I really hate going in public because I am so shy that I constantly blush and get so nervous that I feel like I'm gonna faint.even at work when we have meetings I feel like the whole room is staring straight at me and it nearly brings on panic attacks.
2007-03-20 20:54:32 · 6 answers · asked by sandyandrooz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Build your self confidence. Often, being shy is a result of feeling inferior to or otherwise "less than" other people. A positive self-image is the key to overcoming shyness.
Set goals for yourself. Focus on small, daily goals, and gradually become more daring.
Make new friends. Introduce yourself to new people each day. Talk to someone you normally wouldn't. Try to find people with your own interest and find excuses to talk to them. Start a conversation with something like a simple compliment such as ,"Hey! I love that shirt!" or "Cool shoes." Most people are nice and will be welcoming to your advances. It is also great practice for more daring behavior, such as talking to popular, charismatic people.
Hold close bonds with your friends, as they can be there for you when you crack out of the shell! They'll be glad to help.
Try doing stuff you never dreamed you would.
Laugh often, at your own jokes and those of others. It will help ease any tension you may be feeling.
Make a list of things that make you feel shy that you want to try and work on. Order them so that those things that cause you the least anxiety are first and those that cause you the most anxiety are last. Once you have a list of 10-15 stressful situations, start working through them, one-by-one. The first few "easier" situations will help build your confidence so that you can continue moving to more difficult situations on your list. Don't worry if you have to go backwards on the list sometimes -- take it at your own pace but make an effort to push yourself.
Lie on your bed and take 3 deep breaths. Then visualize a situation where you might be shy. Now in that situation make yourself confident. Do this for as many situations as you can think of. Do this daily, especially in the morning.
Repeat positive affirmations using I statements. "I am a wonderful person." "I am a good looking person." Do it even if you don't believe it. Do it daily.
Tips
There's nothing wrong with being shy, but there's nothing wrong with being outgoing either!
Shyness is sometimes seen as classy.
Don't be afraid to seek professional help -- group counseling, individual counseling, and therapy can help you along the way.
Warnings
If you were known for being shy amongst family members and friends, watch out for the harmless teasing. Some may be uncomfortable with you existing outside the category they've put you in, in their own minds. Ignore them. They mean well. But don't let them scare you back into your shell!
2007-03-20 21:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ace_Spade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-09-25 17:18:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have and had had the same problem. I find it easier if I try to think positive. I repeat to myself I am confident, articulate and calm. I visualise myself doing well and relaxing. I think everybody is on the same side as me, this makes it easier. I think people want to support me and make me feel welcome.
Just persevere. I also pray for myself and others, constantly. This helps. Anxiety is a form of misplaced anger. Learn to control it and make it work for you. Practise is perfect. It can work for you and make you more excited and passionate. Find something you are passionate about and fight for it. This uses up anxiety. May God bless you.
2007-03-20 21:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kaitlyn S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have panic attack..i afraid to go to public n like u too i will feel like wan to faint. Well try bring some1 wen u goin out..u just have to get use to it. N during meeting bring a stress ball..i did that,it helps :)
2007-03-20 21:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the more you participate the easier it gets. volunteer some of your time to young students...reading to them and really getting into the charactors of the story. it helps to believe in yourself and to know that many many others feel the same as you do...when it's their turn to stand up and be looked at!
take a few deep slow breaths before you have to speak in front of your coworkers and dont make eye contact...look at someone/s shoulder, top of their head. you'll be fine. peace
2007-03-20 21:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DIE!
2007-03-20 20:59:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋