking is onto some thing: possibly I do prefer God. or perchance I only prefer a marvelous make out consultation with a random lovable guy and a few photos of vodka... i will choose for the latter...

Answer 5

Find a hobby, see a good movie, read a good book, learn to do a craft, join a club, do something good for someone who is less fortunate than you.

Coffee shops are a great place to read a book, go on line, , etc... Some of them even have games such as backgammon that you can join in..

Answer 6

all great suggestions, getting a pet helps both you and the animal have someone to love. Getting hobbies and going out to do things socially (even if you'd prefer to avoid the bar/club scene) is also great. However, do not underestimate the internet either. I would not recommend devoting your life to it, but you can meet some wonderful people amid all the rabble and random nutcases. I met my bf and my roomate online. She also met her husband there and they are happily married. THe net is a great place for shy people to interact. As long as you do not neglect the outside world for it you should balance things out quite well.

Answer 7

well if u love ur job then im sure ur enjoying the company of the people u work with right? invite some people over for pot luck or for a movie or just for coffee and what not...being lonely for too long has its effects and its not good. Try it im sure u'll feel much better.

Answer 8

Try getting yourself a pet, they are always so glad when you come home. You should try going out more to barnes and nobles, the mall, just any social place where you can entertain yourself. Work is normally a good place to make and meet friends.

Answer 9

do what i do and learn to play instruments (the piano), and read good stories. it's important to always have something to look forward to so always have something planned with someone whether it's for tomorrow, next week, or next month. just avoid always having an open schedule with nothing to look forward to in the future. it gives feelings or worthlessness and hopelessness. if you believe in God, join a good church group to meet other people and talk with them. Get to know people from these groups and join other affiliations with people that have common interests and invite them to your home to watch a movie or to learn how to play instruments with you. Hope this helps a bit. i know how hard it can be.

ps.. it's always nice to have music playing in the house. it gives a sullen atmosphere some fill in and it's almost like there are others in the house with you as crazy as it may seem!

Answer 10

Make new friends closer to home or move back closer to the ones you have. Don't wait any longer, make a choice and do one or the other now.