well i have this friend.
i seem to always seem to be hating her. and she'd be getting on my nerves alot. theres never a time that this doesnt happen. and if she were becoming friends with someone it'l make me depressed for some reason and then i'd feel i have to compete or someting/
i have a feeling this is jealousy but i'm thinking should i not be friends with her anymore because this is making mee sad.
i dont know how to act
2007-03-20 19:54:25 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You are right, you should not stay friends. She can be a jealous person, or maybe she's not, but the bottom line is that the feelings involved in your friendship is not clear and pure. Which means that you may not be able to give her fair, unbiased opinions when she needs it and the same goes for her.
In order to consider someone a friend you have to be comfortable around him/her, so trusting and so safe and secure, which is obviously not your case.
I had a friend like that once when I was younger, she always used to bring me down for some reason or another and it made me feel so bad bad I could not imagine my life without her either. When I was strong enough to accept no more of that attitude my life certainly changed to the better, I met real friends and I realized she was indeed jealous and that the tools she used to bring me down were all false and unfair.
2007-03-20 20:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best friend has lived in Orgeon for the passed ten years. With the time difference between Orgeon and Hawaii we don't talk as much as we would like too. But when we do talk it seem as if no time has passed between us. When either one of us is feeling down we'll call the other person for a picker upper. Sometime words are exchanged that we don't like to hear from the other person but we know that it's for the better. For the most part we make each other laugh and put a a smile on eacch others face. There's never a time when we dislike each other or get on each other nerves.
Like any relationship it takes two to make it work and to keep it strong. It's a two way street no matter what. There will be times that you'll hit a dump in the road then it's smooth again. If you encounter many bumps in an relationship then it's time to love them from a far. When you love someone from a far it means that you choose not to be in their lives on a daily bases. If they should need your help someday you'll be there for them. I'm sure if you love her from a far you'll be feeling a lot happier in life.
2007-03-21 03:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Wizard158 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, definitely jealousy.
Second, I don't think it's possible to hate a friend. That's just not how a friendship works. If you TRULY hate her, then you probably shouldn't be friends. But, if your relationship is just one of those where you guys argue a lot, well, actually maybe your friendship isn't going to work out for too much longer.
Sorry. I have never been in this situation before, so I might not be much help now. Good luck.
2007-03-21 03:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mailman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a friend to her, having jealousy doesn't equate in the friend does what list.
let her go, friendship is too about honesty.. and for both your sakes needs to be parted.. before someone gets major hurt..
How about until then, act decent.. respectful.. and tell her you don't seem to feel the same as you once did about the friendship, and don't want to hurt her, but , too know ending it won't seem comfortable but the best at this point to do.. wish her well and tell her you know she'll find other friends more appreciative of what she has to offer..
2007-03-21 03:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by miladyfaire 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is always on your nerves and you always seem to be hating her, you should stop being friends with her. It sounds like you are forcing yourself to be friends with her for some reason. Just stop hanging around with her, before the stress & negativity of the relationship take a toll on you. Hopefully, a new friend will come along that makes you happy! Good luck.
2007-03-21 03:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by puffstermama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont miss that friend!! Bcs u love her & u r always watching her, u can b her best frnd!
that thing happend to me when im 13. Now im 24. Now She is my Best friend!!
2007-03-21 03:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go and do want your heart tells you..
I am sure it will turn out to be good.
2007-03-21 03:18:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥★pinky★♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋