Every1 always says to be yourself?

Question

But wat if u r a shy person who is not very out going and doesnt have the confidence to approach someone and make friends???

Answer 1

Well, people like you better when you're yourself. They know they know the real you, and that you're not lying to make them like you. True friendship means more than a pretend friend.

Answer 2

The trick to this shy thing is to express out loud what goes on in your head. That is what is meant by being yourself. Being shy means you are repressing the real you. The voice in the head. Next time you overhear a conversation, try saying what you think about the conversation and try to be part of it. Example-> Two people talking about a movie. You might have seen the movie, so why not give your opinion of it. Then build a friendship from there.

Answer 3

I am normally a very shy person but I try to imagine myself being more outgoing, kind of like fake it 'till you make it. I still try to be myself but just a little more outgoing. Just try to put a big smile on and be confident, or try to be. Mingle a little and find someone you are comfortable speaking with. You can also just try making a comment to someone you are next to and maybe it will turn into a conversation and maybe not- no pressure. Eventually you will find out what works for you.

Answer 4

I'm one of these people but I would say I was out going when I have broken the barrier, I'm very shy and I can't just walk up to people and make friends. But when I'm with friends and there is people in the group that I don't know, if I'm comfortable enough I am able to talk to them. I usually ask questions about them. I find that is easier.

Answer 5

yes, that statement of " be yourself" holds true for everyone. in fact, it seems to me a hackneyed expression. but it admits of qualifications. when confronted by such an idea of being yourself, you have to search yourself first who you really are. you cannot just say to yourself "i cannot be expressive because i'm a shy person. i'm just being what i am". for me, that is unacceptable. so many prominent figures in history had "handicaps", be it in speech or otherwise. shyness is a handicap but, the good news is, there is something that can be done. first, know your strengths. build up on it gradually. start in your home. i believe shyness has something to do with your environment. hence, do things where you know you are best at. people will notice that. in fact, they'll be the one to open up and make friends. eventually you will also be able to open up and express yourself more. if you have done that you'll be surprised to have scores of friends and be able to accept the statement that you are just being yourself--a genius getting out of your shell

Answer 6

The best thing is to be true to yourself and not be what others want you to be. So you're not popular because people don't want to take the time to get to know you . Do you really want to be friends w/ people who are quick to judge anyway? 1 or 2 friends are all you need plus they'll be the ones who like you for you.

Answer 7

I love your honesty - Maybe your just more cautious than others - Which is a very good thing - You take friendship seriously and I think that is great - You will come out of your shell when the time is right -

Answer 8

The only way you'd really enjoy life is accepting the fact that you are just that. The way I see it, asking this question only means that you are questioning yourself. You're unsure if being yourself is the really answer. Only when you truly accept who you are and what you are capable of will other people accept who you really are.

Answer 9

In this case don't be yourself.

Change yourself (Socially).

But keep your common interest the same.

Answer 10

BEING YOURSELF means keeping the GOOD QUALITIES that you have and changing those that you think are UNDESIRABLE, and that includes LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE.