i have been friends with this girl for over 5 years, latley she has slept at mine and been watching girl porn whilst i have been on the pc she says tht men come up when i no they dont and also wen we mes about she touches me in places which i do not like and then carrys on as nothing happend she likes boys to and yesterday confronted me saying tht i think she is a lez, but i no shes not fully lez im jus worried if shes bi, it mite just be because of hormones as it seems to be that way we've people my age atm.
2007-03-20 19:33:18 · 16 answers · asked by kerryyyy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you can't tollerate Bi people, then just say "Bye-Bi"!!
2007-03-26 13:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a lot of girl friends that are bi, but what you learn is that there are different levels of it. Your friend might be bi to some people but to her she's just having a little bit of curiosity. Its no biggy and it all just depends on how you want look at it. She might not like sex with girls but she might like making out with them and grabbing thier boobs and thats it. like i said, there isn't any diffinative line that makes you bi, strait, or gay. It all fades into another by degree.
What you should do is bring it up with her, not all suddenly, but when the moments right. Make sure she feels comfortable with the conversation, at any time you feel her getting nervous or upset, just pull away with the questions a bit. Use a soft voice and the tone two epople use when they are telling personal secrets. Just make sure she feel like she can vent her feeling instead of feeling like she's under criticism. Most importantly, no matter what she tells you, its between the two of you! IF someone respects you enough to tell you a deep secret, then you have to respect them enough to keep the secret.
2007-03-26 15:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by That one dude. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend being bi is not the only issue.
You are concerned about her boundaries.
If she is touching you or anyone is touching you against your wishes this is wrong.
You have to call her on it.
Let her know that her sexual orientation does not bother you.
What bothers you is she is using your friendship as a testing ground.
This is out of bounds and as I stated early would be the same whether she was male or female.
You need to establish boundaries for yourself, you just might help your friend do the same.
2007-03-26 09:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by makeda m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let your Friend know you'll always be there as a Friend but there are some boundaries. For example, the touching is a hell to the naw. don't let her touch you. Just because your friend is bi doesn't mean you have to be friends with her or you can't be Friends with. Ask your self will you be more comfortable about her sexuality if you comfort her about the touching.
2007-03-28 04:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Aila126 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are scared for her then you must be very close minded. I suggest you try and be supportive of her decision. Her horemones are probably going crazy at the moment so she might not be a lesbian or bi or even straight.
If you dont like her touching you or watching your porn then tell her you're not comfortable with this behaviour.
Best regaurds.
xoxo :P
2007-03-20 20:01:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u just talk to her she is ur friend right and u talk about everything right so talk to her from ur heart and tell her what u think and make sure to tell her that u dont like to be touch in some ways be sure to tell her that u will be her friend no matter what if she is bi or lez or st8
2007-03-20 19:59:26 · answer #6 · answered by chance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok so lets just say she is... what would you do? Would it be the end of your friendship?? Just as long as she clearly understands that you are not bi or les things should be fine.
But it may just be hormones as you say, during teenage years hormones go crazy, dont worry about it too much, yet.
hope this helps!
2007-03-20 20:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel. If she's really your friend she'd understand and try to handle herself better around you. I also have a friend like tht and she's always groping me adn other classmates, touching our a$$ and chest, but she has a boyfriend and we know she's just playing. But yeah just tell her how you feel.
2007-03-27 07:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by meximari420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her, let her know that you dont mind her being bi, but let her know your not, lots of young people get confused, especially if theyve been treated bad by the opposite sex, yet she knows she has a good friend in you, speak to her, tell her if she needs to talk, your always there to listen. and good luck
2007-03-26 01:11:17 · answer #9 · answered by fay y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of in case you're relatively pals then you certainly might desire to be uncomplicated and merely say, "howdy, because of fact i think of of you as one in all my closest pals, i'll be uncomplicated... i for my area like spending time with you, and you're a reliable pal. yet i don't think of relationship might artwork, because of fact i hit upon my self extra fascinated in men." Then say the way you may save her secret or help her locate somebody or something.
2016-11-27 19:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats wrong with bi people??? they are human just like you and if you don't like her touching you just tell her that
2007-03-26 20:23:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋